My name is Jingyi, I am 33 years old, and I met my boyfriend when I was in college. He was the kind of sunny boy who always gave me warm comfort when I was feeling down. At that time, I loved my boyfriend so much that I decided to stay in this bustling city together after graduation.
Our family backgrounds are quite different, my family is well-off, while my boyfriend's family is relatively ordinary. But love allowed us to cross these differences, and we decided to walk into the palace of marriage hand in hand. For the sake of our future, we plan to buy a house at the place of work.
Considering the financial conditions of both parties, my parents offered to bear half of the housing payment to ease our financial pressure. Originally, we planned to buy a house of moderate size, which could meet our living needs without causing us too much financial burden. However, the mother-in-law insisted on buying a big house, saying: "In the future, the family will be reunited, and the big house will be able to accommodate it." ”
After many negotiations, the two families finally reached an agreement on the purchase of the house. We decided to buy a $2.1 million wedding house in the heart of the city as a starting point for our future life. According to the negotiation results, my family will contribute 1 million, and my boyfriend's family will bear the remaining 1.1 million.
However, just as we were about to sign the purchase contract, my in-laws suddenly made a request that we did not expect.
The mother-in-law suddenly spoke, her tone a little hesitant but firm: "Jingyi, there is something I want to discuss with you. You also know the current situation of our family, my brother-in-law is going to get married in two years, and the family's funds are a little tight. So, can we ask your family to contribute another 900,000 so that we can be more comfortable. ”
I was stunned, and the news hit me like a thunderbolt from the blue. I thought we had reached a consensus, but I didn't expect that at the critical moment, my in-laws would reverse course and ask for more financial support. I felt a mixture of anger and disappointment, and I felt that they were taking advantage of my kindness and the wealth of my family.
Without hesitation, I retorted, "Auntie, I understand your family's predicament, but we have also made the greatest concessions. The 1 million yuan from our family is already the maximum we can afford. Besides, the marriage of the little uncle is your family's own business, why should we take this responsibility? ”
My boyfriend looked at me and tried to lighten the mood: "Jingyi, don't say that." You also know the situation in my family, she just wants to make the family more comfortable. Besides, as our brother and sister-in-law, can't you be considerate? ”
I looked at him with wide eyes, and the disappointment in my heart came flooding in. I didn't expect him to stand on my in-laws' side instead of supporting me on my side. I felt my heart cool a little: "Have you ever been considerate of me?" Have you ever understood our family's efforts? We have made big concessions, but you have repeatedly asked for more. What is the point of such a marriage? ”
My boyfriend looked at my angry expression and was speechless for a while. He obviously didn't expect me to be so adamantly opposed to my in-laws' request. The atmosphere at the dinner table suddenly became awkward, and the eyes of both families were focused on us. I knew that this dispute was inevitable, and my trust in my boyfriend and in-laws completely collapsed in this dispute.
What makes it even more difficult for me to accept is that when I proposed that since my family was going to pay most of the house payment, my name should only be written on the real estate certificate, my boyfriend firmly objected. He thought it would make him lose face in front of his friends and family, and he would be said to be a soft eater. We had an argument because of this, and I felt that my boyfriend did not respect my wishes and contributions, and that he thought I was too calculating.
In the process of preparing for the wedding, the two families had disagreements over various trivial matters. I felt exhausted, and what had been a great wedding preparation became like a battlefield. We began to wonder if our feelings were deep enough to withstand the erosion of these strife.
After a series of arguments and disputes, I felt disappointed and hopeless about my boyfriend and his family. I don't think my boyfriend understands my thoughts and needs, and he doesn't respect my wishes and contributions. Our feelings have been worn out in this endless quarrel.
It was a quiet night, with only a gentle breeze blowing through the windows, bringing a hint of coolness. I sat on the edge of the bed in my bedroom, facing the darkness outside the window, but my heart was deeper than the night. After days of bickering and strife, I have completely calmed down and made a difficult decision.
I turned around and faced my boyfriend, his face full of worry and bewilderment. I took a deep breath and tried to sound as calm and firm as my voice could be: "Let's break up." ”
He froze, as if he hadn't expected me to propose a breakup so decisively. He frowned tightly, with a hint of anxiety in his tone: "Jingyi, what are you talking about?" Didn't we say that we would face these difficulties together? ”
I looked at him with a bitter feeling in my heart. He still doesn't understand that what I am facing is not only the unreasonable demands of my in-laws, but also his disrespect for me and my family. I shook my head slightly, with a hint of choked in my voice: "I don't want to wronged myself and my parents anymore." I don't think such a marriage will bring happiness and joy, it will only make us more miserable for each other. ”
My boyfriend was visibly shocked by my words, and he stared at me with wide eyes, as if trying to find a hint of redemption in my expression. He tried to grab my hand, and his tone was full of pleading, "Jingyi, please give me another chance." I'm going to talk to my mom and make her understand where we stand. We'll find a solution. ”
However, I have made up my mind not to give this relationship any room to maneuver. I gently withdrew my hand, avoiding his gaze, "Applejack, you should understand that I have lost trust in you. I don't think we'll be able to go back in time and start over. ”
With that, I stood up and walked out of the room. My boyfriend froze there and watched me leave resolutely. He didn't catch up again, he didn't speak again. Just stood there silently, his eyes full of loss and helplessness.
I moved on to a new life. I know that the end of this relationship will bring temporary pain, but I believe that only in this way can I find the happiness that truly belongs to me.
After the breakup, although my heart hurts, I know that it is the right choice I have made for myself and my family. I believe that in the days to come, I will meet someone who truly understands me and cherishes me, and will spend a good time with me.