People lack heart and eyes, and people who lack heart and eyes usually have these characteristics
Interpersonal communication is a science, and skills in all situations are important. Among them, there is a group of people who often make others uncomfortable, and that is the person who lacks the heart and eyes. What kind of talent is considered "lacking in heart"? Here are a few features that you can see at a glance.
Understanding amorous style is not only about romance, but more importantly, about empathizing with the mood and needs of others. People who lack the heart and vision often don't do this, always thinking about doing things according to their own ideas, and even completely ignoring the feelings of others.
For example, if a friend is sick and has been in the hospital for a week, you as a friend have not visited for a day. When a friend is having trouble at work and needs help, you don't say a word of comfort. This is all a manifestation of a lack of heart. People who are well versed in the world understand that the most basic thing to get along with and even be a person is to "think about problems from the perspective of others".
There is a saying that "help the emergency does not help the poor", which means to help a friend when he is in trouble. But people who lack heart and eyes will not do this, usually stingy, and even more stingy at critical moments.
For example, a friend's car broke down while transporting a batch of important items, and you could have borrowed your car, but you refused on the excuse that "I didn't have my car's driving license with me". Another example, a friend's parents suddenly fell seriously ill and needed a large amount of ** expenses, but as a friend, he only took out a piece of money of twenty yuan from his wallet and handed it over. It's all obvious stinginess and stinginess.
As the saying goes, "Close the window and make peace". But people who lack heart and eyes always hold grudges, always thinking about revealing people's scars, and turning over old accounts at every turn. For example, others have a slight loss, but he picks up his hatred ten years ago. For another example, when others are in trouble, he recalls the things that others have wronged him.
This kind of person is often very capable of holding grudges, but they always have selective memory disorders, forget the help of others, and only demand perfection and even bad interpersonal relationships. The saddest thing is that they can't even see the sincerity of others, they only suspect and calculate.
Communication between people is supposed to be a two-way interaction, but people who lack heart and eyes often only talk to themselves, and they are happy without considering the feelings of others.
For example, when you get up early in the morning, you can call and chat with your friends, regardless of whether the other party is still sleeping or not. When chatting, he only talks about his own business, and the other party doesn't even have a chance to say something. Another example is when he only talks about how good and beautiful his child is during a party dinner, and listens to him chatter alone during the 20-minute dinner. This is typical self-talk, with no communication at all.
A person who truly understands the sophistication of human feelings can be tolerant even if others owe them something. However, people who lack heart and vision do not think so, and often pretend to be tolerant and generous on the surface, but in fact they remember to hate others in their hearts.
For example, when a colleague makes a mistake at work and owes you something, you will calmly forgive, but when you turn your head, you will complain to others. Another example is when a friend introduces you to someone, but you don't agree, and the other person says, "It's okay, I understand." But behind his back, he criticized his friends, saying that he had a problem with his vision.
This is all an obvious manifestation of superficial generosity but actually holding grudges, indicating that in fact, he still blames others in his heart. As a result, the circle of friends is getting smaller and smaller, and the people who have been offended by themselves gradually move away.
In fact, people who really understand the sophistication of human feelings often have a tolerant heart. We are born in the world, and there is never a shortage of opportunities to create friction with others. But there is no point in overthinking and holding grudges, so instead of pursuing the "perfection" of interpersonal relationships, it is better to maintain forgiveness and tolerance, and let the world become a little warmer because of your own existence.
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