I saw such a question on Zhihu, who do men love the most?
Is it the uneasy Bai Yueguang, or the pillow person who accompanies him to endure hardships?
A high praise replied: "Men love the next one the most." ”
Human nature is complex and multifaceted, and people's feelings are also changeable, in marriage, in the face of the betrayal of their partner, people who choose to swallow their anger and taste the bitter fruit alone are nothing more than the following reasons.
Do not leave, because of the interests
I saw such a story on the Internet:
I cheated in 2018, I'm 50 years old, I've been with my wife for 22 years, and my son has grown up**.
My wife is a public school leader, I have an unstable job, I have worked as a cook, I have worked in an Internet café, and now I am delivering couriers.
My wife's salary is higher than mine, providing for the children's school and family expenses, but she is very critical of herself, and she is reluctant to eat or wear.
Outsiders say that if I can find such a wife on my terms, it is because the ancestral grave is smoking.
In fact, I don't have any say in the family, and from the day I got married, my wife played the role of the man in the family and controlled everything.
I also want to get a divorce, but helplessly, she earns the RV, and her parents always help us, so I don't have the face to mention divorce.
I met my lover when I was sending a courier, she was divorced, younger than me, to be honest, not as good-looking as my wife, but very gentle, every time I sent something, she smiled and talked to me, showing respect for me.
In the summer, she would let me into the house and cut watermelon for me, and we would be ripe after a while.
The third time I entered the house, she was wearing a dress that day, it was very beautiful, my eyes were straight, she was in good shape, bumpy and bumpy, and when I was handed water, I grabbed her hand and we had sex.
In the following days, I went to my lover's house for a date when I had the chance, but never overnight.
A few days ago, my wife was going to take the children on a trip, so I made an excuse not to go and stayed.
I brought my lover home and we had a lot of fun those days.
But who knows, my wife came back suddenly, and when she opened the door and saw me and my lover, she rushed up and hit me, and I hugged my wife tightly and told my lover to run away.
My wife filed for divorce, I sat on the edge of the bed and didn't dare to speak, and that night I knelt on the ground, hugged her thighs, promised to break up with my lover, and wrote a letter of guarantee, swearing that I would not contact my lover in the future, otherwise I would leave the house.
After that, my wife began to become suspicious, and from time to time she sneered, and I lived under her surveillance every day, and I knew that I had brought it upon myself, but I couldn't divorce, and if I left, I would have nothing.
Make do with it, because of the child
In the TV series "It's All Good", the marriage between Zhao Meilan and Su Daqiang may be destined to be a tragedy from the beginning, she and Su Daqiang married not because of love, but for the city hukou.
Such a marriage is destined to make waves, after having two sons, Zhao Meilan unexpectedly met her old lover and decided to elope with him, but at this moment, she found out that she was pregnant with three children, so she could only dispel this idea and forced herself to continue to live with Su Daqiang.
But the tragedy also played out, and the reluctant life had no warmth, only accusations, yelling, and quarrels.
The children cultivated in this environment have very different personalities.
The eldest son can only study stupidly, obey his parents, and even after getting married, he never understands his wife's difficulties.
The second son was pampered and became a member of the army of gnawing bosses, selfish and lazy, unlearned.
Because of her mother's resentment, the third daughter left home early without the attention and love of her family, fending for herself, and couldn't believe in love.
Zhao Meilan believes that as long as there is no divorce, the children can have a complete family, but they don't know that such a family makes the three children have different degrees of character defects.
Mr. Yang Jiang made this interpretation of the extramarital affair:"An extramarital affair is two sick people who think they have encountered good medicine, but in fact, they have encountered anesthetics, and the effect of the medicine will be more painful than before, and they may encounter the deadly Hedinghong. ”
Unlike young people looking for excitement, middle-aged people betray their families not on a whim.
Even if they are not in love with their partner, or the betrayal is discovered by the other party, many people will not choose to divorce, because the cost of divorce for middle-aged people is very high, involving the ownership of children, involving the division of joint property, and involving the reputation and reputation of the party at fault.
There is such a sentence in "Chizuruko Ueno's Private Conversation",Extramarital affairs are very lonely and impossible to talk to people. If you can't stand this loneliness, don't engage in extramarital affairs. Extramarital affairs are the privilege of knowing how to be proportionate