Language communication is a very important factor in interpersonal communication, with which people can communicate smoothly and their feelings can be sublimated in time. However, in the case of non-verbal speakers, this utility of language is not fully realized. Because people who are not good at talking often speak little when facing others, most of them are silent, and as a result, the atmosphere is silent and they feel embarrassed by each other. This experience caused them a great deal of frustration. In order to avoid being in such an embarrassing situation again, they will try to minimize the opportunity to interact with people and deliberately avoid the occasions where they interact with people. Doing so, although to a certain extent, will not make you feel embarrassed, but in such an increasingly close-knit society, choosing to escape from the crowd is not the best policy after all. If you are away from the crowd, you will be far away from the space for development and lose the opportunity for development.
So,Those who choose to be alone are not good at talking, like stars twinkling silently in the night sky, although they are not public, but they have a unique light. They don't need to be loud to attract people who know how to appreciate them. However, no matter how beautiful the starlight is, it needs someone to look up. Therefore, it is time for these friends who are not good at talking, to come to the front of the stage from behind the scenes, so that more people can see your value. Don't be afraid to show what makes you unique, because that's what makes you most appealing. Be brave enough to step out of your comfort zone and greet those who appreciate you!
At the beginning, you may not be comfortable with strangers, you can't find the right topic, you don't know what to say, this is normal, because it is not easy to get a person who is not good at talking to open the conversation box immediately and talk freely with others. But as long as you're brave enough to take the first step, that's it.
That's half the battle.
Don't be timid in the face of strangers, and don't use past unpleasant experiences to imply that you have nothing to talk about. If you don't know the other person and don't know what topics he likes to talk about, choose some events that are of general concern to the public and express your opinion. Generally speaking, a lot of people will be interested in such a topic, and he will respond to you positively, so that your conversation will naturally begin. Don't worry that others may not agree with your statement, you are just expressing your own thoughts, and many things are also opinionated.
In the course of the conversation, there may be a cold situation, the two sides talk and talk without a topic, fall into silence, this feeling will make people cramped and uneasy, you must get out of this state in the shortest possible time, do not let this negative emotions spread. At this time, you have to force yourself to have nothing to say, there is no need to think about how to continue the previous topic, you can start a new discussion and start a new discussion. There is a wide range of topics to choose from, and some of your special experiences and interesting life stories can be shared with others. If you can't think of a suitable topic for a while, dig up the place from the place you are in. You can talk about your surroundings, you can talk about each other's clothes, you can even talk about the old people on the side of the road, the fashionable girls. As long as you pay attention, you will find that there are many points that can be discussed on the topic.
If you are talking to someone who is good at talking, as long as you respond positively to his conversation, your conversation will be very pleasant, and there will be no coldness; And if you are talking to someone who is not good at finding topics like you, then you might as well talk about your own psychological feelings when facing strangers, because of the similar experience, he will also open up to you, and your mutual clarity will be opened in an instant. You think, that feeling of communicating with people is wonderful.
Some people may feel that the topic they choose is not interesting and the conversation is not so attractive, but it doesn't matter. Humorous and beautiful language is honed in the process of communicating with people over a long period of time. No one is born with a lotus flower in his mouth and witty words, all of which are cultivated through self-practice and communication with others. So, let go of all scruples, boldly go out into the crowd, and communicate with people more often, and you will find that the topic does not need to be deliberately found, it will naturally emerge, and you can come to it easily.