If you ask a married person what the criteria for a good man are, the answer may be varied. But a person who often talks about his wife, saying that he is a good man, that he is a person who loves his wife, is probably not wrong. Putting aside the dazzling aura of "poetry saint", Du Fu is also an ordinary husband, an old man who loves his wife.
In the twenty-ninth year of Kaiyuan (741 AD), the 29-year-old Du Fu got rid of his single. He built Luhun Villa at the foot of Shouyang Mountain in Yanshi County, Luoyang, and got marriedHongnong County(now Lingbao County) Sinong Shaoqing Yang Yi's daughter as his wife. This position is the deputy director of Sinong Temple in the "Nine Temples and Five Supervisors" of the Tang Dynasty, and the rank is equivalent to today's vice minister of agriculture from the fourth grade. Sinong Temple is a state affairs agency, in charge of the national grain granary and Lu rice.
Before marriage, the old man looked at the young man in front of him and asked, "Zimei, your Jingzhao Du clan is a famous family, I don't know who else is in the family now?" ”
Du Fu patted his chest and said proudly: "Grandfather Bi Jian Gong (Du Xunyan), ...... have passed away for a long time”
The old man nodded and said, "Well, I know, I know, the former dynasty's food department member Wailang, one of the "Four Friends of the Article", a great poet." ”
Du Fu continued: "My father, Du Xian, is an official in Shandong and is now Sima of Yanzhou. ”
The old man nodded again and said, "There is an impression, there is an impression, Du Xianling is a good person." ”
The old man changed his words and asked again: "Zimei, what are you doing now?" ”
Du Fu was a little ashamed, lowered his head and said: "I roam Wuyue, travel around Qilu, strengthen my mind, and write poems by the way." “
But then he puffed up his chest again and said to his father-in-law: "I will make persistent efforts to gain fame as soon as possible, and I will definitely be good to Miss!" ”
The old man looked at the high-spirited young man, and said seriously and gently: "Don't forget these two major events, my daughter will be handed over to you!" ”
Du Fu married the young sister of the Yang family back home.
He is ten years older than her, and unfortunately he did not write a biography for his love for her, so the name is unknown, let's call it Yang. Both families are official eunuchs, and they can be said to be a good match.
A few years before and after marriage, because he had a good family background and lived a very comfortable life, he had the conditions to pay for "poetry and distance".will be overwhelmingSee the mountains at a glance("Wangyue"), revealing the extraordinary ambitions of his youth; “**Qi ZhaojianQiu Ma is quite crazy("Grand Tour"), he lived a wealthy and uninhibited life when he was young. After his marriage, he followed his idol three timesLi BaiTraveling in the mountains and rivers, looking for teachers and friends, it is very proud.
Bidding farewell to his idol Li Bai and meeting his friend Gao Shi, he remembered his father-in-law's words and prepared for the exam as planned to make progress.
It's a pity that his career has been rough and his fate has been uneventful. I took the exam once before marriage, but I met an examiner named Li Ang, who was not very good, and he was small-minded, bad-tempered, and "impatient and intolerant". As a result, he unfortunately fell off the list. Under the comfort of his wife, he was not discouraged, reviewed carefully, and waited for the opportunity.
In the sixth year of Tianbao (747), Tang Xuanzong issued an edict that "anyone who has talent can go to Chang'an to participate in a special examination".
He was in high spirits, said goodbye to his wife, and set out on the journey. With a wave of his sleeve, he took away only a line of tears from his wife. At the age of 36, he was full of confidence and performed well in the examination room, just waiting for the results to be announced. Waiting for the list with him, there is another person calledMeta knots's classmates, later famous scholars and Taoists of the Tang Dynasty.
Unfortunately, a traitor named Li Linfu directed a farce of "Wild and Virtuous", and all the scholars were defeated, and everyone was killed by this grandson. When Yuan Jie saw it, he was embarrassed and went back to Yushan. He was so depressed that he didn't know how to tell his wife this ridiculous story.
