In this era, there are still people who make 5 unequal family rules, which is unacceptable to many women. If it were you in the situation described in the article, would you choose to divorce? Thinking about the unfair treatment suffered on the night of the wedding, is it necessary to continue to live the days ahead? In fact, the woman opted for divorce.
I hope this case will attract everyone's attention. In times of peace, everyone should be equal, and there is no need to make those unequal family rules. Such an act would only destroy all hope for oneself, and such a tragedy should not happen again. What's going on here? Why is this happening? Let's find out. The husband's bad house rules caused the bride to file for divorce by spending candles in the cave room.
Ms. Chen, 28 years old:
A lot of people think that I shouldn't get divorced easily. After all, it's only been the second day of marriage, and no matter what happens, you should at least respect the law, after all, it's only been a day since you got your license. Divorce means a second marriage, and it may be more difficult to find a partner in the future.
For my own sake, and more importantly, for the sake of my upcoming children, I should not choose divorce lightly. I want to say that I don't want a divorce, in fact I don't have a choice. Let me elaborate on this situation, and I hope you can understand and give some advice. If it were you, how would you respond? I am a celebrity in Mao, Guangdong, and I married in Huazhou.
Huazhou is a relatively remote place, and it takes more than three hours to drive home from Huazhou Station, and then it takes more than an hour to get a motorcycle. Overall, it's relatively remote. I don't mind the poverty there, because I marry for love, not for money. When we got married, we didn't set the wine.
The bride price given is not much, and the bride price of other families is hundreds of thousands, at least 100,000. And I only received 30,000 yuan in bride price money for marriage. On the contrary, it was my parents who brought 100,000 yuan over. Of course, it's not all cash, which also includes some gold and silver jewelry. I heard my mother say that there were some things that my grandmother left me, and I guess she was the last thing she gave me.
I thought that I would live a happy life if I married love, but I didn't expect to regret it on the night of marriage. To be precise, I regret marrying him. I chose to marry Love, but how did he treat me? On the night of the wedding, my mother-in-law came over and told me that since you are married to my son, then we are a family.
Let me tell you about the five rules of our family. In the future, you have to obey, and if you don't, don't blame me for being ruthless. If you find it hard to accept, that's how I've been here before. Also, your husband agrees with this rule. A family can't live without rules, how can it live without rules.
In the future, if you act according to these 5 rules, everyone will be able to get along safely, do you see that I have a good life with your father-in-law? Isn't it because we have these rules in our family? So, you have to follow these rules in the future. I looked at my husband aggrieved and hoped he would say a few words for me. No matter what the rules are, there will be certain restrictions on my freedom.
My husband told me that it was okay, just be obedient. That's how my mother came over, and the rule has always been there. That's how my grandmother came over. I was speechless and wanted to refute, but they didn't give me a chance at all. Then the mother-in-law said the five rules.
The first family rules, marry from the husband, no husband from the son, no child from the mother-in-law.
This means that after marriage, you must obey your husband. If the husband is not at home, then obey the son. If my son is not at home, then I have to listen to my mother-in-law, that is to say, to me. Isn't it for the good of the family that I'm doing this? One of the three of us must be at home.
As long as you follow our wishes, we won't get angry. Everyone is kind, and if you don't listen to us, then we will be angry. If we get angry, there may be an argument and even some punishment. You don't want that to happen. Don't talk about you, even I don't want to do this myself, so I can only restrain you through rules. As long as you listen to us in everything, everything will go smoothly.
It's all for our family, but also for your own good. Therefore, you must obey me, just one word, just obey us, and you will do whatever we want you to do. But I can assure you that we won't be too harsh and will never let you do anything that hurts you too much. You can rest assured of these. For the sake of our family, for you, and for everyone, you have to do this, you have to follow this rule.
The second family rule, get up at 5:30 every day to cook breakfast for everyone.
Everyone needs to have breakfast. There's no way I'm going to get up and cook breakfast, right? After that, let the daughter-in-law get up and make breakfast. That's how I've been here before. The most important meal of the day is breakfast. To make a meal, you have to make a good meal. And after breakfast, I'm going out ballroom dancing. You're an office worker, so you have to get up at 5:30 to cook breakfast. We'll know we're up when you've made breakfast.
Don't feel that this is very difficult, just get used to it slowly, go to bed early and get up early, you can go to bed at 9 o'clock at night, you can go to bed at 9 o'clock, and you can get up at 5 o'clock on the second day. I've been here this way before, and I've been doing this for decades, and now I can finally get rid of it, and I'll leave it to you. In the future, when you have a daughter-in-law, you just tell your daughter-in-law that you can do it, and now it's your turn to do it, and what I should do has been done.
Thirdly, you will have nothing to do with your parents in the future.
When you get married, you are part of our family. Don't talk about you, that's how I used to be. If you are with my son, you will be part of our family, born as a member of our family, and die as a ghost of our family.
