I am 71 years old and have two sons and a daughter, both of whom have made their homes in other provinces. For me, the Spring Festival is the festival I look forward to the most, because it is the day when I am most likely to see my children, grandchildren, and family reunion this year.
This morning, I was watching TV at home, and suddenly my phone rang, and I took a look, and it was my eldest son calling.
I connected the **, and before I could say hello, the eldest son's voice sounded: "Dad, your grandchildren are going to Harbin to play, my wife and I thought that it would not be easy for the children to take a holiday, so I agreed, I won't come back for the Chinese New Year this year, you take care of yourself!" ”
Before I could speak, the eldest son hung up the **, which made me feel unpredictable, you must know that three days ago, the eldest son also sent me a screenshot of grabbing a high-speed rail ticket, saying that he would bring his family back for the New Year.
After a while, my daughter sent me a message: "Dad, my in-laws are here, and they want to celebrate the New Year with us, and I can't drive them back, so I won't go back, you have fun eating for the New Year, don't miss us too much." ”
In front of this news, it was the news that my daughter told me yesterday morning that she was going back to her parents' house for the New Year, and after reading it for a long time, I called my youngest son's ** number with the last glimmer of hope.
*After connecting, I asked my youngest son, "Son, have you bought the train ticket?" Can't you come back for the New Year? ”
The youngest son's voice was full of impatience: "Don't go back!" What am I going to do when I go back? No one washes the clothes, no one cleans the hygiene, no one cooks the meals, what are you going to do when you go back? Didn't I say you, Dad, why are you so useless? I can't even manage a woman. During the Chinese New Year, she went to her daughter's house, who will serve us? ”
Since I am hard of hearing, I pressed the speakerphone, and my youngest son did not know that the woman he was talking about, my new wife, was sitting on the sofa, not saying a word, looking at me with sarcastic eyes.
I tried to say something, but when I saw my wife's warning eyes, I was silent. It didn't take long for the youngest son to hang up**.
When ** hung up, my wife spoke: "How is it?" I'm right, you believe it! ”
In the past few days, my children have come with good news one after another, saying that they will bring their families back for the New Year, so I quickly packed up the house, bought New Year's goods, and put forward a lot of requirements.
At first, I was very happy, thinking that my children remembered me as an old man, and they were very filial, and they naturally responded to their requests.
Yesterday, however, I told my wife about my children and grandchildren coming home, and remembered their request: ".The eldest daughter-in-law said that the wireless network speed at home is too poor to catch up on dramas, so we have to upgrade the wireless network and change a router. The eldest two children like to eat nuts, especially almonds and pecans, buy a few catties more. The second child likes to eat chickens, and he wants an old hen raised in the countryside, isn't your hometown in the countryside? You ask relatives and friends, get me a few old hens, get more, so that they can take away. The second daughter-in-law likes to eat durian, don't forget to buy it, and my daughter loves cherries, don't forget to buy it. Children like to eat sugar oranges, and one basket is not enough, so they need to buy more. Also, last year, I gave 1,000 red envelopes to each child, and the two daughters-in-law were unhappy, so should I give more ...... this year
Before I could finish talking, my wife interrupted me: "You don't need to tell me these things, just worry about yourself, I will go to my daughter's house for the New Year the day after tomorrow, and I won't come back until the fifteenth day of the first lunar month, and your children and grandchildren will serve by yourself!" ”
I have been married twice, and 49 years ago, at the age of 22, I was introduced to my first wife, married her, and had two sons and a daughter.
After I got married, my ex-wife suffered for a long time with me. When we first got married, the family was poor and had nothing, and my ex-wife had to take care of not only the children, but also my old mother who was paralyzed in bed.
After my mother passed away, I took my ex-wife and three children out to work, I was responsible for earning money to support the family, and my ex-wife was responsible for taking care of the children and doing housework, from morning to night.
We have endured enough hardships and struggled to raise our three children, to feed them, to drink, and to educate them. With the efforts of my ex-wife and I, the three children have grown up, the eldest has been admitted to the technical secondary school, the second has finished high school, and the daughter is more promising and admitted to the university.
Later, we emptied our savings, married our two sons, made them a home in the big city, and married off our daughters.
Originally, I thought that my ex-wife and I would have a good life when our children were married, but with the birth of our grandchildren, we have become even busier, running around with our two sons, helping them take care of the children, and even continuing to work to subsidize them.
Ten years ago, two pieces of news, one happy and one sad, came to my home. The so-called good news refers to the fact that the old house left by my parents has been expropriated and is about to be demolished, and we can get a large amount of money, but the bad news is that my ex-wife is seriously ill before the demolition money has come down.
