When you are destitute and your relatives and friends are shunning, thinking about the two stories of your ancestors may be helpful
Everyone wants to live a good life. But why"Some people are so poor that they leave their relatives"？Some call it reality. But the thing is, the bigger reality is that there are always people who are better off! There are many poor people who are not rejected or ostracized by their relatives and friends, but are helped, but why?
But if today we can assume"You are so poor that even your relatives avoid you"So what kind of mindset will emerge? To better explain this, the author describes and illustrates with two stories about ancient ancestors...
Beg with a golden bowl first.
There was a man named Qin in the Qin Dynasty. He is obsessed with the things of the previous dynasty. So, people often said to him with a broken rug'During the Spring and Autumn Period, didn't Lu Aigong have a long talk with Confucius on this carpet? Look, isn't this the carpet that Confucius sat on at that time! "
This is also the reason why Qin Guo** bought it. It is conceivable that even the largest family business cannot withstand such a throw, so the poor relatives of the Qin State eventually avoided it.
Qin Shi Huang was very upset and began to beg in the streets, which he carried"The blanket on which Confucius sits", crutches"The rod used by the king", upright"The bowl that was burned during the reign of the Emperor", shouted loudly:"Zhou Gongshi, if you have money in the nine provinces, give me a penny! "(He started begging in the streets, but shouted.)"Anyone who has the money of the Nine Mansions during the Zhou Dynasty, give me a penny! "）。(Excerpt from "The Story of the Forest").
Did you all laugh when you read this story? When laughing, think about these two questions. First: If you were a relative of the Qin State, would you also avoid him? Second: What was the main reason for the fate of the Qin state? What was the main reason for the fate of the Qin state?
It seems to me that if I were his relative, I would definitely hide a meter away! It is said that Qin juniper"The golden rice bowl wants rice"。This"Golden Rice Bowl"Not referring to his various dishes, which are clearly fake. but refers to Qin Hui himself.
From the point of view of ordinary people, even Qin Hui's"Investments"Failure, as long as this handsome son comes back and makes a fortune with his own hands, his relatives will not give up on him! On the contrary, they still keep their thoughts on it and talk about it"The fortune money of the Duke of Zhou"。Therefore, the negative teaching materials left by the ancestors are actually telling us if anyone can eat them"Golden Rice Bowl", he has to be!
Secondly, to do a good job, you first need to use good tools.
After looking at the negative examples, let's take a look at the positive ones! During the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a person in the Qi Kingdom who liked to hunt, but almost always he returned empty-handed. He thought:"Why am I so unhappy? He finally understood: all I needed was a good hound.
But his family and all his relatives are poor, and if it is a normal thing, then there will be no problems. But something like Greyhound was only owned by the rich at the time, so he couldn't do anything about it, so everyone began to avoid him.
The man began to think again: in the short term, he thought that raising a greyhound was a stupid thing to do, and that it was better to sow a field first, sell more grain, and make himself rich. From then on, he became a good farmer. Within a few years, the family had a lot of money.
Later, he borrowed some money from relatives and friends to buy a hunting dog, and since then he has returned from every hunting trip, and has become richer as a result. Excerpt from "Lü's Spring and Autumn.
This ancient ancestor story is very instructive, in the original words of "Lü's Spring and Autumn": not only hunting, everything is the same! Meaning: This principle is not only applicable to hunting, but it is also a law. Therefore, the author believes that this law is: if you want to do a good job, you must first sharpen your tools!
However, the author emphasizes that this"Sharp weapons"It must also include: the ability to empathize! As the saying goes: if you are poor, you will think about change!
For example, a hunter who wants to fulfill his dream is so poor that his relatives avoid him. Why did his relatives later help him? Because he can think for himself, he succeeds, as the saying goes:"It's better to say it well than to do it well"It's better to say it well than to do it well
If you are so poor that you even hide from your relatives, you don't have to be angry, let alone sigh. You know: we are a golden rice bowl, why not change our own concept first, realize the value of the golden rice bowl? To put it simply: there has to be a reason to help, right? At least let others know: you are one"Invincible, invincible"of people.