At the age of 58, I suddenly realized that after my parents left, the affection between siblings no longer existed!
In our family, there is a saying "people go to tea and cool down", which has been vividly reflected in our family.
Last year, both parents passed away due to illness, which was a huge blow to all three of our siblings. We had to go back and forth to the hospital frequently, especially the second sister, who often joked that we almost treated the hospital as a second home.
I am the eldest in the family, and I have not been able to achieve anything great, and I have been staying at home to take care of my parents and take care of the family's one-third of an acre. Although life is quite fulfilling, my younger brothers and sisters have the ability to buy a house outside and start a family. Every Chinese New Year, they go home with gifts in their hands, which attracts the envy of the people in the village, and they all sigh that our parents are not hard.
However, after my parents died, I found that everything had changed.
On this year's National Day, I thought that the holiday would be long and the pigs at home would be able to give birth, so I thought about giving them a ** and asking them to help buy some meat in the city. But I didn't expect them to be unable to come back on the grounds that something was wrong. It seems that the phrase "people go to tea and cool down" is not groundless.
I thought to myself, life is indeed busy. It's true that working in the city isn't as easy as at home. So I decided to take it myself and slaughtered some meat and gave it to the people in the village, half for each person.
First of all, I went to the second child's house, and she was a little startled when she saw me suddenly appear, and asked me directly why I came. I was a little angry and told her that I was here to deliver meat, put it at the door and left.
The third brother was even more excessive, he didn't even open the door for me, and asked me to put the meat in the security booth, saying that he was at work and couldn't leave, and he would come back to get it after work in the evening. I thought to myself, my brother and sister are obviously at home, why don't you let them come out and get them?
On the way home, I kept thinking that as soon as my parents left, these two people were cold to me, did they dislike me for embarrassing them in the countryside? Unexpectedly, as soon as the parents left, even the family relationship between siblings disappeared!
Once upon a time, we were confidants who talked about everything, sharing the laughter and tears of childhood together. We trust each other and support each other. But as time passed, we began to be so busy pursuing our own careers and happiness that we gradually neglected each other's existence. Although we are still relatives, we are drifting apart and becoming strangers.
Perhaps it is the tense atmosphere and fierce competition in the current society that have caused us to gradually lose that warmth. We seem to have become more selfish, pursuing only personal gain and pleasure, forgetting the deep friendships of the past. The frequency of communication gradually decreased, and ** no longer rang frequently, and even the simplest greetings became strange and distant.
I started thinking that maybe I should sit down with them and have a good conversation. Perhaps, they really don't want to think of me as their brother anymore.