In the TV series "The Right Way to Live", there is a scene that moves the audience. Fu Xintong, a full-time housewife, paid 1 million yen in advance for her son to study abroad, but ran into trouble. **
After her husband Bian Liang learned that his wife was deceived, he did not blame her, but comforted her: "Don't take this problem seriously, just take it as a loss of **." You don't have to worry about your mortgage, your son's tuition and whatever, it's all mine. ”
This scene shows the huge role that emotional values can play in marriage. Psychologist Robin Beman points out that the level of emotional value in a relationship directly affects the quality of marriage.
I saw some netizens sharing their trips on Weibo. I went on a trip with my family. Due to problems with the child's documents, the mother abandoned her original travel plans. Since we had checked in, the rest of the family's luggage was also returned. Mother's name.
However, instead of getting caught up in complaints and blame, the family chose to solve the problem first and deliver the luggage to the destination, while the other families continued to happily complete the trip.
Pointing fingers when problems arise does not solve the dilemma, but rather exacerbates the conflict. The key to a happy marriage is not the absence of contradictions, but the wisdom of both spouses to understand and tolerate each other.
Partners with high emotional value don't complain when they have problems. Although Ba Jing and Xiaoxiang's marriage has had ups and downs, they have never really quarreled. Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu have spent a long married life in mutual tolerance and understanding.
Luo Jinyue, a psychological counselor, said, "All comfortable marriages have enough emotional value, but all bad marriages must lack emotional value." "Emotional communication and understanding are the most valuable things in a marriage, and wealth is also a self-evident code to maintain a happy marriage.
In marriage, there should be less blame, more tolerance, more understanding, and more encouragement. Only in this way, as Balzac said, can the relationship develop from mutual knowledge and understanding, mutual tolerance and respect. Maintain a happy relationship and get married. On the road to marriage, spiritual investment is always more important than material, and spending the ups and downs of life together is the true meaning of a happy marriage.
These stories teach us that emotional communication is important in marriage. Only with enough tolerance and understanding can the tacit understanding between husband and wife be reflected in the ups and downs of life, and can they face the ups and downs of life together.
The so-called good marriage is not to quarrel, but to be able to understand, tolerate and grow together after quarrels. This requires both parties in the marriage to have a high level of emotional intelligence and wisdom in order to successfully cope with various challenges.
On the long road of marriage, we learn from these wise couples to not only remain calm in the face of problems, but also to maintain emotional warmth, and work together to build a broad and deep relationship that makes marriage a mellow wine. Do something similar: as the years go by, the aroma grows more mellow.