Let's start with a story like this:
One day, ** hurried to the philosopher's house:"I'm going to tell you a piece of news......"At this point, the philosopher interrupted him and asked:"Has the message you told me been sifted through three sieves? "**Rhetorical question:"What is a sieve? "
At this time, the philosopher said:"The first sieve is real, is it real? "
*Answer:"Not sure, I'm a hearsay ......"
And the philosopher said:"Now, you use a second sieve, is the news well-intentioned? "
* said embarrassedly"No, it's ...... the opposite"
The philosopher interrupted him again"So, you use a third sieve, is it important? "
* Say without confidence:"It doesn't matter. "
The philosopher said:"Since the so-called news is neither true, nor benevolent, nor important, then don't say it! If you say that, it will only cause trouble for the two of us.
In life, in the process of interacting with people, we often make people forget one sentence for a long time, causing people's emotional good and bad reactions. It's not the knife that really hurts people in the world, it's something more powerful than the knife – language.
There is only one word to hurt people, and only one pill of poison is needed.
Authenticity is the basis of speaking. Everything we say should be true, without exaggerating or distorting the facts. If we don't understand something or have questions, we should check the information first to make sure that what we say is accurate and not what we hear.
If we have an opinion or dissatisfaction with someone, we should also be honest with them, instead of speaking ill of them behind our backs.
Only true words can be convincing and build good interpersonal relationships.
When communicating with people, we should be careful with our words and tone to avoid hurting the feelings of others. We should respect the feelings of others and express our thoughts and opinions in a calm and friendly manner. At the same time, we should also pay attention to the occasion and timing, and avoid making remarks in public or at inappropriate times, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble. Speaking appropriately not only makes people feel respected, but also earns the trust and favor of others.
Meaning is the value of speaking. Everything we say should have a purpose and meaning, not meaningless chit-chat or complaining. We should pay attention to whether what we say is beneficial to others, whether it can convey positive energy or solve problems. If our words are meaningful if they inspire people or help others improve their lives. Meaningful words can not only make people feel valuable, but also improve our own self-cultivation and quality.
In life, we should say more kind words when we meet people. People who know how to show mercy always leave three points of leeway for others, this is the real practice.
Don't talk nonsense about other people's things, say things you don't think you like, and don't say things that hurt people if you can't say them.
The gentleman is cautious, and the noble man is late.
Encourage you!