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There is a blogger's best friend who is divorced, and their child is just a year old, which makes people feel a little emotional, so with the help of this blogger's shared story to warn everyone,I hope more people can take control of their marriage!
Even if it seems to you to be nonsense, if it can cause some friends to think about marriage before marriage, then it is half the battle.
Everyone's attitude towards marriage is different, just find someone to live with, find a random woman to help you have children, find someone who doesn't charge money overnight, these so-called "marriages" are not in the scope of discussion.
Today I want to talk about high-quality marriage, everyone's understanding is different, but in my opinion, there are many states of marriage, but the most comfortable marriage must be love, at this time some people will say, love it has a shelf life. Dear owners, the one with the expiration date is not called love, that is called passion.
There are too many things mixed with passion, sexual desire, guilt, emotion, longing, etc., such an emotional lack is difficult to last, not to mention that passion is often carefully cared for. Once the power of pampering is lost, then the color fades too quickly.
When it comes to falling in love, passion is the best tool. However, when it comes to marriage,Both men and women must be clear about their mindsRemoving the element of passion, this thought process is very important.
There is no turning back in marriage, don't think that you can get a divorce if it's a big deal, divorce is not a relief, it is the beginning of a trouble. How to determine whether you love a woman or not, this is a very crucial step, I can say with certainty, very few men can be clear about this issue, a man's biological nature determines his choice of women,A big factor is because of appearance.
But marriage is *** nature,From the perspective of evolutionary psychology, men's physiological nature is, to put it bluntly, to inherit their genes with guaranteed quality, such as socializing with as many women as possible, choosing more beautiful genes and better women.
And marriage is just the opposite, a man can only choose one woman, and what you should know is that the beauty in front of you who is about to marry you will have a child in a few years, her figure will be out of shape, she will be dark, there will be wrinkles at the corners of her eyes, and what is more terrifying is the man's physiological naturedecided that he would get tired of being with the same woman for a long time.
So a marriage without love is the most dangerous, because there is no belief in overcoming physical desires, a real man should never swear before marriage that he is not the kind of person who is in the twilight, the group of people born in the sixties and seventies, the moral concept is heavier than ours, and the wife is still the wife of the chaff who shares the suffering, and does not cheat in large quantities?
Therefore, under the monogamous system, the foundation of marriage that can be guaranteed still depends on love. And those other so-called moral constraints, legal constraints, are all fragile under the pull of human instinct. When each of us got a marriage license, we never thought that one day we would go to get a divorce certificateIt's a pity that more and more people are getting divorced now.
According to statistics, the divorce rate of the post-80s generation has reached 40%, and men only have to control their sexual desireTouched and other factors are all left behind,can truly realize whether your feelings for a woman are because of love.
It is true that love cannot solve all problems, but love can give men the motivation to solve problems, and there are many troubles in marriage without motivation, and marriage is purely responsible for menOnly when you have the determination to take responsibility can you dare to talk about marriage. Therefore, when you get married, you must find someone you love, and the rest of your life is all about the family.
It would be too tragic if the other party was not the one you loved. There is also a point, not that there is no common language, but that there is no communication and unwillingness to communicate. If a man is a reasonable person, and a woman is a reasonable person.
Women like to nag, and men just have to listen to it, in short, two people must have a mutually acceptable procedureIt's better to be receptive.
In fact, this one is not a problem at all for people who really love each other, because people who really love each otherAlways think from the other person's point of view.
If you are full of water, you can only drink one mealDrinking water will kill you.
So through the zodiac signs of the Doushu astrolabe, which people have high-quality marriages, and which people's marital relationship quality is worrying? Next, let's talk with Mr. Yuanguan!
Wuqu greedy wolf husband and wife palace is ugly
Early marriage has many twists and turns
For men, the wife has a strong personality, will be of medium stature, independent, good at housework, early marriage has more twists and turns, the marriage is not happy, and the man has the possibility of two wives.
People born in the year of the Lunar New Year (the mantissa of the birth year is 3) Qingyang and Wu Greed are in the same palace, indicating that the husband and wife are not often together, and the wife has a strong personality, because of the reason why the natal palace is seated in the sky.
Wuqu Tianxiang Yin Shen is in the palace of husband and wife
Each thinks about it, and there is a good chance of living like a partner
Wu Qutian sat in Yin Shen in the conjugal palace, and the lord and his spouse thought about each other.
Because of the seven kills in the natal seat, the life master has a strong personality, and the martial minister sits in the husband and wife palace, and the spouse has a strong personality, so they don't give in to each other.
