Many times, couples or couples are noisy, and outsiders only think that their personalities are incompatible or someone has a bad personality, but in fact, that is not the real reason.The main reason is that the lack of love is in the hustle and bustle, they are shouting with fierce behavior, "I want to be loved!" ”But he always asks for nothing but can't, so he keeps staging a farce.
Especially when both of them lack love, it makes a lot of trouble.
Because if one party is a secure attachment and will not dance with the other party, they will quickly break up or find a way to settle the other person, showing an attitude that is often referred to as "maturity".
They can bring the loveless party back to reality, calm down, and stop being so panicked and emotional.
Unfortunately, people who lack love are always attracted to each other, so it is difficult to maintain a long-term and stable relationship.
Look at the conversation content of many celebrity couples and couples around you who quarrel, in factThe main reason was a lack of love, not something they were arguing about.
Everyone is busy blaming their partner, but they don't calm down and think about how they should solve their own internal problems first.
Things that are nothing in the eyes of ordinary people may become unforgivable mistakes in the eyes of people who lack love, causing many problems that should not have been.
Today we're going to list a few of the telltale characteristics of a loveless relationship to help you discern whether your relationship is healthy or not
People who lack loveThose who do not believe that they are worthy of love, they are always afraid that the other person will leave them.
On such a basis, if you don't get the love affirmation of the other person, you will be uneasy.
But the way they judge love is very strange, some people think that you don't care about him at all and don't ask him to love him, and some people think that you have to tolerate all his willfulness and emotionality, so you love him.
There are also people who are obsessed with dramatic love, and as long as the other person expresses their love in a romantic way, they will be deeply moved, such as proposing 100 times, making a surprise appearance when you go on a business trip abroad, and so on.
Once you don't meet their standards, they will start to doubt you.
If you cater to him today, he will feel that you love him, and if you don't do so well tomorrow, he will not believe you.
There is no permanence in the judgment of people, and the previous trust can be overturned by a single action.
Because he doesn't trust, he minds your interaction with the opposite sex, even if he only met because of work, he feels that you are betraying him.
If he is too busy with something to ignore him, he will also be very unhappy.
Always making judgments without evidence makes both people tired, and if the other party really cheats, it will be more serious.
This is a situation where ordinary people don't think there is a problem, and they overreact, and if the other party is obviously cheating, they should naturally react.
The scariest thing is that no matter how bad the other person is, they can't seem to end a relationship completely.
People who lack love are very conflicted, on the one hand, they feel that they have to give a lot and look valuable to be loved.
So some people will please others, keep giving things or being nice to others, and then wait for the other person to cherish themselves.
Not getting it is sad and resentful, on the other handIf you ask for him, he will feel that you are trying to take advantage of him and be upset.
If there is a demand for money in the relationship, it will make him very sensitive to the feeling that you only love money and are very materialistic, and he will doubt your love.
As long as you want him to do things for you or ask for money, he will think a lot and be very suspicious of you.
Most people who lack love have parents who don't agree with them, always asking them to change, thinking that they are not good enough.
So much so that when they grow up, they are afraid of hearing criticism, and will regard all suggestions and objections as criticism, regardless of the other party's intentions, whether it is for his own good.
Eventually, it will becomeInability to communicateThe state of the state,In order to maintain their fragile self-esteem, they will always speak for themselves and do not admit their mistakes.
He doesn't think he's wrong, so he naturally won't change it, and the result is that the other party has to endure his shortcomings, the relationship is naturally prone to breakdown.
People who lack love are so busy judging whether the other person loves them or not, and they are so busy asking for that they have no time to take into account their partner's feelings, let alone try to do something to make the other person feel better.
Those that belong to true love, they are difficult to do.
Most of the love they give is entangled, and if they don't let go just because they don't get along well, he feels that he loves each other very much.
Or pay for yourself, regardless of whether others want it or not, for example, ask yourself to make a bento for your partner every day, and immerse yourself in self-touching.
In fact, if your partner doesn't think it's delicious and doesn't want to bring a bento, he will ignore it.
This kind of dedication can't get a good relationship back, because they can't see each other in their eyes.
A person who lacks love will be particularly sensitive to his partner's words and deeds, and if he says something wrong, he will cry or break down.
When he is sad, he will lose control, behave violently, and even express the desire to give up on himself, or say something very unpleasant.
After being emotional, he will apologize and blame himself, hoping that the other party will not leave him.
These are degenerative behaviors, actions that only children have, this isBecause people who lack love never grow up, when they encounter stimulation, they will turn back into children.
Don't look at how noisy they are, how ugly they say on social platforms, and it's just a matter of a second to say that they are back together.
Because they are afraid of losing each other, they don't want to let go no matter how bad the other party is.
As soon as he enters into the relationship, the other person will naturally become his parents (subconsciously), and the child cannot leave his parents.
They are also accustomed to a noisy life with people close to them, which is their daily routine.
It is difficult for people who lack love to give up the wrong person, which is why they live so hard.
There are not only these 6 characteristics of a loveless relationship, but they are just enumerated.
The more your relationship is in line with each other, the more you should change, not the other person, but yourself!
When you learn to love yourself, you will realize how ridiculous the past is, how can you make a mess of the relationship and not let go?
If it's because the other party has too bad character and bad behavior to separate, it's okay, but it's a pity if it's because of a lack of love.
Two people who lack love are often sincere, although they don't understand love, they still clumsily try their best to make the relationship better, but they always fail.
But the love given in this case is more like lack, not really loving each other, otherwise there would not be so much resentment.
Only when you learn to love yourself can you know what kind of person you will really love? Otherwise, they're just looking for new parents to hurt themselves.