Late at night, Li Jiao (pseudonym), a 32-year-old mother who cried and had red eyes, posted a circle of friends, and this circle of friends is a problem:"What are the worst husbands like? ”
This question instantly attracted everyone's attention.
Someone replied: "Men who only play games, don't care about children." ”
Someone replied: "A man who is a domestic violence." ”
Someone replied: "A man who doesn't earn money and has a big temper." ”
In the end, Li Jiao gave her own answer: The worst husband is,The longer you live with him, the more he steps on your head and becomes the best son, husband, and father, and you become the worst daughter-in-law, wife, and mother.
Li Jiao's answer comes from the three meals she and her husband went out to eat recently.
Li Jiao introduced that half a year ago, her mother-in-law was hospitalized with a sudden cerebral thrombosis and urgently needed about 100,000 yuan for surgery and hospitalization.
The eldest sister called Li Jiao's husband and asked Li Jiao's husband to take out all the money, and the reason was also very good:"Our mother is just your son, who will you take the surgery fees, medical expenses, and hospitalization fees? Besides, when you get married, the house that our mother bought for you, our mother's old house will also be left to you, I am a daughter, after all, it is water that has been spilled, and I can take care of it in the hospital for a few days! ”
Although Li Jiao's family works alone with her husband and is not financially well-off, her husband still agreed, and began to apply for salary advances for unit leaders, and began to borrow money from good friends.
Li Jiao found out and was very unhappy, she complained to her husband: "I don't think what your sister said is rightOur mother bought us a wedding house, but she only made a down payment of 200,000 yuan, and we still have the loan to repay. Your sister got married, and our mother bought her a wedding car for 130,000 yuan in addition to other dowries.
But her husband retorted to Li Jiao: ".It's our family affair, it's not your turn to speak!
But Li Jiao wanted to say it, she said bluntly: "In addition to these money that can be calculated clearly, let's talk about something else." Your sister gave birth to two children, one is 7 years old and the other is 4 years old, and I also gave birth to two children, one is 6 years old and the other is 3 years old, but who raised your sister's two children? It's our mother, my mother-in-law! I quit my job and raised my two children by myself. Don't say anything elseIt's to hire a nanny with children, and you get a salary of 3,000 yuan a month! Our mother has helped your sister take care of the child for 7 years, you calculate, how much! What's more, my mother became ill at your sister's house, why did we let us give out all the money? ”
Hearing Li Jiao say this, her husband immediately became angry: ".You only saw our mother helping my sister take care of the children, have you seen our mother eat my sister's, drink my sister's, and use my sister's at my sister's placeMy sister still has to endure the nagging of the old man? ”
Regarding her husband's answer, Li Jiao felt funny and sad, and retorted: "If this is the case, you should have asked your mother to come back and help us take care of the children, so that I can also go out to work, and we will take care of my mother's food, drink and clothing!" ”
The husband was too lazy to quarrel with Li Jiao again, and directly sarcastically said:"You said so much, but you don't want to pay for your mother-in-law's treatment, just say it! ”
Li Jiao also directly said her thoughts: ".I didn't say that I couldn't pay for it, I meant that your sister should also pay for itEven more, in terms of contributions, your mother's contribution to them is even greater; In terms of income, your sister and her family work for two people and have two incomes, and you alone have income in our family; In terms of conditions, your sister's family has no mortgage or car loan, and she is financially rich. ”
But her husband did not follow Li Jiao's advice, but advanced three months' salary, borrowed 50,000 yuan from a friend to make up 100,000 yuan to help his mother pay for the hospital.
During the hospitalization of her mother-in-law, the eldest sister asked Li Jiao to go to the hospital to take care of her mother-in-law on the grounds that the unit was busy with work, Li Jiao had no work, and had free time.
That's all,In addition to cooking three meals a day, washing and sprinkling, Li Jiao sent Dabao to school every day, and took Erbao to the hospital to take care of her mother-in-law.
Finally, the mother-in-law was discharged from the hospital, and invited her husband's uncle, aunt and other people to the restaurant to eat, at the dinner table, everyone praised Li Jiao's husband for being a filial son, and took out so much money to treat his mother, Li Jiao's husband was very proud, and while toasting her husband, he said: "I must be filial to my mother, that's my mother."My daughter-in-law, she doesn't know filial piety, you keep telling me what the burden of the family is heavy, my mother has taken care of the child for my sister, and let my sister pay for itI said, how can I do it, my mother's illness, I have to pay for it! ”
At this time, the eldest sister stood up and sarcastically said to Li Jiao: ".Why should mom bring me a baby? Isn't it that my mother likes to live with her daughter, and my daughter-in-law is filial, so can the old man live with me for 7 years?