I don't like Mars Wuqu in the same palace the most (because Wuqu Mars is a golden fire, a widow, and a widow who is ready to be lonely).
Martial arts kill Mao You in the palace of husband and wife
Easy separation
The old age of the owner is not good, because of (borrowing) honesty and greed, it is easy to separate easily from the other half.
"Mao" Palace: Women kill the husband and wife palace, move the palace to be honest and greedy, and then there will be a lot of trouble, and the main husband will die due to disasters or open the knife.
In particular, the martial arts killing plus the sheep and the white tiger have been fulfilled every time. There will be a high rate of second marriages.
Martial arts are killed in the conjugal palace, and the other party has a strange temperament, and often has scars on the face.
"You" Palace: Martial Killing Husband and Wife Palace, Lu Cun, left and right, men and wives are restless, and there will be affairs.
Wu Qu Chenxu is in the palace of husband and wife
The relationship is not very good
Wu Quxing sat in the palace of the husband and wife, and the spouse of the master had a high-pitched voice, a strong body, a resolute personality, and was very capable.
The woman's husband has a career development; But the feelings are not very good; Huilucun, Changqu, and Kuiyue men can get rich because of their wives; There will be four killings, robberies, and many quarrels.
Wuqu Pojun is in the palace of husband and wife
Married at the behest of their parents
Wu Qu Pojun sat in the palace of the husband and wife, indicating that the master of the order had the possibility of obeying his parents' arrangements for marriage.
"巳宫": The man's wife is good at housework, the two have a better family life, and the wife is beautiful and dignified, and more rational. Because of Tianfu's fate, the husband and wife palace is not afraid of Dhara, but they are afraid of fire bells, and they are afraid of divorce when they meet, and if there is no Mars bell star, they are afraid of peach blossoms.
Hai Gong "Wu Po: not tall, average appearance, will be auspicious and the husband and wife will be harmonious, and will Lucun may marry again (because of the Yang Tuo clip star, only need to add a fire bell to break).
Lian Zhen is in the conjugal palace
Marriage is not good
Lian Zhen is in the conjugal palace, and women will not be husband stars and peach blossom stars, but they can be innocent and self-controlled.
A man's marriage is not good, but his life with his spouse is more ordinary, not considerate enough, but capable. If Lian Zhen and Wenqu Tianyao are in the same palace, it is more likely that there will be a peachy incident.
Lian Zhen sits in the conjugal palace at the meridian
It is better to marry later
Lian Zhen sits in the meridian palace of the husband and wife, if the marriage in the meridian palace is happy, it is better to marry later.
The spouse has a strong personality and belongs to those in power, with a round face, a medium build, and a soft personality on the outside and strong on the inside.
Lian Zhen seven kills sit in the husband and wife palace in the ugly future
Early marriage is not advisable
Lian Zhen Seven Kills sits in the husband and wife palace in the Chouwei Palace (the life palace has no master star).
It is not advisable for the lord to marry early, and early marriage is afraid of the second time. There are twists and turns in marriage, and there is the possibility of remarrying.
Women will be sheep or jealous, there may be divorce proceedings, and the personality is strong. Huichangqu, there are improper feelings. will not marry later.
Wei Gong: Xiongsu Chaoyuan Ge, less likely to have emotional troubles.
Lian Zhen sat in the husband and wife palace in Yinshen
Male spouse
The family background is not good
Lian Zhenyin Shen is in the conjugal palace, the man's wife is delicate, has a good demeanor, can help her husband, is virtuous, and generally does not quarrel.
Or the same palace is very good, at least the male wives of the Yin palace have a more impatient personality.
Lian Zhen broke the army and sat in the palace of the husband and wife
Possible separation
Lian Zhen broke the army and the couple's palace, if you see the evil star, there must be a problem, and it is better not to see it; It would be better in Unomiya.
Yougong Lianpo is the most unlucky, and it is in vain to rekindle Zuo Fulu to solve it, if you don't divorce, at least you will be divided.
Lian Zhen Tianfu sits in the husband and wife palace in Chenxu
Virtuous help
Lian Zhen Tianfu is in Chenxu in the husband and wife palace, and the lord speaks wittily, virtuous and helpful, and has good children.
The honest and greedy wolf sits in the palace of the husband and wife
The main star of the husband and wife palace falls in the physiognomy palace, and the other party's recognition of you is still not enough, or the surface is very harmonious, and the actual relationship is warm and coldPeach blossom stars falling in this position are not easy to bear fruit.