Don't think about your parents, you have nothing to do with them. Since you don't have a relationship anymore, you can't help them if they need your help in the future. If you don't want to help, let us know and wait until we agree.
If we don't agree, don't help. You have to remember that you are at our disposal and that you have no relationship with your parents. Have your parents ever told you that a married daughter is the water that is spilled, and to your parents you are the water that is spilled? Your parents don't have anything to do with you anymore.
You have a relationship with us, you are part of this family, so you have to be responsible for this family. I'm doing this for your own good, many women will secretly help their mother's family, harming their own interests. Why bother to help others?As far as you're concerned, your parents have nothing to do with you for a long time, so you don't need to care so much, just live with our family. It's also a reminder of your rules, a constraint that doesn't allow you to do so.
Fourth, the family rules that all the money must be handed over to me for safekeeping in the future.
Even my son's money is entrusted to me for safekeeping, let alone you. You are already a member of our family, my son's wife, my daughter-in-law. In the future, the money will be handed over to me for safekeeping, which is not only responsible for me, but also responsible for this family. Money is far more secure with me than with you. Young people spend money quickly, but money is more secure with me. Of course, if you need to spend money, you have to let me know in advance.
When I agree, I'll give you money to use. If I don't agree, then you won't get the money, and I'm doing this to control how much you spend. Although the money is earned by you, I am the backbone of this family when I keep it. Even if you have objections to this arrangement, you have to accept that I am the backbone of this family, and my words are orders. I've come over like this myself, no matter how difficult it is, I've survived it, as long as you persevere, you'll get used to it slowly. Money is such a thing, if you have it, you think about how to spend it, and if you don't have it, you won't think about it. You are a part of this family, and you must always think about this family. Although it may be difficult at first, you will gradually get used to it, and this arrangement will deepen the bond between you as a couple.
Fifth, the family rules, in the future, everything in the family will be left to you to do.
As a woman, you should take on more housework responsibilities. After all, you are a woman, and the trivial matters at home should be handled by you. It's not that I expect this from you, other men treat their wives like this, and it is the woman's responsibility to do all the housework. If you didn't do it, who else could it be?Do you want me to do it?
I can't do it, after all, you are my wife, and housework should be your business. Whether it's housework or something else, it's up to you to take care of it, and you don't have to feel wronged. What I want to say is that women come over like this, for example, my grandparents used to do the housework by my grandmother; It was the same in my parents' time, and my mother was in charge of everything alone. It is still the case today, and it all falls on your shoulders alone.
Of course, you are in charge of the household alone, and I will not do nothing. At least when I have time, I will accompany you and care for you, you are my wife, if you don't help me with these things, who else can I count on? What's the point of me being with you if you don't give everything for me and take care of everything for me? We are together to give to each other, you need to do everything for me, I will repay you when I have time, after all, you are my wife, I will not let other women take your place.
These are our five family rules, and you must follow them in the future. If you break the rules, don't blame me for being rude, and you will be punished for every foul offense. I'm not going to do it myself, I'm going to let your husband handle it. If you don't want to be beaten, just follow the rules. As long as you follow the rules, we will never make things difficult for you.
I looked at my husband again with pitiful eyes, hoping that he would say a word for me. However, he told me that although you are pitiful, it is useless to look at it, because my mother has also experienced it in this way. There's no way he could make me an exception.
So, you'll have to follow these rules in the future. But if you follow the rules, you'll be fine. You just have to follow the rules, and that's it. So be it. I didn't expect my husband to ignore my situation. Don't we even have basic human rights? Forget it, I don't want to say anything more.
I stood up and said to them, "It's a rule, and I'm not going to follow it." Whoever wants to obey them is whatever they want. My mother-in-law was angry when she heard me say this and asked me if I wanted to resist. I responded to my mother-in-law and said, get out, divorce. After saying this, I left without looking back, and even though I was pregnant, I still chose to divorce. Do you think you should get a divorce on this question?
It is really helpless to face this situation, and if I were the party, I would not hesitate to choose divorce. To be honest, your husband doesn't seem to really love you, otherwise he wouldn't be so mean to you. In his mind, it seems that the only way to force you to submit is by imposing these 5 house rules.
In fact, this is a form of bullying. Such a situation must be resolutely rejected. Once you compromise, the pain in the future will be endless. He can do the same to you today and to your parents in the future. Therefore, for the sake of the so-called true love, there is no need for you to continue to be with Him, because there will be no real happiness there.
Therefore, choosing divorce is the right decision. If it were me, I would definitely choose to divorce too. I hope this case can remind all women to be cautious when choosing a partner, and never have a deep relationship with such a person, otherwise the future regret will be 100% yours, even if you have to pay the price of killing the child, you can't be with these men.
At the same time, I hope this case will serve as a reminder to all men. What age is it now, and why do you treat your wife so badly? This kind of behavior is destined to lead to tragedy, and when the time comes, don't blame your wife for choosing to divorce, blame yourself, because you are too much, understand?