My husband works at Huawei, with an annual salary of more than 600,000 yuan. When I went home for the Chinese New Year this year, after my husband got together with relatives and friends, three of them offered to borrow money. I was curious about why these relatives always borrowed money from him, and after inquiring, I learned that my mother-in-law would say that her son earned more than 1 million a year outside, how rich and excellent. I was furious when I heard this, even if I really have money, I can't afford so many people to borrow, and besides, there is not much money, this year has only started, maybe someone will speak again in the next few days. I asked my husband what he thought, to borrow or not to borrow? He felt that they were all uncles, cousins and the like, and he was not afraid that he would not look good when he went to meet relatives during the Spring Festival, and his mother-in-law also agreed to him to borrow money, and thought that his brother did not borrow much, 30,000 yuan, and it would be returned in a month.
I'm almost certain that it's going to be hard to get back if you borrow it. Because three years ago, my mother-in-law lent his brother 10,000 yuan, and now it seems that this incident has never happened, my mother-in-law has never asked for it, and my husband and his uncle have never mentioned it. I am very disgusted by people who open their mouths to borrow money after inquiring about your situation at the New Year's party, and the relatives who ask you to borrow money are often relatively close.
My husband and I are in a big city 996, getting up early and working late to earn wages. We have mortgages to pay and children to raise, so we usually save money. At the end of the year, I finally saved some money, and I had to lend money to others for the so-called face. What's even more speechless is that the reason for these people to borrow money is even more "disgusting", the child will get married next year and buy a house with enough money for a down payment; This year, I lost money in business, and I have no money for the New Year; There is even a person who loses money playing cards and borrows money thinking about repaying the principal in a few more rounds.
Your (his uncle's) son has no money to buy a house when he gets married, what does it matter to us, are we obliged to buy a house for your son?
His cousin) is not a business material at all, he has changed 5 industries for more than 3 years in his own business, his family has lost his deposits, his daughter-in-law has divorced, and he heard that his husband is mixing well outside, so he said a few compliments and began to borrow money from my husband. What's even funnier is that he also specifically searched for Huawei's dividend news, saying that this year's dividend is 77 billion, and my husband has at least distributed a few million, but my husband said that there are not so many, and he has not received it yet. He pouted and didn't believe it.
Playing cards and owing money this is a "famous" lazy food in the village, borrowing 1,000 yuan from my husband during the Spring Festival last year, and borrowing 2,000 yuan when we meet this year. I asked my husband to stay away from this person, and lending him money is equivalent to beating a dog with meat buns and never returning.
These people think that you work in a big city, only considering that your income is not low, and never counting the cost. The amount of money borrowed is not much, tens of thousands, thousands and hundreds, everyone has encountered the most difficult moment, pointing to my husband "Jianghu emergency", what can I do, can I not borrow? They are all the closest people. I really can't figure out why we pay for them when we work diligently, just because we have a high salary and a little money in our hands. In addition, she was helpless against her mother-in-law, she couldn't help her buy a house or anything, and boasted to outsiders that her children were rich, nominally so that others could afford it, but in fact she harmed her son.
I don't think I'm an iron rooster, and he has the right to use the money my husband earns, but I don't think these people are trustworthy. Although his salary is not low, it is all earned by staying up late in overtime. In the two years that my husband has been working at Huawei, the two most common sentences on WeChat are "what time do you get off work" and "do you get off work".
It's been a hard time for us to come this way. When we got married in 2018, he officially joined Huawei. Since then, he has been very busy with his work, and of course my work has not been easy. In the second half of 2020, my daughter was born in Shenzhen, and I strongly asked him to take leave to accompany the birth, but he did not come back because he had a project in another province; I broke the water at 12 o'clock in the morning one day, called 120 by myself, signed the cesarean section operation order by myself, and paid the hospitalization fee by lying on the hospital bed.....He wasn't around. At the end of the same year, he was sent to Shenzhen, and my mother and I were in Shenzhen with a few months of baby. A woman at work and an elderly mother with a baby less than a year old can know how difficult it is. He is also very tired, and the men at Huawei work really hard. The child's father returned to China for vacation, and he was tired and bald from all kinds of meetings.
I know that this money is not easy to come by, so I cherish it and will not spend it indiscriminately. This time I went home for the Chinese New Year and my relatives borrowed money, which really made me angry.
Author: Lisa. Editor: Siqi.