The relationship between parents and children has always been a thorny issue.
However, the only thing that is certain is this: the deep love that parents have for their children is eternal.
You will confirm with your partner many times if they truly love you.
But I never ask your parents if they have love for you.
Because you understand that the answer is always fixed.
However, there is a real part of the population.
At a young age, he was indifferent to the care of his children.
When the twilight years gradually approached and there was no one to take care of his child, the child who had been neglected came to his mind.
Then he suddenly realized that he wanted to make up for the absence of his youth.
However, for those children who lacked love in childhood, the period when they most craved love is gone.
All the reparations are already too late.
Zhang Fengyi, the actor, is indeed a member of "this group of people".
Zhang Boyu, the son, rarely had the opportunity to experience the warmth of his father's love when he was young.
In addition to this, he was hit by his father and made many friendly gestures to him as an adult".
It was also treated indifferently.
However, when the father entered old age, he affectionately said to his son, "I love you." ”
If you were Zhang Boyu, would you choose to forgive that once cold father?
In his career, Zhang Fengyi's performance has been brilliant.
He is a national first-class actor, a director of the China Film Association and the vice president of the China Film Performing Arts Association.
At the age of 37, he co-starred with Leslie Cheung and Gong Li in the movie "Farewell My Concubine".
In the play, he played Cheng Dieyi's partner Duan Xiaolou.
A powerful actor on the surface but tough on the inside, he betrayed his wife and junior brother just to protect himself.
The film won the Palme d'Or at the Cannes Film Festival.
This has become a striking landscape left by Zhang Fengyi in China during his acting career.
After three years, he successfully won the Feitian Award for Outstanding Actor for his outstanding performance in "Age of Peace".
In 2005, with the work "The Sky of History", he once again won the title of Outstanding Actor of the Feitian Award.
Such a performance, no matter what time it is, is very eye-catching.
Despite this, the actor has almost reached perfection in his career.
Despite this, in the daily life of his family, he was always criticized by people.
His cold attitude towards his son, as well as his differing views on his two wives, are at the heart of this situation.
Before participating in the performance of "Farewell My Concubine", he had already achieved a lot of success in "Camel Xiangzi".
This is a familiar face in the minds of the audience.
During the filming of the movie "Officer in the Year of the Dragon" in 1988, he met his first wife Lu Liping.
During the filming stage of the film, the woman fell in love with the man at first sight.
Although her friends are trying to persuade her, the man is not worthy of her.
However, she doesn't take these things to heart.
During that period, the man owned only one iconic work and was seen as an emerging standout.
However, the situation is not the same for women.
At present, the woman has won the Hundred Flowers Award and the Golden Rooster Award for Best Supporting Actress, and has become a popular and hot young actress.
There is a clear imbalance in the social status of these two people.
But I can't resist the woman's affection.
As time passed, the affection between the two deepened.
In the end, it was natural to enter the sacred hall of marriage.
The once popular actress who was in the limelight chose to give up her career after marriage and returned to family life.
Zhang Boyu is their son.
For outsiders, this family is undoubtedly very harmonious and happy.
However, the hardships and sufferings involved can only be truly understood by those involved.
After giving birth to a child, Lu Liping stayed at home wholeheartedly and cared about every detail of the family.
In order to further enhance her husband's career, she also put in a lot of effort and thought.
Recommend various resources for her husband around.
Zhang Fengyi has clearly made significant progress in his career.
Theoretically, such a talented helper should be cherished.
However, all the wife gets in the end is a husband who is becoming more and more cold.
He has been busy in the crew for many years, and even if he only comes home occasionally, he will not stay for too long.
Due to the low frequency of meetings between couples, the feelings between them gradually faded over time.
Finally, it is difficult for the woman to accept the status quo of marriage.
Therefore, they proposed to carry out separation.
The son is raised by the woman.
In the show many years later, when the ex-husband was mentioned.
The lady also said with deep helplessness
I really don't want to make such a decision. ”
At the same time, she also advises everyone:
I hope that you will not end this relationship easily, and do not easily separate the family. ”
The reason for this is not because I still miss him.
I feel more sorry for my child because I didn't have a well-established family environment of origin for him.
From what Lu Liping said, we can feel the reason why she chose to terminate her marriage in the first place.
It's also a helpless option.
Years later, by observing Zhang Fengyi's treatment of his current wife, we can understand why his ex-wife chose to divorce.
Three years after divorcing his ex-wife, he married his current wife, Huo Fan.
Huo Fan completed his studies in Northern Dance and became a dance teacher after graduation.
In the course of the interview, Zhang Fengyi frankly said that he had a feeling of falling in love with the other party at first sight.
After that, they sincerely pursued each other, and finally won the heart of their sweetheart.
In contrast to the positive attitude of his previous wife, this time he first developed a crush on her.
Therefore, he is more concerned about this.
After marriage, no matter how busy you are, you will always find time to go out on a date with your wife.
In that show, he unabashedly admitted his "fear" of his wife.
At home, he is always active in preparing food and handling household chores.
In his own words: "My only purpose in going out to make money is to make my wife happy. ”
Zhang Fengyi in the second marriage does not seem to be the same person as described in the first paragraph.
From this point of view, the first wife's decision to divorce does not seem to come as a surprise.
