In life, have you ever met such a woman:
The corners of their eyes may have crawled into wrinkles, but there is always a kind of elegance in their gestures, and they always give people a very comfortable feeling when they talk and act.
They may be wives, mothers, daughters, etc., but they can always handle the relationship behind each identity.
They may not be treated well by time, but over the years, they have precipitated a kind of wisdom and calmness unique to women.
They will also face various trials in life, but they can always start from the overall situation and calmly accept every "torture" of life.
They seem strong, not used to it, but aware that holding back will not only help, but can make things worse.
Although they have the blessing of age, they also have experience, they may be past the best age of women, but they live in the "right year" every day.
And their charm is always revealed in the confrontation with life again and again.
"Experience".
When it comes to experience, many people will subconsciously equate it with age.
But in fact, there is not a big connection between the two, age is just an increase in numbers, but experience is more about the attitude and way of dealing with things, and this reflects the wisdom of a woman.
Do you still remember Concubine Jing in "Langya Bang"? This middle-aged harem lady always gives people a calm and calm feeling every time she appears.
She entered the palace as a medical woman, from a humble background, but she never gave up on herself. Although he gave birth to a prince, he was not taken seriously by the emperor. has been unknown in the harem for many years, does not make enemies with others, and does not compete for favor.
But she understands things very well, she doesn't ask about many things, she is not curious, but once she makes a move, she often defeats the enemy with one move.
From her, we can clearly see the wisdom that experience brings to a woman.
After she was favored, she was humiliated by the queen in public, and instead of crying and running to complain to the emperor, she laughed at it with a generous attitude, but let the emperor promote her position.
After the emperor ordered the ban on the East Palace, the city was full of turmoil, and she ran to her to hide and relax, she did not listen to the truth with a gossip heart, but understood the emperor's father's kindness, which made the emperor very pleased.
King Yu rebelled, she and a cadre of people were trapped in the palace, but they were not afraid of danger, and arranged the right people to count the available manpower in each palace and effectively solve the problem. From her body, we can see that experience is a hole in the silence, but also the wisdom and courage when the development is made.
Many people say that when people reach middle age, they are smoothed out by life, so they dare not be emotional anymore when encountering things, and they also lack curiosity.
But I would say that for many women, emotions may be difficult to get rid of, but experience has taught them how to endure and also let them know how to focus on the right place.
There is such a sentence in "The Battle of Marriage":
"What is really terrible is the kind of woman who has experience and understanding, they are like secret olives, rich in taste, full of fragrance, and the more you taste, not only can capture the feelings of men, but also penetrate their minds, in case she still has money, it is even more dangerous. ”
For women, experience is more like the bell of a robot cat, which can always "change" what you need, and it will make people wonder what else in your "bell" is unimaginable.
And isn't the charm of a woman from the treasure-like "bell"?
"Responsibility".
When it comes to responsibility, many people equate it with burden.
In some cases, liability limits people from doing something, and in other cases, it forces people to do something.
But let's not forget that behind the responsibility, it is often the embodiment of a person's maturity.
This is especially true for middle-aged women.
I once watched an interview with Dong Mingzhu, she said that she was under great pressure after becoming the CEO of Gree, and her body was once red light due to her work day and night.
She has been hospitalized several times a year, all of which are due to physical reasons and have to temporarily stop working**. She said that every time she was lying on the hospital bed and struggling in pain, she secretly decided: "Don't do it, this job is too bad!" ”
But every time I was discharged from the hospital and returned on the way, my fighting spirit was instantly ignited: "No, I have to do it!" ”
In fact, it is not difficult for us to imagine that Dong Mingzhu must have experienced countless difficulties and countless sleepless nights when she sat in her current position, and she also had countless reasons to give up, but as a national entrepreneur, her sense of responsibility and mission made her grit her teeth again and again to hold on to the present, and also brought Gree to today's height.
Dong Mingzhu's charm is undoubted, if you have to sum it up in one word, I think:
A sense of responsibility is the best answer.
In fact, it returns to every ordinary middle-aged woman, and the same is true.
A mother's highlight moment may not be how good her child has achieved results, but knowing that there are many shortcomings in her child, she can persist again and again, patiently help her child correct it, and let her little crooked tree grow back into a straight state.
The wisdom of a wife may not be how much her husband listens to her, but that after knowing that her husband has made a mistake, she does not blindly blame, but faces it with the other party as a partner.
Responsibility is not to compromise and seek perfection, but to be wise and rational under the overall situation, and to know how to advance and retreat.
For many middle-aged women, responsibility is that when they face problems, they have countless reasons to walk away, but they have the courage to turn around.
The more mature you are, the more you find that the charm of women may not be beautiful and elegant on the surface, even if they are no longer young, there is no lack of favor from the opposite sex.
It is her "tension" in adversity, she always has to fight when she encounters something, and she retreats when she encounters something, and the results she faces are often very different, and the charm she releases cannot be compared.
A favorite writer said:
"When a woman is middle-aged, social status, personal charm, and net worth are the guarantees of happiness. ”
And these are often inseparable from the accumulation of experience and the burden of responsibility.
This is not to say that women have to work hard before they can get what they want. It is said that what life gives to every woman is not only the wind and snow, but also the beating of the wind and waves, and the difficult transformation again and again.
We all understand that "the edge of the sword comes from the sharpening, and the fragrance of plum blossoms comes from the bitter cold", and the charm of women is not also released little by little in the tests of life, the suppression of setbacks, and the summary of failures?
You can adhere to the concept of "nothing to do with yourself, hang high", or you can practice the lifestyle of "life is short, and you can be happy in time".
It's just that in life, there will always be great opportunities and huge setbacks, and these, if you don't have strong ability, you can't take it and can't bear it.
So, for a woman, the infinite charm of the scenery comes from?
I think you already have the answer.