Heaven is in the conjugal palace
Good feelings
Tiantong is in the conjugal palace, regardless of whether there are many men and women, the main behavior is steady, amiable, rectangular face, medium and tall figure, and a blessed face.
Men and wives are fatter, virtuous, intelligent, and standard virtuous; The appearance is not very outstanding, but delicate.
The woman's husband is docile, and the husband and wife have a good relationship. Lu Cun is in the same palace, and you can get rich together. There is a bad star and there is no harmony: life and death may happen.
Tiantong Taiyin sits in the conjugal palace at the meridian
The spouse is handsome
Tiantong Taiyin Husband and Wife Palace is in the Meridian Palace:
Zi "Palace: The spouse is relatively handsome (the combination of the golden boy and the girl); The opposite sex is very good, and the man's wife has a docile temperament and good manners.
The woman's husband has an impatient personality and gets fat after middle age.
Noon" Palace: Posture, medium stature, man's wife is fat (after the age of thirty will be fat), the afternoon palace is the same as the Taiyin does not like Lu Cun in the same palace, because there is a sheep tuo clip, the woman is afraid of discord with her in-laws.
Tiantong Giant Gate sits in the conjugal palace in Chouwei
It's better to marry later
Tiantong Jumen is in the husband and wife palace in the Chouwei Palace, and the giant gate is six relatives, because the giant gate (Beidou) lord got married in the first half of his life, and the marriage must not be happy (absolutely).
The lord of life looks ordinary, and it is good to marry later. A man's wife understands things and is very virtuous, and he can be quite amiable when he marries later.
The wife of the man in Jiayangtuo has poor eyesight and does not have many children. The star represents divorce, and most of them remarry.
Tiantong Tianliang and his wife are in Yinshen
The woman's husband is docile
Tiantong Tianliang and his wife are in Yinshen Palace, the man's wife is very good-looking, beautiful, virtuous, docile and clever, rectangular face, fair-skinned, medium figure, slightly fat.
Lu Cun Tonggong is not afraid of sheep and tops, nor is he afraid of evil stars. The woman's husband is docile and steady.
The woman's day is not good with the sky beam (the sun in the life palace, there is a peach blossom star coming in) is not happy. Without adding peach blossoms, the sun in the sun indicates that the relationship is complicated, and due to its own reasons, the husband and wife do not know.
The woman is in the Yin Palace, there is no positive star in the palace, and the palace is the same as the heavenly beam, and the main marriage has many twists and turns, such as Huichangqu may marry a divorced person.
The sky is the same as the conjugal palace
It is better to marry later
Tiantong Mao You is in the husband and wife palace, which means that the man's wife has a strong body, good looks, white and red, looks very good, likes to travel, and has a wide range of hobbies. It is better to marry later
Early marriage may have a high chance of separation for a while.
The woman is in the conjugal palace with the mother: especially the natal palace in Si, there is a period of separation, or divorce.
Tiantongchen is in the palace of husband and wife
It is better to get married after the age of the year
Tiantong Chenxu is in the husband and wife palace, Tiantong is a lucky star, it is not suitable to fall into a snare, there is a storm in early marriage, the palace is a giant gate, and it is possible to live and die.
Men and women can get married around the age of 30 without twists and turns.
Men are better, but there will be emotional turmoil. A woman will enter a second marriage, because the sun in the natal house is set, or she will marry another husband.
Tiantong Sihai is in the conjugal palace
Spouse flowers
Tiantong Sihai is in the husband and wife palace, "Si" palace: there will be many peach blossom stars, the spouse will be a little more attentive, the man and wife are beautiful, and the white is translucent red.
Hai Gong: The man's wife has a melon seed face, slightly chubby (after middle age). Si and Hai's personalities are changeable, and they can't grow old together (because of their natal sitting).
Women are not good, Lu Cun Tonggong (Yang Tuojia) plus Wenqu, Tianyao, Xianchi, Hongluan, uneasy in the room.
Tianfu is in the palace of husband and wife
Happily married
Tianfu is in the palace of husband and wife, because Tianfu is the star of the order, indicating that the spouse is independent. Good at housework.
The spouse is a virtuous helper, can keep money, has private money, has many children, is stable, soft on the outside and rigid on the inside, will be fat, and the man's wife has the appearance of a noblewoman.
Ugly is not in the conjugal palace (not more than ugly).
Spouse of medium stature
The ugly is not in the conjugal palace (not more than the ugly auspicious), the spouse is of medium stature, full, blessed in his old age, soft on the outside and rigid on the inside. will be evil, and the man's wife has an eccentric temper.
Classmate, have you gotten a high-quality marriage? What's wrong with your feelings?