Someone once told me that a relationship is like a long marathon that requires perseverance and dedication. However, one day I found out that extramarital affairs are a three-hurdle problem, and most people will lose when they get through the second hurdle.
My name is Li Ting, and I am an ordinary office worker. Married life has always been the most prosaic and warm part of my life, until one day, a man named Zhang Yang broke into my life. It was a sunny afternoon, and Zhang Yang and I met at work. He is a new senior manager in the company, handsome and dashing, and very good at work. We quickly became colleagues, and my liking for him grew unconsciously.
Our relationship gradually sublimated, from colleagues to friends to ulterior relationships. I knew it wasn't right, but I couldn't help myself. Whenever he brought me a cup of coffee in the office or called me a ** in the middle of the night, I always fell into an indescribable sweetness. The first hurdle is the duel between reason and emotion. In my head, there are constant voices reminding me that this is wrong, irresponsible for marriage, and betrayal of family. However, sensibility is like a spell that keeps me trapped in this emotional whirlpool. Every time I met him, it was a tug-of-war between my emotions and my intellect.
The second hurdle is the torture of choice and abandonment. As time went on, I started to find myself in a dilemma. Between my family and Zhang Yang, I needed to make a difficult choice between it. And this choice is often accompanied by pain and entanglement. I tried to let go and told myself to stay away from him, but whenever I made that decision, he always reappeared in my life in an ineffable way. At this time, I realized that the second hurdle is something that most people can't get through. Choosing to leave means giving up feelings, and choosing to persist means betraying the family. The third hurdle is the helplessness in the face of reality and the future. As the affair continued to develop, I began to see the cruelty of reality. There is not a real future between us, just a dream of escapism. Zhang Yang also confessed one day that he did not plan to leave his family, but just wanted to find some comfort outside of marriage. At this time, I realized that the love between us was nothing but an illusion, and it was fragile.
In the end, Zhang Yang and I chose to go back to our original lives. I went back to my family, to my husband and children. The extramarital affair eventually died from these three hurdles, and I also re-examined myself in the painful grind. This experience made me understand that relationships require reason and responsibility, and getting lost in an extramarital affair can only be a tragedy in the end. Every time I think about this experience, I can feel a tingling in my heart. But it also makes me cherish the happiness in front of me even more. Perhaps, the confusion and pain in the past is a growth in my life. In this tortuous love, I understood the importance of responsibility, and I also cherished the warmth of family even more. There is nothing in life that an extramarital affair can make up for, and only real dedication to the family can make people truly find inner peace. Welcome to comment and leave a message, like and follow, if there is any infringement problem, please contact us.