The eldest sister's husband also stood up immediately, as if he had been greatly wronged, and hugged his fist at Li Jiao's husband"Brother, it's still reasonable for you to speak, my brother and sister said this, no, my mother has been discharged from the hospital, you can take my mother home, my family can no longer keep my mother! ”
Everyone else also pointed at Li Jiao, Li Jiao knew that she couldn't argue, just this mealHer husband is the best son in the world, and she is an unfilial daughter-in-law who is spurned by thousands of people.
In addition to suppressing and slandering Li Jiao in front of her mother-in-law's family, her husband's greatest pleasure is to laugh at her in front of outsiders in order to elevate his status.
Once, Li Jiao and her husband went to the wedding banquet of her husband's colleague.
During the banquet, someone praised Li Jiao's youngest daughter for her beauty, and her husband immediately interjected: "Yes, it's thanks to my daughter that she looks like me."Look at my daughter-in-law, with small eyes and a big mouth, and a pair of elephant legs under her waist, and then you look at her teeth, twisted and crooked, how ugly and ugly she is!
The others laughed, but Li Jiao lowered her head and was embarrassed to even open her mouth.
Just after a few bites of food, someone talked about the child's grades, there was a male colleague's child who was admitted to the city's key high school, everyone gave a thumbs up, then Li Jiao's husband laughed at himself again: "You are blessed, you found a daughter-in-law with high education and high income who can educate her children, and the children's grades are of course good." Look at my daughter-in-law, she has a low education, no income, so much free time, and she can't even educate her children wellMy children are still too many to count, don't you say hopeless? ”
In the laughter of everyone, Li Jiao's head was buried lower.
After Li Jiao fed the eldest son sitting on her left and comforted the second treasure in her arms, she began to eat by herselfAt this time, everyone has almost eaten, and the husband has successfully attracted everyone's attention again:"Look at it, is there any way to cure it, my daughter-in-law is like this, what to do, what to eat, what is not enough!
The whole table looked at Li Jiao, and Li Jiao had no choice but to stop eating chopsticks.
Now it's all rightUnder my husband's introduction, everyone thought I was a lazy parasite! Li Jiao said helplessly.
What made Li Jiao unbearable the most was that her husband never gave her respect in front of her children.
Once, the child's kindergarten had to do handicrafts, Li Jiao had to take care of her little daughter and do housework, so she didn't bother to help the child do the handiwork, and as a result, the child's handwork did not win the award, and she went home crying, and her husband not only comforted the child, but said: ".Your mother is clumsy, ** can do handicrafts!
Another time, Li Jiao wanted to buy a foot soak bucket for her mother, 199 yuan, but her husband didn't give the money, she cried aggrievedly, and the child asked curiously"Mom, why don't you earn your own money to buy it for Grandma? ”
The husband replied for Li Jiao:"Because your mother is a parasite, she doesn't earn money at all, she depends on her father to feed her! ”
The child was even more curious, and said to Li Jiao's husband: "But my mother does a lot of work, washing and cooking at home, taking my sister, picking me up and dropping me off to school, finding clothes for you, helping you wash **, socks, and sometimes taking care of grandparents."My classmate, hiring a nanny to do more work than my mother does, their family has to pay the nanny, a lot of money a month!
Who knew that after Li Jiao's husband heard this, he laughed and said to the child:"You're half right, Mom is our babysitter, and it's a free babysitter! ”
The child added:"Mom is the kind of free nanny who can stay in our house and sleep with you at night? ”
The husband laughed again, but Li Jiao's tears rolled in her eyes.
After listening to Li Jiao's introduction, it is really infuriating, the most stupid man is the person who slanders his woman in front of others, because there is an old Chinese saying: "People gather by like, and things are divided by groups" What level of people you are, what level of partner do you naturally have to match you.
If your wife is a free babysitter, what are you?
Therefore, I would like to advise all the protagonists in marriage to live a better lifeWe must do our best to become a better person, and pass on positive energy to our partners and children, so that the whole family can form a positive and better synergyOnly in this way will you attain the richness of your heart.
Those who obtain low-quality satisfaction by belittling, ridiculing, sarcastic, and suppressing their partners will only push their marriage into the abyssIt is a big mistake to make it impossible for anyone in the middle of it to be happy and satisfied, because a person's badness ruins a marriage and destroys a child.
If you have such a partner by your side, it is better to leave quickly and stop the loss in time.
It's better to have an only child than to be mentally bullied by your partner in your marriage!
May the above words be encouraged by my readers!
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