We all want to have a warm and harmonious home, but many times, some people with bad intentions will frequently come and go in our homes, which may inadvertently bring trouble or harm to our lives.
Therefore, we must be vigilant and learn to reject those who may endanger the happiness of our family.
For example, those who like to spread rumors everywhere. They may start out with the mindset of having fun, but when those false statements reach the ears of our family or friends, they will inevitably be misunderstood. This will not only affect our relationship with them, but also cause divisions within the family.
I have a friend Li Si, and she suffers from it. Not long after Li Si and her husband got married, an old classmate often came to her house as a guest. That person likes to gossip on weekdays, and always adds fuel to all kinds of rumors he hears and tells Li Si, including some false information about Li Si's husband. Li Si didn't take it seriously, but gradually, she couldn't help but be suspicious, and the relationship between husband and wife became separated.
Therefore, we must avoid such people from entering our life circle. The rhetoric they spread may be unintentional, but the damage they have done is real. We need to learn to protect ourselves and our families and deny them entry.
Of course, health is also important. A person who is weak or chronically ill, although we should be kind and sympathetic, do not have to be too close. After all, taking care of patients is a very hard job, not only is it time-consuming and laborious, but sometimes it is inevitable that you will accidentally injure yourself.
This happened to one of my relatives not so long ago. He had an old friend who was seriously ill and often went to my relative's house to eat and drink to get by. My relative was very sympathetic to him and kept offering for him. Unexpectedly, he also contracted the disease later, and his health was not as good as before. I persuaded him again and again, and he slowly distanced himself from his old friend and regained his peaceful life.
From his teachings, we can understand that compassion is valuable, but it is too much. We must learn to take care of ourselves, but also learn to be considerate of our families, and not let one outsider affect the quality of life of the whole family.
In addition, those who always want to take advantage of us should not be too close. For the sake of small interests, they can often give up even the most basic moral bottom line. If we let them into our circle of life, it is difficult to guarantee that it will not bring greater losses.
For example, my husband has an old classmate who wants to borrow money from us all day long. In the beginning, it was a matter of a few thousand dollars, and we would help. But slowly, he borrowed more and more, sometimes for months in arrears.
My husband has a deep affection for his old classmates and has been reluctant to cut off contact. Until one time, we found out that the man even took the ** that my husband kept at home without permission. That's when my husband realized that if we continued to associate with him, we might lose more.
After this lesson, my husband cut off contact with him. And we husband and wife also re-examined, realizing that we should not allow others to take advantage of us because of sympathy or affection. Each of us has our own life to take care of and our own home to take care of. Therefore, it is also our responsibility to reject those potential threats.
Dear readers, interpersonal relationships are complex, and it is inevitable to encounter those hidden dangers. But we must not let those who harm others and benefit ourselves because of good trust or compassion. The most important thing in being a man is to keep his heart and bottom line. I believe that if we all keep this in mind, we will be able to protect the happiness of ourselves and our families.