Record My 2024 The flood of Western psychology has made kinship more and more tense and estranged, making more and more people more unhappy because they can't get the comfort of family affection.
The most typical sentence they sell is: a happy childhood can be **a lifetime, and an unhappy childhood needs a lifetime**. The wide spread of this sentence evokes many people's memories and analyses of childhood, making many people feel sorry for their original family and find it difficult to open their hearts, attributing the unhappiness at this time to their parents' incompetence, abusive love, doting and improper education.
It is difficult to argue that this is indeed the status quo of many families. What we need is not a rebuttal, not a resentment, but a solution to this thorny and embarrassing problem.
In fact, no matter how a child grows up back then, his reluctance to attach to his parents will become a feeling that he cannot get rid of in his life. No matter how much chasm and mountains there are between parents and children, the more they break free, the more internal friction and pain will become. There is an invisible bond between parents and children, which cannot be seen or touched, how do you cut it?
The past cannot be changed, so why should we dwell on this issue? Let your parents, who are now old and frail, feel the pain of your time and time, will you be relieved? Are you happy? No, you will only add a layer of self-blame and remorse, and it is better not to say it than to regret it.
It is better to jump out of this strange circle, look back at history, look around the world, and then look at the family you are familiar with, the relationship between parents and children, and you will come to a conclusion, it turns out that there is never a perfect parent, a perfect family, and a perfect education in the world.
Elderly parents can no longer give you the fatherly and maternal love you want, even if you can give it, do you think you still need that kind of meticulous care and concern as an adult? For adults, that kind of love is control, interference in other people's lives without boundaries, and if you accept it, it will bring more chaos and even disastrous consequences to your life today.
Tell yourself that you have grown up, even if there is a poor child waiting for a hug in your heart, and the one who can give him a hug and warmth at this time cannot be anyone, but only yourself.
I can't go back to the past, so let it go! And the future must be in your own hands. The words of the ancestors are not all nonsense, such as this familiar sentence: stand at thirty, do not be confused at forty, and know the destiny of heaven at fifty.
The original family is your fate, and you are your own luck, and if you don't get entangled or entangled, your luck will be good.
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