Whether a person can change his fate or not depends on his cognitive level, and the cognitive level depends on his way of thinking.
A lot of life's suffering stems from ignorance of one's own cognitive level.
Those who want to change their destiny are often because they want to get more, so they will continue to learn and accumulate.
But what is the premise of learning and accumulation?
It is to recognize yourself first, and then you can change.
Just like Wang Yangming said: "It is easy to break the mountain, but it is difficult to break the heart."
Everyone has their own demons and heart barriers, and if you can't fix the problem before it arises, then the problem will be exposed to you sooner or later.
Therefore, if you want to change your fate, you must first recognize yourself, and then fundamentally solve the obstacles and demons in your heart.
When you know yourself well enough, you can break free from the underlying relationship and find a real way out.
Only by recognizing oneself can we change our fate
In this life, the most difficult thing for people to recognize is actually themselves.
Because each of us has one of our greatest weaknesses: always treating others as our own.
It is also because we care too much about other people's opinions, so we will lose ourselves in life and be restrained and constrained by others everywhere.
If you want to change your fate, then you must first recognize yourself and understand yourself.
Only when you understand yourself can you make the right choice when you encounter problems, and you can also have enough confidence to face difficulties and setbacks.
When you can recognize yourself, you will not be easily carried away by others, and you will no longer let others lead you by the nose.
Only if you are in control of your own destiny can you truly have freedom and dignity.
Life is a self-cultivation, and only when you know yourself well enough can you see what others can't see.
Only when you know yourself well enough can you break through the barriers and cages in life.
Only when you know yourself well enough will you know that the real way out lies in**.
Let go and live your life
You have to remember that the reason why you struggle with the underlying relationship is because you want to live your life.
Although many times, we all hope that our face will be recognized by others, but a person's face is earned by ourselves.
If a person does not have his own opinions, and is always led by the nose by others, then he will never be able to live his own life.
If you want to change your fate, you have to let go of your face. The more you care about what others think, the more unhappy you will be.
In fact, there is no right or wrong in this world, the only thing you need to do is to be yourself.
Many times, we are tired because we want to prove to others that we are right.
But a truly intelligent person does not make himself unhappy because others are prejudiced against him. Instead, they use these biases as a motivator to spur them on.
If a person wants to be better, he must learn to let go of his bottom line and live his life.
Instead of pleasing others, please yourself
There's a saying, "Never humble yourself in order to please others." ”
In real life, many people are always willing to give everything they have in order to please others. But if a person wants to change his destiny, he must put himself first.
A lot of times, pleasing others doesn't get you what you want. Instead, you will only be looked down upon by others, and you will lose the people and things that are really important to you.
So while pleasing others, you must also know how to please yourself. When you put yourself first, you have a better grasp of your life.
Sometimes, we really want to do something, but we are afraid that others will say that we can't do it, so we choose to give up.
But have you ever wondered? Many times you give up just a small thing, and the really important things are never overlooked.
You can only live this life well when you truly learn to love yourself, recognize yourself, and appreciate yourself.