List of high-quality authors My nephew went to work in a provincial town and wanted to live in his aunt's house, but his aunt refused: I like to live alone.
Tan Jianshe was overjoyed because his son successfully participated in campus recruitment in the provincial capital after graduating from university and entered a job in a large state-owned enterprise.
To his delight, the state-owned enterprise is less than a 15-minute walk from Tan Jianjian's sister's home.
Although state-owned enterprises provide accommodation, there are only standard quadruple rooms with a rudimentary toilet. Tan Jianjian's son, Tan Cheng, lived there for three days, but felt uncomfortable because of the large number of people and loud noise, and said that he wanted to rent a house outside.
In the provincial capital, the rent of a small apartment with a separate toilet is nearly 2,000 yuan a month, plus water, electricity and living expenses, at least 4,000 yuan a month.
The state-owned enterprise that Tan Cheng entered had a three-month probationary period and a monthly salary of only 3,200 yuan.
If you choose to live in the dormitory provided by the unit, the water and electricity costs are relatively low, and 3,200 yuan is enough to pay for living expenses.
However, Tan Cheng has enjoyed the pampering of Tan Jianshe and his wife since he was a child, and although he has a privileged life in the countryside, the dormitory of the unit is noisy and shabby, and he can't adapt to it. Tan Jianshe understands his son's feelings.
Faced with his son's desire to rent a house, Tan Jianshe disagreed. He suggested a more affordable option, considering his sister.
He said to his son, "Why rent a house? Your aunt lives near your unit and has a three-bedroom, two-living elevator apartment. She lives single and has no children, you can consider moving to her, save 2,000 yuan a month on rent and utilities, and still enjoy warm home-cooked meals. ”
Tan Jianjian's sister, Tan Jianmei, is 60 years old and lives alone in a spacious three-bedroom and two-living room house, with a monthly pension of nearly 6,000 yuan.
My sister, Tan Jianmei, is a retired high school teacher. She once had a marriage, and she reached a consensus with her other half before getting married: don't have children, just live for herself for the rest of her life. When they are together, they devote most of their time to work, and when they are resting, they enjoy good food, go around the mountains and rivers, and live a very happy life.
Although the colleagues around her have given birth and are tied up by children, Tan Jianmei and her husband have always thought that being a Dink is a rational choice. However, with the passage of time and age, people's minds also gradually change.
When Tan Jianmei was forty years old, her husband suddenly changed his mind and wanted to raise a child of his own. He was worried that he would have difficulty moving in his old age, and he would not even have anyone to accompany him to the hospital. However, Tan Jianmei is adamantly opposed to raising children because she believes that there are huge risks associated with getting pregnant and having children at the age of forty. She also thinks that she didn't even think about having children in her twenties, let alone being in her forties now.
Due to disagreement, the couple began to quarrel frequently over fertility issues. Over time, these quarrels gradually eroded the couple's relationship. Eventually, the husband cheated and found a woman outside who was willing to have children, leading to their eventual divorce.
At the time of the divorce, the husband did not fight for any property due to guilt. Tan Jianmei gained real estate and savings, but lost her partner who had promised to stay with her for the rest of her life.
After the divorce, Tan Jianmei was disappointed in her marriage, she sold her old house and purchased a three-bedroom and two-living elevator room, symbolizing a farewell to the past.
Tan Jianmei's parents only have two children, her and her younger brother Tan Jianjian. Before their deaths, their parents told them many times to love each other, emphasizing that the family affection between siblings is thicker than water. The parents also reminded Tan Jianmei: "Although you have no children, your younger brother has a son, and the future family property must be left to Tan Cheng." ”
Tan Jianmei smiled and listened, her expression was neither nodding nor shaking her head.
After the persuasion of his parents, Tan Jianshe suddenly felt that the burden on his shoulders was lightened a lot.
He thought to himself that maybe in the future he could pass on his son to his sister, who has a good pension, owns a property and a car, and his son follows his sister, and everything is in order.
Tan Jianjian's wife reminded him that he had mentioned the idea twice to his sister, but both times he was rejected.
recalled that when his son was in junior high school and college, Tan Jianshe discussed this issue with his sister separately.
Before his son entered junior high school, Tan Jianshe hoped to move his son's hukou to his sister's hukou, so that his son could have the opportunity to study in a key school where his sister's hukou was located.
However, my sister refused without hesitation, saying that everyone has their own life, her hukou belongs to her alone, and her nephew should pass the exam to go to a good school if he has the ability, otherwise he will go to a school that he can go to.
Although Tan Jianshe was unhappy, he was helpless.
When his son went to college, considering the problem of his son getting married and having children in the future, Tan Jianshe found his sister again.
He said: "Sister, you are retired and have no children, if you don't pass Tan Cheng to you, you will have a care when you are old in the future." ”
My sister was surprised when she heard this: "You only have one son, Tan Cheng, if you pass it on to me, won't you have no son?" ”
Regarding his sister's surprise, Tan Jianshe said indifferently: "I also have a daughter, besides, Tan Cheng will succeed you, and she is still my son." ”
* Over there, Tan Jianmei didn't say much, and hung up directly**.
Although Tan Jianshe has made this request to his sister twice, his sister has never agreed. Now Tan Cheng works in a factory near her home, and Tan Jianshe doesn't want to give up.
