In this life, people will meet all kinds of people.
Some people bring a different experience to your life and inject a lot of good things into your life that are worth remembering.
Some people are glamorous on the outside and seem to be close to you, but in fact there is a dark hidden secret inside.
What kind of people are worthy of their own association, what kind of people should be guarded against and stay away from, and they must have a ruler in their hearts.
Maybe some people don't think it's so easy to identify a person, after all, bad people can't write the word "bad" on their faces.
But in fact, people who are bad in their bones often inadvertently reveal clues, if you look closely, you will find that they have these 4 characteristics, you must remember them.
01 Profiteering, regardless of others
The hustle and bustle of the world is for profit, and the hustle and bustle of the world is for profit.
A person is close to you because there are benefits to be possessed and profitable, but it is understandable, but he is afraid that he will flatter you when you are in a high position and power, and when you are down, not only will he reach out to help you, but he will also step on you.
Such a person is selfish in his bones, can only have his interests, and never cares about the life or death of others.
When dealing with this kind of person, you can't always stand on the side of reciprocity. When you are useful, he scolds you, and when you are useless, he leaves you, only wanting to get benefits, and is unwilling to give true feelings.
When you get along with him, you contribute money and effort to show your feelings, but he never takes the initiative to pay. Even if you don't satisfy his greed, he will resent you.
Such a person is really not worthy of your deep friendship.
02 I can't see that others are better than myself
Keigo Higashino's work "Malice" has such a person, Osamu Noguchi, who was a childhood classmate with Hidaka, when he transferred from a big city to a small town, and was superior to Hidaka.
But a few years later, Ri Gao became famous and became a famous writer liked by many people, with rich materials and a beautiful wife. However, Noguchi Osamu is terminally ill and faces the dilemma of being unemployed and having no food to eat.
Seeing the misery of his former classmates, Hidaka did not hesitate to lend a helping hand, but instead of admitting his feelings, Osamu Noguchi wanted to destroy Hidaka, not only killing him, but also pushing him to the forefront and being scolded by the world.
When the truth was revealed, I realized how dark Noguchi's heart was. If he is not doing well, he will drag others into the abyss to be his companion, even if that person is full of enthusiasm and true affection for him.
Making friends with such a person is really useless except for putting yourself in a desperate situation.
03 Three swords on both sides, a honey-bellied sword
There are some people who are very good at pretending to be amiable and understanding in front of others, but in private they are scheming and cunning.
They are good at disguising themselves, one thing in front of them, one thing behind them, and it's hard to know what he really thinks in his heart.
Even if he stabs him in the back, you won't find out that he did it.
Being friends with such a person is likely to be betrayed at a critical time and fall into their elaborate trap.
Li Linfu of the Tang Dynasty was a person with a "close mouth and a sword", he looked very humble when he got along with others, and he seemed to be public in his affairs. But in reality, it was all pretended by him.
On the surface, he curryed favor with those who were better than himself, but behind the scenes, he always spread bad words about them in front of the emperor, causing those who believed in him to be either deprived or killed.
Therefore, when encountering those people who hide knives in their pockets, they must be vigilant and not be deceived by superficial illusions.
04 If you don't know how to be grateful, you have to make inches
Someone posted on the Internet that a colleague happened to pass by his own community when he drove to and from work, so he had nothing to lose along the way, but his colleague often complained that he was delaying his time and asked him for gas money stingily.
Others drive to work for their own convenience, not to help others. You don't think you let the other party take a detour, there is more of you in the car, and you are less than you are still the same amount of gas money, and colleagues should not complain.
However, a colleague is willing to pick you up, and that's out of his affection. He doesn't want to take you, that's out of duty.
But when a colleague picks you up, you have to know how to be grateful, and make financial and emotional compensations on the other hand, instead of feeling "taken for granted" that others owe you.
People who don't know how to be grateful only care about their own interests and gains and losses, and never regard the help of others as a thing. Even when others rejected him occasionally, he felt that the other party's character was too bad.
Such a person will only grab the benefits and will never give. Being friends with them is only a loss.
In interpersonal communication, we all hope to establish a long-term and stable relationship and have a sincere friendship.
However, it is impossible for people in the world to think the same way, there are always some people who only care about their own needs and interests, lack a sincere attitude, and associate with them, and they will be hurt.
Therefore, when choosing friends, you should be vigilant.
It is not necessary to have the intention of harming others, but it is necessary to prevent others from getting too close to such people and suffering emotional and material losses.
At the same time, we should remain kind and sincere, use our actions to influence and change the people around us, and be friends with people who are truly worth interacting with, so as to gain more friendship and growth. **10,000 Fans Incentive Plan
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