There is a custom in our rural hometown, that is, when a nephew gets married, the aunt who marries outside will give a big red envelope, with an amount of about 5,000.
When the aunt who married outside the family leaves, her mother's family will give a table of dishes to bring back to her in-law's house.
This means that flowing water generates wealth and people are prosperous.
Therefore, when the eldest brother's son got married, I made up for it and gritted my teeth and gave 8,000 yuan.
I thought that when I left, my mother's family would bring me a table of food to take back to my mother-in-law's house.
Unexpectedly, my sister-in-law only packed me with a bowl of leftover button meat and a bowl of leftover chicken for me to take home.
I was too embarrassed to say anything, so I took the bag of leftovers home.
I am Teacher Liu, and I am now a teacher in a county middle school.
I grew up with good grades, but my parents thought it was useless for girls to study. After I graduated from junior high school, they didn't want me to study, so I went out with the villagers to work to earn money to support my family.
When my eldest brother found out, he rushed home from the big city where he worked.
The eldest brother threw the only 3,000 yuan left from his part-time job to his parents, saying that he would provide for me to go to school in the future, and my parents would not have to pay a penny.
The eldest brother has a strong temperament, and once he makes a decision, the nine cows can't be pulled back. Therefore, my parents knew that they could not persuade me, so they could only agree to let me continue to go to school.
Because of my eldest brother's support, I went to a normal school in the city as I wished.
My eldest brother didn't feel comfortable giving the money to my parents, so he took me to the bank to get a card. As soon as I was paid every month, he would pay me 300 yuan for living expenses.
At that time, the eldest brother's salary was only 800 yuan per month.
In the three years of school, at the beginning of each semester, my eldest brother would give me 2,000 yuan on time, and he never delayed me in paying my tuition.
I know that this money was saved by the eldest brother's frugality. In order to save money, he didn't even dare to have a girlfriend. And the people in the village of the same age have long been married and have children.
For this reason, my parents often whispered in my ear that if I hadn't insisted on going to school, they would have hugged their grandchildren a long time ago.
Therefore, my parents instilled in me the idea that I owe my eldest brother a favor that I must pay back twice in the future.
After graduating from secondary school, I was assigned to teach in a primary school in the next town. At that time, I only spent 300 yuan on a monthly salary of 1,000 yuan and saved 700 yuan.
After two years of class, plus various subsidies, I saved 20,000 yuan. On the day my eldest brother got married, I gave him 20,000 yuan.
My eldest brother didn't take my money, but let me keep it for myself as a dowry.
When my sister-in-law found out, she accepted the money directly and expressed her gratitude to me.
At that time, my eldest brother was a little angry and wanted to return the money from my sister-in-law, but I stopped him.
I told my eldest brother that this money was a little bit of my heart, and I was unhappy that he didn't accept it.
If I didn't have an eldest brother, I guess I would have taken a few children to do housework at my in-law's house now, and I wouldn't have had the opportunity to stand in class and give lectures to my children.
The eldest brother couldn't resist me, so he asked his sister-in-law to collect the money.
Later, when the family built a new house, I also gave my eldest brother 50,000 yuan. I also paid for most of the daily necessities at home.
I feel that the kindness I owe to my eldest brother has been paid off.
So, I decided not to support my family with the money I earned, but to save it as my dowry.
When I got married, my parents asked the man for a bride price of 80,000 yuan, and they turned around and used the money to buy a new car for my eldest brother, but they didn't give me a dowry.
I was angry, but my husband told me that he and his parents didn't care, as long as I could marry into his family.
On the day of the wedding, my sister-in-law stuffed me with a card with the password being my birthday. My sister-in-law said that this was a little bit of her and her eldest brother's heart, and asked me not to tell my parents.
I thought about it, I guess I didn't have much money in Kari, so I accepted it, after all, it was my brother and sister-in-law who gave me the dowry, which made me harder in my mother's house.
Growing up, my parents didn't love me, but I had an older brother who loved me. Now, there is another sister-in-law who loves me.
I was very touched in my heart, my brother and sister-in-law have always treated me as a relative.
After I got married, I rarely went back to my parents' house. Because every time I came home, my parents would find a reason to ask me for money.
My parents always felt that we both worked in the unit and the income must be very high. But they only see the surface, but they don't know that our family has a lot of expenses.
As a teacher, my salary is not very high, and I have a child to raise.
My parents-in-law are not in good health and need to take medicine all year round, which is also a big expense.
My husband works hard to earn money, which is just enough for my family's living expenses of five.
To be honest, I really don't have any extra money to subsidize my mother's family.
When my parents asked me for money, I didn't give it to them, and they said that I had forgotten my roots and would ignore them when I had a good life.
There are too many times, and I don't bother to deal with them, after all, we still have to live as a family.
Slowly, I rarely went back to my parents' home. During the New Year's holidays, I sent money to my eldest brother and asked him to help transfer it to his parents.
Many years passed, and I also transferred from the rural primary school to the county middle school. And the nephew has also reached the age of marriage.
The eldest brother told me that a relative introduced a partner to his nephew, and the two fell in love and were ready to get married at the end of the year.
Subsequently, my parents also called me and said that I should prepare 20,000 yuan for my nephew, so that they can have face in the village.
My parents thought that as an aunt and a teacher in the county, my income must be very high, so I naturally want to give a big red envelope to my nephew.
Although my family's income is okay, because my mother-in-law is sick and hospitalized, the family's savings have been spent. I have to upgrade my education again, and I need a big expense, and I really can't give 20,000 yuan to my nephew.
I discussed it with my husband, got together with a friend, gritted my teeth and transferred 8,000 yuan to my nephew.
On the day of the wedding, my husband and I took our children back to my parents' house for a wedding drink, but my parents did not let me sit at the main table to eat, but let me sit at the most remote table to eat.
I know that my parents did this because I didn't give my nephew 20,000 yuan as they requested.
After eating, the relatives got up and prepared to go home. My parents packed a large table of food for each of my relatives to take home.
And when it came to me, my parents didn't give me anything. I was just about to leave, but my sister-in-law brought me a bag of leftovers and told me not to mind and take them home for my parents-in-law to eat.
I know that my parents gave all the good dishes to my relatives, but they didn't leave any of them for me. My sister-in-law was afraid that I would lose face when I went home, so she specially brought me a bag of leftovers.
Although my sister-in-law gave me leftovers, my heart was warm.
When I got home, I put the bag in the fridge. At noon the next day, my mother-in-law took the leftovers out to heat them, only to find that there was 10,000 yuan in the bag.
I called my sister-in-law **, and I understood my sister-in-law's good intentions.
My sister-in-law said that she knew that my family was in financial difficulties and asked me to take the money and return it to her when I had it.
I burst into tears instantly, and the grievances in my heart dissipated instantly. In this life, it is enough to have such a sister-in-law.
My sister-in-law told me that the card she gave me when she got married had 50,000 yuan in store for me to take out for the family when I needed it. (The card was opened as a big brother, and they had a text message alert, so they knew I didn't go to withdraw the money.) ）
That's when I remembered the card pressed against the drawer.
Nowadays, although I am very difficult, I have not been willing to touch the money in the card, but have saved it regularly. Because, at that time, my brother and sister-in-law gave me the confidence to gain a foothold in my mother's family.
It was my misfortune to meet such parents. But having such an elder brother and sister-in-law is the strongest backing in my life.