At night, nesting in a small shop in Chang'an, he thought about his wife's face, tossing and turning, and couldn't sleep. I was worried, and my wife sent a letter, with only one sentence: I've heard about it, don't be sad. Go home early and refuel next time.
He thought to himself that with our talent, write a few poems and dedicate them to those powerful people in the capital, it shouldn't be difficult to do a certain errand. And then, there was no then.
Seven or eight years passed, and he was finally awarded one by the imperial courtCaptain Kawanishipetty officer, but he is not willing to let it go".Don't be a captain of HexiDesolation is bent at the waist("After the Official Decision"). The imperial court gave him another right guard to lead the houseCao Cao joined the armyA petty officer, responsible for guarding the weapons and armor. There was no way to live, so he had to accept the appointment. Then, he repliedBong-first(now Pucheng, Shaanxi) was about to pick up his wife and children for reunion, and as soon as he arrived at the door, he heard his wife's crying, and it turned out that his youngest son was starving to death."Getting started with a sniffThe young son died of hunger”。(500 words from Beijing to Fengxian County).
Not long after, at the age of forty-four, he experienced another catastrophe in his life, and the "Anshi Rebellion" broke out. In the news the day before yesterday, it was also said that Datang was prosperous and stable, but Luoyang was lost yesterday, Tongguan is gone today, and Chang'an is estimated to not be able to keep it tomorrow. From northern Shaanxi to Guanzhong, there were people fleeing everywhere.
He took his whole family and fled to Shaanxi called oneJuzhouof Qiang village for refuge. 鄜 (fū) Prefecture is today's Yan'an Fu County. After settling his wife and children, he went out to find an organization. The news said that Su Zong was thereLingwu(present-day Lingwu County, Ningxia) ascended the throne, and he immediately set off for the north. As a result, he ran into the rebels head-on and was captured back to Chang'an. In prison, he was accompanied by a great poet who was already famous all over the world at that timeWang Wei。The fate of this pair of brothers and sisters was completely different, and soon, this Wang Brother Tai was forced to take up a "false position", and he was concentrated on the official because of his humble position, so he had the opportunity to escape.
On a lonely night, he looked up at the moon and thought of his wife, and couldn't help but blur his eyesTonight is the month of JuzhouBoudoir only looks alone。("Moonlit Night").
What does the Yang family look like? We all want to know, but there is too little information. Fortunately, there is a famous sentence in the poem "Moonlit Night", which he wrote directly to Yang, and we can get a glimpse of it.
Fragrant mist and wet cloudsQinghui jade arm cold
In the moonlit night, a woman stared blankly at the moon, missing her husband who was far away in Chang'an. After a long time, the mist with the scent of fat powder wet the hair, and under the clear light of the moon, the white and warm arms like jade were cool. Some people say that this poem is very beautifully written! Would an old guy with a sad face write such affectionate poems? But this is indeed from Du Fu's handwriting, and every word is written by him. Looking at this poem again, although Yang's eyebrows and eyes are not written, from this picture full of love and appreciation, it can be concluded that Yang is a beautiful woman. The poem was written in 756, in the early thirties of the Yang family, at the time of its scorching glory.
Another of his poems, "One Hundred and Five Days and Nights to the Moon", directly writes about Yang's frowning and frowning sad face. "One hundred and five days" refers to the Cold Food Festival, also known as the "One Hundred and Five Days", one hundred and five days is intended to show that he has been away from his wife for a long time, and the days are coming with his fingers every day. “Phew（pǐ）Away from the red stamenImagine it(颦).MothsThe laurel tree on the moon grows red stamens after parting, and my wife must be frowning because she misses me. "Hongrui" and "frog" both refer to women, and it can be seen that Yang is of noble birth, beautiful appearance, and is a well-informed lady.
In that small village in northern Shaanxi, the Yang family waited for a long, long time.
Finally, in the evening, a familiar thin figure appeared at the entrance of the village, it was him, the dust servant, he came back alive. This time, the organization appointed him as Zuo Shiji, a petty official of the seventh grade.
The wife began to cry, and the wall was full of neighbors, all lamenting for them.
