The words of the people are like a good medicine, relieving the anxiety of parents: "If you are an ordinary parent, without rich resources and advanced culture, and are confused about how to educate your children, then you might as well give your children more encouragement, recognition, praise and support, and avoid passing on your cognition, anxiety, fear, anger and grievances to your children, which is the best education for children." If the child is ordinary, then enjoy the family fun; If the child excels, let him soar freely. Accept the child's ordinariness as if the child has never had high demands on his parents. Remember, don't complain about your parents' poverty, don't compare your brother's filial piety, don't blame your wife for your hard work, and don't lose your temper with your children. ”
In the current era of increasingly fierce competition, social pressures are constantly moving forward, from college entrance examinations and employment to various talent competitions, children seem to be placed above the starting line.
However, in this race, many parents often lose their way and weigh their anxieties, fears, and expectations on their children, leaving them with a heavy burden.
But have we ever thought deeply about what children really need?
Every child is a seed, but each seed blooms differently.
Some flowers bloom early and are gorgeous; Some flowers, which take time, bloom slowly.
You don't have to be anxious because someone else's flower blooms early, and your own hasn't bloomed yet.
What children need for their growth is not excessive stimulation, but moderate sunshine and rain, which is the soil that parents cultivate with love and patience.
Patiently caring for your seed, quietly waiting for it to grow, and accompanying it through the wind and rain, this is not a kind of happiness.
As Liang Xiaosheng said in "The World": "If a child is an ordinary person, he will be happy with his parents; If you are talented, let it fly freely; Accept the ordinariness of the child, just as the child never asks the parents to be excellent. ”
As parents, we must learn to face up to reality, accept our own ordinariness, and accept our children's ordinariness.
Your seed may never bloom, but it may grow into a towering tree!
Whether the child is outstanding or ordinary, for parents, other people's children are someone else's after all, and their own children are warm little padded jackets.
May all parents let go of their high expectations and heavy burdens, and accompany their children to grow up with a peaceful mind.