Recently, poet Yu Xiuhua talked about the pressure faced by older single women from the outside world in an exclusive interview. This pressure is undoubtedly the influence of traditional social concepts on individual choices. However, whether to get married, and how to define marriage, is a question that needs to be considered by every woman.
With the progress and diversification of society, people's definition of happiness in life is no longer limited to the traditional family model. The younger generation of newlyweds are choosing to live independently, and there is a growing number of dink families and single options. These phenomena reflect the growing respect for individual choices, but there are still pressures on older single women who, for various reasons, are not able to enter the palace of marriage.
Many women are full of longing for love and marriage at a young age, but as they get older, some of them may miss out on the "best age to marry" due to emotional trauma, busy careers, family or personal reasons. At this time, the traditional values of society often put additional pressure on them, making them feel that they have to compromise on the issue of marriage.
However, marriage is not the only choice in life, nor is it a guarantee of happiness. Many women believe that marrying the wrong person is much more harmful than not marrying. The irresponsible partner, domestic violence, and unequal sharing of family responsibilities that may be encountered in marriage may make marriage a burden, not a happiness. In this case, single life seems more free and relaxed.
Qian Zhongshu compared marriage to a city in "The Siege of the City", where people in the city want to go out and people outside the city want to come in. This metaphor reveals people's ambivalence about marriage. Married people may miss the freedom they had when they were single, while unmarried people may feel anxious about not meeting the right partner. This contradiction reflects the complexity of the institution of marriage itself, as well as people's different expectations and fears when facing marriage. For women who do not intend to get married, their choice should be respected. Society should not force them to marry for the sake of the so-called "back road". Marriage can indeed provide a mutually supportive lifestyle, but it's not something everyone needs or desires. For those women who choose to be single, they have the ability to face life's difficulties independently and also have the right to pursue what they consider to be happiness. 100 reasons to get married or single