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There is a quality of people called "honesty".
A famous person once said:
Learning to be authentic is an art, and sometimes, art also needs some clever disguise. ”
People, really don't be too honest!
Honesty is a virtue, but in real life, it can also sometimes become a burden, a shackle that prevents us from moving forward.
In the long journey of life, we often find that honesty, although a virtue, can sometimes become a sign of weakness.
In an annual assessment of the company, there are two colleagues, Xiao Li and Xiao Wang, who are very honest and diligent.
In a teamwork project, they faced different situations. Xiao Li always expresses his opinions bluntly in team discussions, and makes suggestions on shortcomings in the work.
His candor gave the whole team a clearer understanding of the problem, but it also caused some colleagues to resent it. Some people think he's too direct and even think he's a bit mean.
On the contrary, although Xiao Wang also has his own opinions, he knows how to skillfully hide his dissatisfaction in his words.
In team meetings, he always asks questions through euphemism, which makes his colleagues accept his views without realizing it.
He defused the conflict with wise words, and also achieved his goal without causing disgust.
In teamwork, being honest is not always the best strategy. Although Xiao Li was sincere, his frankness made his influence in the team decrease, while Xiao Wang skillfully communicated and gained more support.
Instead of learning to pretend, people use different expressions on different occasions on the basis of sincerity to achieve better communication and cooperation.
Be a man, don't be too honest, not a denial of sincerity, but learn to make trade-offs in interpersonal communication, and make good use of words skills.
In the complex web of interpersonal communication, hidden wisdom is often a silent force.
As one sociologist put it:
Relationships are an art, and being good at hiding is one of those skills. ”
Li Ting is an award-winning salesperson known for her sincerity and candour, but she failed in a crucial business negotiation.
She was too frank to reveal her bottom line and intentions, but in exchange for the other party's indifference and distrust.
This setback made her realize that at some point, proper retention and concealment is also a sign of wisdom.
In the next negotiations, Li Ting adopted a different strategy. She learned to express her true intentions while keeping some of her hole cards, making negotiations more flexible and efficient.
This time, she managed to reach an agreement with her client, proving the importance of being good at hidden wisdom in interpersonal interactions.
In interpersonal interactions, excessive honesty does not necessarily lead to trust and success. On the contrary, being good at hiding just the right amount of information can give us more control over the situation and protect our interests.
Being good at hiding is not to refuse others to know the truth, but to better protect yourself in complex interpersonal relationships and achieve greater success.
When we are in interpersonal communication, we can flexibly use the wisdom that is good at concealment, and we can not only be truthful but also take care of our own interests.
In those moments of being too honest, one often discovers that honesty is not always a positive experience.
There is a newcomer named Xiaohua in the workplace, who has always been loved for his authenticity and frankness. As the work became more and more complex, Xiaohua found that his performance in the team was never fully understood.
At every meeting, he always did not hesitate to express his opinions, but he was often met with strange eyes from his colleagues.
At a review meeting, Xiaohua's boss offered some criticism against him, accusing him of being too direct and tactful enough in the team.
At this moment, Xiaohua began to feel the pressure of honesty, and his true character seemed to have become a kind of obstacle to his career.
Being too honest can make people stand out in the team and sometimes even cause discomfort to others.
In a competitive workplace, people tend to appreciate colleagues who are flexible and good at hiding their true thoughts.
We need to recognize that in some situations, being honest may not be the wisest choice.
It's a virtue to be authentic, but there are occasions when we need to be observant and adjust our expressions to avoid the stress of being too honest.
In complex interpersonal interactions, we need to learn to find a balance between honesty and tactfulness.
This requires us to have the wisdom to be able to adapt our reactions to the situation.
A team leader named Xiaohong, she is known for being smart, witty, and good at communicating with the team. At a critical moment in a team decision, she was faced with the challenge of maintaining her own point of view while maintaining team harmony.
In her lessons learned from the past, she found that being outspoken about her views sometimes brought the team to an impasse This time, Xiaohong decided to take a more tactful approach.
While expressing her own opinions, she skillfully leads the team members to discuss together, making the issue more open-ended. As a result, the team members began to speak, and a heated discussion was launched, and a more intelligent solution was found.
To survive in this unpredictable world, we must be flexible and honest, which is the real high emotional intelligence.
Don't insist on being authentic or hiding yourself too much, but find a balance in different situations to make yourself more influential.
The balance of dealing with people is not only to be authentic, but also to be observant and adjust the way you express yourself.
As a wise man said:
In interpersonal communication, the wise man is as elegant as a dancer, stepping out of his own stage with the steps of wisdom. ”
Keeping true is a virtue, and being good at hiding is a kind of wisdom.
We don't have to completely change our honest nature, but we need to protect our true purpose and principles while handling interpersonal relationships wisely.
Life is like a wonderful show, we need to find a balance between truth and hypocrisy, and dance our lives with the steps of wisdom.
May we be more confident and calm in our interpersonal interactions, and meet the challenges of life with a wiser attitude.
Author: Fenghe, pay attention to whether there is anything to say, and accompany you to think about life together.