Women, you need to understand one thing as early as possible, and that is that your marriage, whether it is happiness or pain, whether your in-laws are good or bad to you, whether the person next to your pillow is loyal to you or not, these are not all you have in life. Those arguments, quarrels, about love, really aren't that important. In the second half of your life, what you have to fight for is not only your partner, your children, your in-laws, and not just your appearance. What you need is an optimistic and strong mindset, a strong ability to survive and a healthy body. These are the enduring foundations of your future.
Many women don't have a safe haven, parents can't take on this role, marriage can't either, and children probably can't either. The only thing you can really rely on is your personal abilities and your financial independence. This is your last confidence, and only when you are financially independent can you be fearless. You can be silent for a while, you can be dim for a while, but you always have to be ready to shine on yourself. You can be sad for a short time, but don't let it last too long. You have the right to break down, but you also need to learn to be self-conscious. Because every person, every experience, is an opportunity to grow.
Other people's eaves, no matter how big, are less important than your own umbrella. You yourself are your last support, and only by relying on yourself can you live the life you really want.
Mr. Yang Jiang once said:"The greatest sorrow of a woman is that she has never figured out a simple truth in her life, that is, this world is you alone all her life. Sooner or later, the child will grow up, the flowers will pass on the moonlit night, love will fade, and life will return to the prosaic rice, rice, oil and salt. Your husband is just a partner who lives under the same roof as you and raises the children together. You are still you, you are always yourself.
Your parents put your hand in your husband's hand, and they thought it was the warmth of your life. However, it dawned on you that it was only the beginning of your life's challenges. When you shoulder the burden of life alone, you will truly understand that you yourself are your backer and your home.
What women need is not the same as men. Our youth, our ideals, our spiritual pillars, our sense of security, and our motivation are all on our own. But few women understand this at a young age. They may think they understand, and they may be able to say something that they think they are independent, but there is still a long way to go to truly understand themselves.
For a woman to truly understand this, it is not her creativity that is tested, but her experience. Life is a process, living in it, with its ups and downs, whether success or failure, there is nothing more important than this experience. When fate comes, you can find someone to get married. When you can't be together anymore, you can choose to divorce. If you find the right person, you can also get married again. Eternity, change of heart, pain, waste of life, mistaken people. None of this needs to be the subject of your life.
Life is so long, we will always make mistakes, we will lose our direction, we will go the wrong way, why should we be so demanding of ourselves? None of us are perfect, we have one or the other, just embrace our normal selves. Let the children own their own world, own their own destiny, and don't be discouraged by their sacrifices. For our own sake, we should live our lives well, so that we can really do something for others.