When you think about it, it is.
Walking in the world, I often feel that life is difficult to cross and difficult to move in the middle of the night.
But when I found a friend to talk to, I finally found out that in the life of an adult, everyone is the rest of their lives, you can't help me, and I can't replace you.
In the sea of life, it is useless to talk, only to bear silently and be strong secretly is the posture that everyone should have.
There is less empathy in the world, and more self-knowledge of warmth and coldness
There is a sentence in "One Sentence Top 10,000 Sentences": "All things in the world can't stand scrutiny, and when scrutinized, every thing hides grievances." ”
In the adult world, there is no one who lives without suffering and pain.
But when you try to find solace and desire someone to empathize, you will find that the difficulty is imminent, and you do not know the weight; The knife does not pierce the body, and it does not feel pain.
In this world, there are many people who know themselves warmly and coldly, and few people can empathize with you.
If you keep talking about your days, you will only get more and more bitter.
When I read "Water Margin" before, I was embarrassed when I read one place.
Li Kui in "Water Margin", although he kills people like hemp, he has an upright temperament.
Because he recognized Song Jiang as his brother, he always looked forward to him.
One day, Li Kui saw Song Jiang reuniting with Song Taigong, and he also missed his mother, so he went down the mountain alone, wanting to take his mother up the mountain to enjoy the blessings.
After receiving his mother, Li Kui carried his mother on his back day and night, and when he arrived at Yiling, his mother was thirsty, so Li Kui looked for land to get water, but when he came back, he found that his mother had been eaten by a tiger.
After avenging his mother, Li Kui, who returned to Liangshan, cried and talked about it when he saw his brothers.
Who knew that Chao and Song listened to it, but they were still only happy that the two leaders had joined the cottage, and said with a smile: "You killed four tigers, and today there are two more live tigers in the cottage, which is suitable for celebration." ”
The relationship between people is nothing but immersing themselves in their own joys and sorrows.
There is a good saying: "Our hearts, our flesh, grow on each of us, the ups and downs, and the taste of our own taste, only we know." ”
Some roads can only be walked alone, and some are difficult and can only be borne alone.
Instead of trying to comfort yourself and suffering the pain of not being understood, it is better to heal yourself silently.
When he falls, he gets up; When you're tired, give yourself a break.
Everything is self-digesting, like a cactus, enduring thirst, surviving the sun, and slowly becoming taller.
In the adult world, you need to carry everything by yourself
Someone once asked on the Internet: "Why do you post less and less Moments status?" ”
Someone replied, "I began to realize that most of my affairs have nothing to do with others." ”
In this world, the rain is majestic, everyone has their own calamities to cross, there is no way back, and others are difficult to help.
So no matter how many people you show your scars, it won't help.
In the end, you have to live by yourself, and you have to taste all kinds of ups and downs, after all, you have to taste it yourself.
There was a single mother who was kicked out of the house by her mother-in-law on the grounds of Kefu after her husband died.
For herself and her daughter, she works harder than men, getting up early and greedy for darkness, rain or shine.
In such a situation, many people around her are tired and distressed for her.
She doesn't have time to be sad, she makes herself smile every day, uses various methods to make her daughter happy, or tries her best to think about how to solve the current dilemma.
Although life was difficult, she did not need sympathy or any comfort.
She calmly said to the people around her: "Being able to grow up with my daughter is worth it no matter how hard I work." ”
In the adult world, most of them have already turned their crying into silent mode.
Even if his heart has long been collapsed, he always looks calm in front of people.
Because they understand that pouring out their misfortunes will only expose their weaknesses and consume their upward strength.
Therefore, when walking in the world, you have to convince yourself and lift yourself up.
Cultivate your state of mind to be calmer, swallow your own hardships, and bear your own tiredness.
As Bi Shumin wrote:
"It is life that is gloomy and cowering, and it is also life that is high-spirited, happy, and full of interest. I weighed the pros and cons and felt that the latter way of living would be more appropriate. ”
When you have overcome the wind and rain and overcome obstacles, you can one day grow wings to fly at the wound.
A good life begins with quitting the desire to talk
The ancients said: "The hemp rope is broken in detail, and bad luck is only looking for the miserable." ”
There are many difficulties in life, and the more you think about it, the more bitter it becomes, and the more you talk about it, the more painful it becomes.
Time and silence are the best medicine to heal the pain.
So no matter how hard life is, don't let your heart be bitter, your heart will be bright, and you can finally see the dawn.
Actor Zhang Yi's dream in his early years was to be an announcer, but he failed to make the list, and he was unemployed at home, and he joined the study class of the Drama Academy under the persuasion of his parents.
After half a year of study, he gradually developed a love for drama, and after going south and north, he joined the Beijing Comrades-in-Arms Repertory Troupe in 1997.
But in the cadet class, he has never had a play to act, and the only ** show ended in failure because he was too nervous.
In this way, he became a little transparent in the troupe, and others played the leading role, and he only had his turn to write some conference reports.
Despite this, he never complained, nor did he confide in anyone, but just used this grinding as a stepping stone and worked hard to climb up.
In his spare time when he was writing reports, he worked his acting skills and wrote scripts by himself.
This time, it has been 20 years from off the stage to on the stage.
In 2018, Zhang Yi finally won the Golden Eagle Award for Best Actor for his role as Chen Jianghe in the TV series "Chicken Feathers Fly to the Sky".
There is a saying: "If there is nothing new under the sun, don't be a poor person in the world." ”
Life is down, but you have crossed the peak and stepped into the fan bone again.
After walking a few steps, looking around, there are mountain roads everywhere.
What we have to do is to swallow the grievances, swallow the complaints, settle the heart, and ferry ourselves out of the groove where we are at the moment.
Only by surviving these days that no one cares about you can you be worthy of the blessings that others do not enjoy.
Once, Bai Yansong instructed his students to copyTao Te Chingand write down a few more words that you think are best.
As a result, many students chose a sentence from chapter 23 afterwards:
"The wind never ends, and the rain never ends. ”
No matter how strong the wind is, no matter how heavy the rain is, it will stop.
The ancients Zeng Yun: "Silence when mourning." ”
Suffering will flow to those who complain, and luck will only favor those who laugh at life.
In the days to come, don't cry, let alone internal friction, the hardships you have suffered today, the losses you have suffered, the responsibilities you have beared, and the pain you have endured will eventually turn into light and illuminate every road you have ever had.