Love is a wonderful thing, for the person we love, we are willing to give everything unconditionally, but for the person who loves us unilaterally and is willing to pay for us selflessly, we will not only not be moved, but also may have a kind of disgust, unilaterally love a person, because of his dedication to love, can not get the other party's response, so he is easy to fall into cranky thoughts, under the effect of sensibility, he can't see the fact that the other party does not love himself, he will be the other party's indifference, As a test of himself, even if the other party explicitly rejects him, he will still have fantasies about this love, feeling that as long as he works hard enough, he will be able to touch the other party's heart and get a beautiful love.
When a person falls in love, when he faces the person he loves, he will inevitably see himself as humble because he loves each other too much, cold and arrogant like Zhang Ailing, and in the face of love, it is inevitable that he will write: When she met him, she became very low, low to the dust. Such sentences.
But in love, it is not necessarily a good thing to be too humble, when a person faces love humbly, it is difficult for him to get happy love.
In the TV series "South to North", Niu Dali's love for Yao Yuling is humble, Niu Dali simply believes that as long as he really loves Yao Yuling and is willing to give everything for Yao Yuling without reservation, he will be able to move Yao Yuling's heart, but Niu Dali has waited all his life, but he has not waited for Yao Yuling's love.
This story, although it is only a plot in a TV series, illustrates a phenomenon in love relationships: if you love someone too much and behave too humbly in love, then you will not be able to get this love.
A good love relationship needs to go both ways, only if the love between lovers for each other is roughly the same, the balance of love between them will be balanced, and their love relationship will be positive.
Unilateral wishful thinking for love, this can only be regarded as unrequited love, but it is not a complete love, it can only move itself, but it cannot move others.
In "South to North", Niu Dali gave everything for Yao Yuling, but Yao Yuling always maintained a moderate safe distance from him, she never really cared about Niu Dali, and she never cared about Niu Dali's feelings.
In Yao Yuling's heart, Niu Dali is just one of her many admirers, Niu Dali's contribution to her is also a matter of course, Yao Yuling enjoys Niu Dali's admiration for her and her dedication, but she thinks that she has no obligation to repay Niu Dali with love.
Yao Yuling's thoughts are also reasonable, but Niu Dali's unilateral dedication to love is destined to fail to move Yao Yuling, so as to get a beautiful love.
The essence of the act of humbly loving someone is actually losing oneself in love, because one cares too much about the other person's feelings, and thus ignores one's inner feelings.
Humble people, they think that as long as their posture is low enough to tolerate and help each other without a bottom line, the other party is bound to be moved and return the same care and love to him, but this idea is naïve and wishful thinking.
In "South to North", because of Yao Yuling's repentance, Niu Dali even committed suicide, when others accused Yao Yuling of acting wrong, Yao Yuling's first thought was not to worry about Niu Dali's safety, but to take the lead in shirking responsibility, she didn't think Niu Dali's suicide had anything to do with herself.
From Yao Yuling's performance, it is enough to prove that she has never loved Niu Dali, and Niu Dali's love for her is just wishful thinking.
If you love too deeply, take love too seriously, and behave too humbly in love, you will not be able to get a good love.
Loving humbly, for oneself, is actually a kind of self-consumption, and for the other person, it is a kind of pressure.
In "South to North", when time passes like a white horse, even if Yao Yuling's life falls into a trough, she is still unwilling to look for Niu Dali, even if Niu Dali still loves Yao Yuling deeply, but he has never been able to win Yao Yuling's heart.
When Niu Dali met Yao Yuling, who was selling skewers on the street, Yao Yuling was reluctant to face Niu Dali, but before leaving, she still waved the fireworks in her hand with a graceful posture.
If you love too humbly, you will not be able to get a good love.
In the TV series "South to North", the story of Niu Dali and Yao Yuling tells us that it is impossible to achieve happiness in love with a humble attitude.
Niu Dali loved Yao Yuling all his life, and he gave everything he had for Yao Yuling, but Yao Yuling was not moved in the slightest, he was just a humble admirer in Yao Yuling's eyes.
Love needs to pay for each other, two-way interaction, only if the couple is willing to work together to pay for love, they can create a happy love relationship together.
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