Because my sister liked to eat sweet and spicy sauce and fire-cut fish in the countryside the most since she was a child, Tan Jianshe deliberately went to a neighbor's house in the countryside to buy a jar of sweet and spicy sauce and two catties of fire-cut fish.
He called his sister ** and said that he would go to the provincial capital to visit his son on Saturday, and proposed to have lunch and dinner together, and hoped to rest at his sister's house for one night and go back on Sunday.
My sister agreed very enthusiastically, which made Tan Jianshe feel that there should be hope this time.
For the sake of his son, Tan Jianshe decided to be brave.
Early on Saturday morning, he took sweet and spicy sauce, fire-cut fish and 50 native eggs from the countryside and took a ride to the provincial capital.
His son greeted him at the station, tall and thin, and polite, which made Tan Jianshe very proud.
Due to the large number of provincial capitals and traffic congestion, my son had to call a taxi, but in the congested traffic, the vehicles stopped and walked.
Tan Jianshe looked at the endless stream of vehicles outside the window, and said with emotion: "Young people like to run to big cities, I really don't understand what is so good about big cities?" It doesn't feel as laid-back and comfortable as we are in the countryside. ”
The taxi driver smiled and said, "I am also from the countryside, the air in the countryside is good, and life is indeed leisurely and comfortable, but I can't make money!" I had no choice but to leave my hometown and come to the provincial capital to earn living expenses. ”
The two were happy to see each other, talking freely about the township and the city, and before they knew it, they had arrived outside Tan Jianmei's community.
The taxi driver parked the car and sighed: "I heard that this community is a high-end community, and we can't afford it in our lives, it seems that your sister's conditions are good." ”
Tan Jianshe nodded, indicating that her sister's conditions were indeed good. After Tan Cheng paid the fare, Tan Jianshe called his sister ** and informed him that he had arrived outside the community.
After a while, Tan Jianmei came out in a floral dress, and trotted all the way to introduce them to the community.
Tan Jianmei's community implements the separation of people and vehicles, and the vehicles are parked in the underground parking lot. The community is rich in greenery, with artificial ponds, wooden bridges, rockeries, pavilions and various ornamental trees dotted throughout.
Tan Jianshe seemed to have entered the Grand View Garden as if Grandma Liu, looking around and sighing. Tan Cheng pulled his clothes and reminded him not to look foreign, so the two followed his sister into the unit door.
After arriving at my sister's house, the spacious and tidy house came into view, and the floor and furniture were spotless, showing that my sister Tan Jianmei's hygiene habits were excellent.
Tan Jianshe handed the sweet and spicy sauce and fire cut fish to his sister. My sister tasted a bite of sweet and spicy sauce, smelled the fire and cut the fish, and praised: "It's still that unique taste, it's so good!" ”
The elder sister poured tea for Tan Jianshe and his son, turned on the TV for them to watch the show, and went to the kitchen to get busy.
Tan Jianshe asked Tan Cheng, how is his sister's house? Is it better than an apartment?
Tan Cheng nodded, indicating that although the apartment was a little bigger, it was small and expensive. Compared to the apartment, the environment of my sister's house is really too comfortable.
Tan Jianshe stood up and inadvertently looked at his sister's room.
My sister lives in the master bedroom, which has a private bathroom, and there are two rooms opposite, one is a study and the other has only a tatami mat.
Tan Jianshe thought that when his son came, he didn't need to buy a bed, and it was also good to sleep on tatami mats.
My sister was skillful and served pork ribs, prawns, chicken broth, water spinach and chili stir-fried meat in a short time.
During the meal, Tan Jianshe and Tan Chengdu enjoyed the delicious food.
Tan Jianshe told her sister that Tan Cheng had entered a state-owned enterprise near her home through campus recruitment.
My sister was very happy to hear this, and said to Tan Cheng: "Xiaocheng, next time you want to eat something delicious, come to your aunt's house on the weekend, and I'll make it for you." ”
Tan Jianshe saw that the time was ripe, and hurriedly proposed: "Sister, the dormitory conditions of Tan Ing's arrival are too poor, he is ready to rent an apartment, but the apartment in the provincial capital costs 2,000 yuan per month, I suggest that he might as well borrow to live in his aunt's house, anyway, your big house is enough to live, he lives here, and you can still take care of each other." ”
Tan Jianshe and his son looked at Tan Jianmei with expectation, expecting her to nod in agreement.
However, their expectations were disappointed.
Tan Jianmei shook her head and said to her younger brother Tan Jianjian: "Let's let him live in the dormitory, young people always have to suffer a little when they come out to work, and it is definitely not okay to live in my house for a long time, I like to live alone, I don't like to be disturbed by others." ”
Venerable Hongyi emphasized: "To be alone is to avoid getting involved in other people's dramas; indisputable, in order to release the tolerance of the heart; Keeping a distance is the greatest avoidance of damage; In relationships, the ideal state is to maintain a moderate level of distancing. A moderate amount of detachment works for a variety of emotions. Because getting too close to anyone can lead to unnecessary disasters.
Therefore, do not covet other people's thinking, even your own sisters and aunts should be cautious.
If you want to live a good life, the key is to work yourself, not to focus too much on others. It's crucial to keep this in mind.