In the end, whether the other party truly loves you and values you is the most clear to the person concerned.
When the two decided to divorce, their son was only three years old.
Lu Liping felt deeply guilty for her son, because he lost a complete home at such a young age.
However, Lu Liping thought in her heart that although they had broken up, their son had always been their common worry and concern.
To his surprise, Zhang Fengyi's state after the divorce.
He behaved so coldly towards his son.
After three years of divorce, Zhang Fengyi chose to enter the palace of marriage again.
In the process of filming the movie "The Years of Burning Passion" in 2002, Lu Liping was fortunate to meet Sun Haiying.
These two people have a good heart and happily come together.
Lu Liping's career reached a new peak when she established her own art academy in Beijing.
From Zhang Boyu's perspective, his parents and stepfather are both well-known performance artists.
Of course, I'm also eager to try my hand at show business.
Therefore, after completing his junior high school studies, he chose to study performing arts at the art academy founded by his mother.
After Zhang Boyu's parents divorced, it became extremely difficult to get in touch with his father.
If every ** doesn't have time to answer, or just ends the call after a few hurried words.
In an interview, Zhang Fengyi also mentioned the way he educated his son.
His policy is not to take it into account.
In his daily life, he was indifferent to his father, but when he learned that he was studying acting, he tried his best to discourage him.
The explanation given by the father is both amusing and incomprehensible to the child
Your appearance is really not very attractive, and you are not suitable for the profession of acting. ”
A father who is rarely cared for, although he finally begins to care about his children's lives, turns out to be like pouring cold water on him.
For anyone, it can make their hearts ache.
Although Zhang Fengyi later clarified the matter in an interview.
The reason I say this is because I want my child to finish at least high school.
Next, you can choose to study at film school or drama school.
After having a broader knowledge background and rich life experience, I think about the possibility of becoming an actor.
That's true, but for a young man who has just finished junior high school.
This basin of "cold water" from the father has caused deep trauma in the human heart.
Despite his father's continued opposition, he has come to see becoming an actor his dream.
Therefore, even after being reprimanded by his father, he completed art school.
After that, he successfully entered the Chinese opera and came from the same academy as Wei Daxun.
I mistakenly thought that as long as I was admitted to the drama school, my father would have a slight affection for me.
At the graduation ceremony, he happily invited his father to come a**.
When his father asks who his protagonist is, he replies that it is him.
Who would have thought that this would give my father another heavy blow.
You play the male lead, will this drama attract the audience? ”
In the face of this so-called "cold water", Zhang Boyu has gradually adapted.
In 2015, he met his true love.
At the time of the wedding, both Yu Qing and Yu Li need to send invitations to their fathers.
Fathers should also be involved in such major life events.
Despite this, Zhang Fengyi still did not go.
This situation seems to be both unexpected and reasonable.
When the son entered the palace of marriage, a total of 27 tables were prepared for the banquet.
Although my father thought that the behavior of 27 tables was too high-profile, in fact the performance of one table was enough.
Invite someone close to you, and it's just a matter of doing it.
In addition to this, he is not ashamed to claim that he has been married twice.
It is impossible to overstate the familiarity with these things.
In addition to believing that the son's wedding was too large, there was another consideration.
If he attends the wedding, he will definitely meet his ex-wife and her husband.
He felt that he usually had no contact, but it was too embarrassing to meet at the wedding.
The second reason is that, as bystanders, we can still understand something.
However, the first reason is really incomprehensible.
Not to mention Zhang Boyu's identity as the second generation of stars, he has been married and has 27 tables.
Even if the average person gets married, they need at least a dozen dining tables.
Preparing just one table of food can be overwhelming for some, he said.
Even if the son agrees, the daughter-in-law will most likely not.
After all, who wouldn't want to get married looking so glamorous?
After experiencing countless disappointments, Zhang Boyu no longer has expectations for his father's deep love.
He once expressed his feelings on social **:
Those who are lucky will be healed by their childhood during their lifetime, while those who are less fortunate will spend their lives ** their own childhood. ”
For Zhang Boyu, it was during the period when he needed his father's love the most.
The father turned a deaf ear to this and even poured cold water on it.
Today, he is an adult and has a thriving career.
Since her debut, she has performed under the direction of her mother, and now she is able to take on roles on her own.
The list of actors who collaborated started with Wen Zhengrong, passed through Zhang Jiayi, and finally Li Xuejian.
The progress he has made in his acting skills is palpable to the audience.
Currently, he has achieved great success in his career and has a happy family life.
Now I have reached an age where I don't rely on my father's love, but I can still live a good life.
Surprisingly, my father came over to say goodbye.
In a program that aired in 2020, his son was mentioned.
The father suddenly realizes his mistake and feels that he owes something to his son.
After getting married again, I didn't have children again, which made me feel sorry.
In that show, his tears slid down and his eyes became moist, and he said to the camera:
For those viewers who are not familiar with him, they will surely be moved to tears by his words.
I think this father must have loved his son dearly.
Many people don't know that today's affection is actually a compensation for the cold attitude of the past.
For the adult son, these compensation measures seem to have come a little late.
His "unfortunate" teenage years have been healed by other family members.
For the father, the unforgiveness of the past is no longer so crucial.
Do you think Zhang Boyu should let go of all the past and forgive his father?
Zhang Fengyi