Reading guide:The second day of the Lunar New Year is a very important day for the people, and the people also call the second day of the Lunar New Year as "Welcoming the Son-in-law Day", on this day the daughter who got married should go home early with her husband, pay New Year's greetings to her parents, and thank them for their nurturing grace. And the ** of "Welcoming Son-in-law Day" is also of educational significance.
It is said that after Taizu Zhu Yuanzhang became the emperor, Princess Anqing married Duwei Ouyang Lun, and the other daughters returned to their parents' homes on the second day of the Lunar New Year, but Princess Anqing was unwilling to return, and Queen Ma persuaded Princess Anqing:"You are a wife, so be filial to your in-laws and considerate of your husband. But early in the morning of the second day of the Lunar New Year, Princess Anqing first gave Zhu Yuanzhang a New Year's greeting, and when she learned that she had not yet gone to her in-laws to pay New Year's greetings, "Zhu Yuanzhang resolutely asked her to give her in-laws a New Year's greeting, and at the same time wrote a couplet in the study to give Princess Anqing: "Sheep kneel and breastfeed, daughter-in-law respects mother-in-law, horizontal criticism: natural and righteous." "This matter has spread, from ancient times to the present, the second day of the Lunar New Year is the time for the daughter to return to her parents' home.
Because my wife's house is not particularly far away, as a son-in-law, I am the first to arrive home every year, so my wife's parents also like me very much, saying that I am very filial. If you don't do a good job, not only will the woman's parents not see clearly, but the neighbors around you will also look down on you, and for so many years, I have done a very good job, and I have been recognized by everyone in the woman's family, and the neighbors around me have praised me for being too filial. And when we go back to our parents' house on the second day of the Lunar New Year, there are also some customs we need to know, for example, there is a folk saying: "The second and third days of the first year are not out, and the first game is empty", what does "three not out" refer to? What's the point? Next, I will explain it to you in detail.
One does not leave: does not leave the house
On the first day of the Lunar New Year, they do not go out to save money, and on the second day of the Lunar New Year, many people will go out of the house to "look for money". For example, many places will worship the custom of ancestors on the second day of the Lunar New Year, hoping that the ancestors can bring us good fortune.
A woman who is married at the same time should bring her husband and children to her parents on this day, hoping that her parents will be healthy, all the best, and good fortune. If you don't go out on the second day of the Lunar New Year, you will be gossiped by the neighbors, and even will be looked down upon by many people, and at the same time, your mother's family thinks that you don't go to visit the New Year on the second day of the Lunar New Year, which is disrespectful to them, so the second day of the Lunar New Year is the time to visit relatives and friends and return to your parents' home.
If the daughter returns to her parents' house on the second day of the Lunar New Year, she should say less bad things about her mother-in-law's family, and at the same time, after returning to her mother-in-law's house, she should not say bad things about her mother's family, because there is a saying that "you will be a daughter-in-law and hide it at both ends, and you will not be a daughter-in-law at both ends". If there are really other things that you can't go back on the second day of the Lunar New Year, you must say it 2-3 days in advance, and then explain which day you will go again, and it is understandable that your mother's family will know about it.
Two do not come out: no gifts
In the second year of junior high school, whether it is to go back to your parents' home or to other elders to pay New Year's greetings, it is best not to go empty-handed, because when greeting the New Year, in addition to saying blessings, but also to give gifts to your family, as the saying goes, "the gift is light and affectionate", everyone will not use a particularly good, buy a few dozen yuan to give to the family, they will definitely be very happy.
On the other hand, if we go home empty-handed and don't prepare any gifts for our family, they will feel that you don't respect him, and the other party will not be particularly enthusiastic about you in the day's interaction, and even drive you away in disguise! Especially some older people pay more attention to this. For so many years, I would bring all kinds of gifts when I came home, although there were no particularly valuable, but my family liked them very much, and they would also give me a lot of souvenirs I made to bring home, I really feel very happy.
If the son-in-law and wife go back to their parents' home, on this day, there will definitely be some people in the village to watch and see what things you bring back, if you bring a lot of things, there will be less discussion, if you bring very few things, or even not brought, you will be discussed by many people in the village, and you will feel that you do not respect your mother's family, so when you visit relatives and friends, you must bring some gifts and do your best.
Three don't come out: don't make money
In life, some people value money very seriously, especially those who have been poor, but in my family, my two uncles and uncles are vegetable and farming, but they are not stingy at all, as long as we need help, they always try their best to help us, all in recent years, their lives have become better and better.
On the second day of the Lunar New Year, if someone has been kind or helpful to us, we should also wrap a red envelope for them to show our gratitude. If there are people in the family who live longer, we should also wrap a red envelope for them to be blessed. Therefore, on the second day of the Lunar New Year, everyone must be generous, don't cover your money too tightly, and spread a little wealth appropriately, so that wealth will enter the house.
"The second and third days of the first year are not out, and the first one is empty", and the 3 does not refer to "not going out of the house, not out of gifts, not out of money", only by respecting tradition, the days will be smoother and smoother! If today's article is helpful to you, please follow and like, this is my greatest support. In the follow-up, Master Hu will explain more traditional customs to you, and finally thank you for your **.