When I learned that my ex-wife was sick, I was very anxious and took her to seek medical advice. The doctor told me that my ex-wife's illness had the best hope, but it needed a large sum of money, and there was still a long time before the demolition money came down, and it was far from quenching my thirst.
So, I found the children and told them about my ex-wife's illness, hoping that they would scrape together some money, treat my ex-wife first, and then give them back when the demolition money came down, but they would cry poor and say that their financial situation was not good, and they were very difficult, and they really couldn't come up with so much money to help us.
The two daughters-in-law are even more ignorant, not only refusing to take care of their ex-wife who is sick in bed, but also saying cold-blooded and ruthless words: "Dad, the doctor fooled you, Mom's illness can't be cured, if you continue to toss, you will only lose both people and money." We are not rich and noble, how can we withstand the toss? ”
Seeing the attitude of her children, my ex-wife felt extremely chilled, chose to give up**, left the hospital despite my persuasion, and returned home.
Not long after, my ex-wife passed away, and before I died, my ex-wife repeatedly told me: "Old man, I am gone, you are left alone, you have to live well." When the demolition money comes down, you can use it to buy a house, and keep the rest of the money for yourself, and don't give it to your children and grandchildren until you die. I can see through it, we spoil them, they don't know how to be grateful at all, and they can't count on them when they get old. If you give them all the money, I'm afraid you'll have to sleep on the street. ”
Holding my wife's hand, I tearfully agreed to my wife, and my wife left me like this.
Three months after my wife died, the demolition money came down, and after learning the news, my children and grandchildren rushed home as soon as possible and asked me how I planned to distribute the demolition money.
I thought of my wife's advice before she died, and finally refused their request to share the money, and bought a two-bedroom apartment in the city of my hometown with the demolition money, and my name was written on the real estate certificate, and the rest of the money was saved, and no one gave it. My children and grandchildren were so angry at this that they refused to come back to see me for three years, and even now they are complaining about me.
In September last year, I was introduced to my current wife Xiao Cai, a woman who died of her husband, and after a period of contact between the two people, I felt that it was good to be together to support the elderly, so I went to the Civil Affairs Bureau with Xiao Cai to pull the marriage certificate, and the two became husband and wife.
I married Xiao Cai for less than a month, and the National Day came, and unexpectedly, the two sons came back for the holiday, saying that they missed me. At that time, I was very happy, thinking that my two sons had become sensible and that the parent-child relationship could improve.
It wasn't until they came that I understood their true purpose, and after a long time, the reason why they came to see me was not because they missed me, but because of two things, one is that they want someone to serve them during the holidays, so that they can relax and live a life of clothes and food to open their mouths, and the other is the money in my hand.
They lived at home for seven days, I was scolded by Xiao Cai for seven days, and they asked about the rest of the demolition money for seven days, my blood pressure soared, and I even lay in the hospital after the holiday.
Therefore, when they proposed to come back for the New Year, Xiao Cai decisively told me: "I want to go to my daughter's house, and I won't stay here." You have a family reunion, why should I stay as a free babysitter? ”
I wanted to say a few kind words for my children and grandchildren, but Xiao Cai ruthlessly interrupted me: "Or let's make a bet, whoever loses the bet will be responsible for washing the dishes for a month." ”
Xiao Cai asked me to tell my children and grandchildren, just say that she is going to my daughter's house for the Chinese New Year, and see if my children and grandchildren will come back to see me. With a glimmer of hope, I agreed to Xiao Cai and told me about it in the family group.
It turned out obviously, I lost the bet, and I not only had to wash the dishes for a month, but also experienced a heart-rending feeling.
I was silent for a long time, thought about it again and again, and said to Xiao Cai: "Why don't you go to your daughter's house too?" Didn't you say you wanted to travel to Hainan before? Then let's go to Hainan and have a good time, regardless of them. ”
Xiao Cai agreed, smiled and said that I still want to wash the dishes, and I nodded.
I figured it out, since my children and grandchildren really can't be counted on, then I won't force it, let them go! It's just that since they are unfilial, so I can't expect them to spend their old age in peace, then I won't continue to pay for them.
Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, I have raised them**, let them start a family, for the rest of my life I will keep in mind my ex-wife's advice, take care of the money in my hands, cherish the people around me, take care of my body, and let myself have a happy old age.
I also want to give a piece of advice to my peers who have a similar experience to me, but still have expectations for their children and grandchildren, that is, don't put all your hopes for retirement on your children and grandchildren, let alone put all your pension money into it for them, otherwise you will regret it sooner or later.