The night is more candlelessRelatively dreamyThe night is very deep, under the flickering candlelight, the husband and wife sit opposite each other, excited for the reunion after a long absence, no sleep, you look at me, I look at you, like in a dream.
After that, they have been living a life of running around. He was always employed and unemployed, and his wife followed him like a rootless duckweed, wandering in troubled times.
He always writes about his family life in his poems, like keeping a diary, which is poignant to read:
Warp to thatched hutsThe wife is dressed in knotsShe lived in a thatched house all year round, and a young lady was reduced to wearing patches of patched clothes.
The old wife sent to a different countyTen mouths from the wind and snowThe wife went to relatives and friends, and the family sent people under the fence, and the two places separated.
The old wife was paralyzedThe young girl asks about the headwindThe wife was worried that her body would be paralyzed if she sat for a long time, and her youngest daughter also asked if the headache was better.
There is no dry leak in the bedside roomThe rain is like hemp and has not been cut offThe thatched hut often leaked rain, which wet the bedside.
The days are always like this, but as long as his wife is by his side and his children are by his side, his life is still sunny and there are many happy days.
Although often".The bag is still shyLeave it for a look", but".Pink delicacy also debudsJacket（chóu）A little listThe thin wife's face is restored** Head to self-coneWhen he came back from outside, he still didn't forget to bring some cosmetics and some futons and bed nets for his wife. Seeing that her husband brought back these inconspicuous things, the wife's face showed joy again, as if youth had returned to her face a little.
InAzusa(now Santai, Sichuan), I heard that the official army had recovered Henan and Hebei, and the situation was about to be stabilized.
What are you worried about, the whole family is ecstatic, and hurriedly packed up their things and prepared to return to their hometown,"But look at what is the sorrow of his wifeThe comic book of poetry is ecstatic
After settling in the thatched cottage by Huanhua Creek in Chengdu, it was the most stable and happy time in his later years. “The old wife draws paper for a chess gameThe child knocks the needle to make a fishing hookHis wife drew a chessboard with paper, and he accompanied her to play chess, and his youngest son made a fishing hook next to him, so he accompanied him to the river to fish.
When he died, he was in a drifting boat, and she was by his side.
He said to his wife, I'm sorry, I haven't made a name for myself yet, and I'm suffering.
Lao Du has always felt ashamed of her all his life,"What day is the endPiao Piao is ashamed of his old wife
Lao Du has always been attached to her all his life, and frequently wrote her into poems,"I occasionally take my old wife with meMiserable and miserableThe old wife counts the paperIt should be known that there is no return
It can be said that his wife is a partner and a bosom friend to Lao Du.
The love between Lao Du and his wife has been consistent for 30 years, and they are the most affectionate couple among the great poets of the Tang Dynasty. In his poems, I can't see any frivolous and "improper" words, nor can I find any traces of entering and leaving the Qinlou Chu Pavilion, let alone any lace news. Some people say that they are not poor. Actually, no, Guy Lao Du is such a person.
Either way".To Jun Yao ShunThen make the customs pureBoys are born in the worldand strong as a marquis", still".The country is broken by mountains and riversThe city is deep in spring grass and treesThree times to look at the world's most frequent calculationsThe two dynasties opened the hearts of the old ministersLao Du is in the rivers and lakes, with Wei Que in his heart, even if his ideals are torn to pieces by reality, he still adheres to the feelings of family and country in his heart.
In the troubled times, Lao Du's deepest concern is his wife and children, relatives and friends, and even more so the people of Jiangshan and Limin. Lao Du was evaluated by later generations as a "love saint", a person with the most holy feelings, naturally loves his wife, and is naturally a good man.
The most touching love in the worldIt's not the vigorous sea vows, but the daily firewood, rice, oil and saltEveryday trivialitiesAlthough it is unremarkableBut inadvertently go straight to each other's heartsTouch the softness of each other's heartsA soft heartThe days are getting warmerIt doesn't matter if it's poor or richIs it stability or turmoil?
On the way home is the New Year