I thought that after the age of sixty, I would retire and be carefree all day, which was awesome.
slowly found that there are still not many unsatisfactory things in life in his later years.
Every day, I look at other people's eyebrows and smiles, and I look at my own chicken feather life.
Children are not angry, they want to take grandchildren, husbands and wives will quarrel, they will be sick, and neighbors will have bad intentions. But all kinds of things are not asked for by themselves.
Su Shi of the Song Dynasty has been an official for many years and has been demoted many times. After countless hardships, he said with emotion: "I used to see in the middle, but I couldn't speak. Seeing "Zhuangzi" today, I have my heart!
It turns out that most of the hardships in life are "drawing the ground as a prison", improving one's self-cultivation, breaking through the original pattern, and everything will be fine.
When you reach old age, you can learn "Zhuangzi", and you will have a way to enrich yourself, and you will be refreshed.
"The spring is dry, and the land is in the same place, the wet is wet, and the foam is wet, it is better to forget each other in the rivers and lakes": let go of the children, life becomes free, and enrich your own time.
Two fish, living in the same spring.
Suddenly, one day, the spring disappeared. In order to survive, fish breathe mouth-to-mouth to reduce water evaporation. They also blow bubbles on each other and wet each other's bodies.
The behavior of the fish is really touching. However, Zhuangzi suggested that they should immediately separate and flee and go to live in different waters.
Yes, it's important to save your life, don't you and me. Although they are separated, they have their own ways to live, and they can have a chance to meet again.
There was a bow, fully drawn, with arrows on it.
The bow said to the arrow, "If you are free, I will be free." ”
Aren't parents and children just fish living in the same water? Isn't it just a bow and an arrow?
When parents are 60 years old, their lives begin to "dry up", and if they don't let go of their children, they will most likely have to survive. Because parents have no way to continue to take care of their children's lives.At the age of sixty, to be able to start anew is the spring of life; If you continue to be the same and still treat yourself as a young man, that is the beginning of misery.When the children grow up, aren't they just arrows off the string, and they want to go to the end of the world with a sword? Let the children leave, and the parents will have a free life.
You can't control your children for the rest of their lives. Only when each is well, can each develop independently.
Parents can help their children and grandchildren, and they can live a healthy life in their hometown, which is the greatest help. As for what work the children will do, who they will cooperate with, and in what city they will settle in, let them go.
The rest of your life is not long, don't waste too much on your children.
"Although the chicken has a song, there is no change, looking at it like a wooden chicken, its virtue is complete, and the chicken does not dare to respond, but it goes away": indifferent, life becomes quiet, enrich their own soul.
Once upon a time, Ji Yuzi helped King Qi train cockfighting.
He kept the cockfight in a cage and kept it unapproachable, which lasted for dozens of days.
When the chickens were released again, they became a little wooden, and they did not react to other chickens' cries and provocations. However, the other chickens ran away when they saw this.
Here it is"Static braking".Great wisdom.
After the age of sixty, many people have nothing to do and don't know how to live, so they squeeze into the ranks of square dancing, fishing, rampage, mahjong and so on.
It's hard to mix with a group of people.
Let's say you go to a relative, and you're tired. In the evening, someone calls you to dance. Originally, you didn't want to go, but you didn't want to ruin people's fun, so you went. As a result, you are tired and out of breath that evening, busy but unhappy.
If you want to be rich, you have to learn to be alone and let life be quiet. When your heart is like still water, you can hear the birdsong and smell the flowers.
If you are indifferent to the noise of the outside world, then your realm will be superior. Nothing bad can interfere with your own life.
We keep saying that if we want to "be ourselves", we must have a shielding force and reduce the intersection with the outside world.
Nowadays, the city is bustling and noisy. There is a lot of information in the outside world, and when you open your mobile phone, you can read endlessly**and text, and you can't finish reading**. But most of the content is irrelevant, and even a look at it is redundant.
The most rare thing is that living in the middle of the city can also be quiet; There was a lot of disturbance from the outside world, but I didn't move.
"The ancients are dead if they can't be passed on, but the readers of the king, the bad of the ancients have been husband": read books in depth, take their essence to remove their dross, and enrich their own temperament.
The famous Qi Huan Gong sat and read a book.
An old carpenter named Wheel Flat was making wheels on the side.
Lun Bian said: "Reading books is useless, most of them are dross. ”
Qi Huan Gong was surprised.
Lun Bian said: "It's like I make wheels, it's very delicate." But I can't write about the process and use it as a reference for my own son. It's up to his son to figure it out on his own. I'm 70 years old, and I rely on experience to make wheels. From ancient times to the present, true wisdom can only be understood but not spoken.
Many old people know that reading can enrich their spirit and make themselves younger. But the depth of reading is not enough, but it is swayed by other people's thinking.As the saying goes: "It is better for a famous teacher to show the way, than to understand it yourself." ”
Improve the depth of reading, and you will find that many texts record the process, and you must keep pace with the times, and link theory with practice.
In a word, there can be multiple interpretations. You need to ponder and introduce your own life, not follow the crowd.
Huang Tingjian said: "The wonders of Danqing cannot be passed on, and the wheel is used in this way." ”Painting, writing books, learning skills, singing, fishing, cycling, etc., must have their own understanding, and they must pay attention to their own originality.
Thinking while reading, learning and gaining, often open up, and life will be transparent. The refreshing effect will also be obvious.
There are many ways for the elderly to enrich themselves, and there are many details, but the key is to make time, be yourself, and improve your cognition.
Adjust your lifestyle, handle the relationship between the two generations, and also grasp the interaction between yourself and external objects, live calmly and freely, so that every day will not be in vain.
Zhuangzi said: "The times are the Son of Heaven, and they may not be expensive; Poor is a husband, not necessarily cheap. The distinction between the noble and the low lies in the beauty and evil of deeds. ”
Don't think that being powerful means being rich, and people are poor, but if you have a good soul, you are also rich.
For the rest of my life, thinking about money all the time is unrealistic, and my heart is upward, just around the corner.