It seems that many years ago, when I was still in the countryside, I heard those adults talk about the "honest" man on the blind date, and it seemed to be very reliable. So I took "honesty" as an advantage in my heart, and conformed to my genes, and naturally grew into an honest person.
When I got older, the doorman of the unit commented that I was the most honest, and I was a little proud at this time, a bit of the best among the people. It wasn't until later, when I was ridiculed by the leader during a chat, that I really only served soup when I asked me to serve soup, and I was a real person, that I felt that "honest person" was not a glorious label. Later, after experiencing some things, I felt more and more that honest people are about the same as stupid people.
In recent years, Douyin has become popular in the circle, and some ** people shake their burdens below, and there are always individual netizens who are enthusiastic about correcting them, and then attract a sentence of "There is an honest man here, everyone come and bully him", and they feel more and more that this is a virtue that can be discarded. However, the temperament is difficult to change, credulous blind obedience, and the rules are already deep in the bone marrow, and they have been fed by themselves to develop the biggest character traits.
Once I went out to run errands with my mother, my mother had a bad stomach, so I ate noodles first; I chose another buffet. There is a soup in the buffet, which is sour radish and duck soup, and my mother asked me to serve it vigorously, saying that it looks delicious; I put a bowl in front of her. In my opinion, a buffet must contain soup, and this bowl of soup is the same for me and her. But my mother walked around the table and refused to sit down, and said a little embarrassedly, "I don't drink, others will say it when the time comes." "It's also true that I met the boss, and I didn't say anything, and in the end my mother didn't take a sip. At that moment, I suddenly realized where my honesty came from, and I also witnessed and subjectively felt the stereotype of honest people.
As a veteran honest person, I still believe that honesty should be a virtue. But "honesty" does bring a lot of trouble to honest people. For example, once, a colleague asked me about an evaluation condition, and I answered truthfully: "XX is responsible for this matter, and I don't know the specific content." As a result, the leadership came across the idea that I was shirking my responsibilities. In other words, they usually do not answer questions that may cause ambiguity directly and directly; And honest people like me usually use "can" to deal with "can't", "yes" to answer "yes", and numbers to answer "no". There is also a more prominent problem of honest people in work and life, that is, rigidity. For example, if the higher department requires 1 point to submit the materials, the witty person will judge whether to submit it on time according to everyone's usual practice, and the honest person will strictly implement it, otherwise there will be a sense of guilt. Moreover, in this era of rapid change, honest people are accustomed to using the old system, rarely innovating, and may not even take the initiative to accept new things, which has many disadvantages for work and life.
In the process of dealing with people, in addition to not hiding their emotions and loving to tell the truth, it is easy to trigger contradictions, and they will not fight for opportunities, but they will also react slowly and be bullied. Maybe in addition to honesty, there is also an element of kindness in it, after all, human nature is very complicated. But honest people didn't run away when they suffered losses.
I hope that all honest people can be a little mellow and keep pace with the times while adhering to principles.
I hope that all people in the world can understand and treat honest people well.