After retirement, you must learn to subtract from your life and streamline your social circle, many people don't know!
There is a saying that "if people are not ruthless, they cannot stand firmly." ”
Being too soft-hearted, it is yourself who suffers in the end, and people survive in society, even if you can't be a wolf, don't be a sheep that is eaten.
After retiring, you have already seen the hearts of the world, if you want to be happy, you must be ruthless when you should be ruthless, otherwise all kinds of villains and disasters will find you. February** Dynamic Incentive Program
After retirement, you must learn to subtract from your life and streamline your social circle
01. Most of the "old acquaintances" who frequently come to you for dinner and give you gifts have a picture and must see it clearly.
Most people, after retirement, both the value of contacts and resources will decline, and they will experience the sadness of people going to tea.
In fact, when many people just retired, the social value still exists, and they still have some face in some departments, at least they can hand over the words and have a familiar face.
Therefore, after retirement, many people will be rehired by the unit to give them an idle position, which is actually to maintain some social relations and do things easily.
There are many people who retire, and the people they have cultivated and promoted will still remember your kindness, for example, some relatives will come to the door to give gifts and hope that you will help your children solve work problems, and they may find you.
Many years ago, in a unit where I worked, there was an old colleague who was very kind and gentle, and was rehired by the company, and his original unit was the jurisdiction of the company's business.
Let that old colleague come to the company to work in order to turn around in the superior jurisdictional units, move around various relationships, obtain resource customers, obtain qualifications, etc.
In fact, looking at the situation of that old colleague is not as good as he imagined, everything that comes into his hands is not easy to do, and he needs to come forward to handle the things that need to be begged for side-kicks.
The reason why he came to the company was because one of the leaders of the company was an "old acquaintance" who used to give him gifts and errands, but after he came, he was very different from the original unit, he needed to follow the entertainment, need to explain, need to please, and do tricky things well.
People, after retirement, it is best to clean up the relationship that was maintained because of interests, from interests, and then return to interests, decisively give up, and refuse all goodwill, otherwise it is yourself who will suffer in the end.
02. "Relatives who worship high and low" who only value interests will inevitably calculate you secretly, and they must be sober.
Relatives, in the traditional concept, are in addition to your parents, the relatives in this world who are related to you and the deceased, you should try your best to help when you are in trouble, and you should walk around each other during the New Year's holidays, and you will always maintain a family relationship.
However, in today's world, materialism is rampant, chasing fame and fortune, money is greater than everything, as long as it is profitable, it doesn't matter whether it is family affection or not, whether you are shameless or not, it will still trap you.
There is a relative in his hometown, he only has one sister, when he was young, he was just a skilled worker in a state-owned enterprise, although the salary was stable, but the salary was not high, and his life was not rich.
And his sister married a wealthy family in the county at that time because she was beautiful, and he treated his sister's family as relatives, and took grand gifts to relatives every year.
However, his brother-in-law has always looked down on him, thinking him poor, and always afraid that he would borrow money from him, and even his nephew took him as his own uncle in his eyes.
Later, the brother-in-law's family made a mistake in their business, the family was down, and the nephew developed the habit of being lazy and lazy as a rich second generation since he was a child, and when he grew up, he didn't study well or work hard, so he married his daughter-in-law and divorced.
My brother-in-law and sister, who are still working for their son when they are old, run a small convenience store supermarket, and stay up until 11 o'clock every day before closing.
Later, he became a leader, and since then, his brother-in-law's family has come to visit him at home every once in a while.
Many times I wanted him to arrange a job for his nephew in the factory, but he couldn't stand his sister's repeated requests, so he helped to lay a thread.
However, in the end, the nephew complained that he had found someone who had less money and lived more, and he didn't care at all.
The nephew also sarcastically arranged him everywhere, which caused many people in his hometown to gossip, some people said that he was ruthless, and some people said that he looked down on poor relatives when he was developed.
It made him mouth all over his body, and he couldn't explain the reason.
"Zengguang Xianwen" has a saying: "Tie a high-headed horse in front of the door, not a pro is also a pro." A begging stick was placed in front of the door, and relatives and old friends did not come to the door. ”
Some relatives only value interests and ignore family affection, such relatives should be careful, and refuse when they should refuse, otherwise they will be in trouble in the end.
03. Most of the "people around you" who like to make things happen and make you very uncomfortable are here to consume you, so stay away.
I remember reading a story about a man who often felt depressed and thought he had depression.
The doctor prescribed him a prescription: find a friend who has a good time every day and visit him once in the morning, noon and evening.
He did so suspiciously, and after half a year, the "symptoms" disappeared.
He was full of doubts, and the doctor explained with a smile: "If you want to be happy, you have to be with interesting people." There is no medicine more effective than the benign effects of a friend. ”
As Mo Yan said: "People should be with comfortable people in this life, including friends and relatives, and when they feel tired, they should stay away, and it is far better to please others than to cultivate themselves, and they would rather be arrogant and lonely than go against their hearts." ”
After retirement, people should know how to give up spiritually, talk less, ask less, listen less, watch less, do not pander, do not please.
Angry neighbors are polite, relatives who like to make trouble don't come and go, fox friends don't join in the fun, and all kinds of strange passers-by and vendors don't talk nonsense.
The ancients said: "The friendship of a gentleman is as light as water, and the friendship of a villain is sweet." ”
After retirement, there is no need to compromise for a living, and in terms of interpersonal relationships, I would rather have no friends than be involved with villains.
Because, ruthlessness is not a lack of affection, but a principle and attitude. Only when there are principles in life can the family be better and the old age can be good.
After retirement, what really matters is not the number of relationships, but the quality of relationships, whether they are high enough.
It is enough to subtract for life, streamline the social circle, do not bother others, and don't be bothered by others.