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Marriage is like a **,The beginning is a poetic poem
This is followed by unpretentious prose.
Indeed, in marriage, love is only the beginning.
The wind and snow that I once longed for,It will eventually precipitate into a long stream of water in life.
Especially after entering middle age, there are parents who are dying to support and young children to be raised.
At this time, the romantic atmosphere fades awayIn its place comes a heavy burden of responsibility.
At this moment, the art of getting along with husband and wife at the highest level is actually condensed in one word-"Understood".
Whether it's a childhood sweetheart who met since childhood, or a true love that you met as an adult,No couple can be fully connected.
Their different family backgrounds and growth processes determine that there must be differences between the twoDifferences, on the other hand, breed all sorts of problems.
Or because of differences in ideas, both parties are unable to convince each otherOr because of the difference in personality, it is difficult for each other to understand each other's ideas deeply.
These conflicts, big or small, if both husband and wife do not give an inch, will only make the conflict intensify in the fierce confrontation.
On the contrary, if one party can be more open-minded
Don't worry too much about the trivial things in lifeIt can fundamentally alleviate the friction between the two sides.
As Russell put it, "A happy marriage usually consists of a wife who is willing to turn a blind eye and a husband who is willing to turn a deaf ear." ”
Some trivial things in life, pretend to be stupid appropriately,If you don't dig deeper, you can avoid a lot of unnecessary disputes.
In the pursuit of a harmonious and happy life, pretending to be stupid at the right time is the necessary wisdom.
Not dwelling on trivial things is a manifestation of great wisdom
Because they value the depth of their feelings more.
You might as well pretend to be confused about issues that have nothing to do with principlesTalk more about love and less reason at home, so that you can live more comfortably.
There is a cloud in the Analects: "The gentleman is not arrogant, and the villain is arrogant but not arrogant." ”
In marriage, it is often the kind that destroys love.
Hard-hitting stubbornness and meaningless face-fighting battles.
Many heated disputes in married life,It often comes from the little things.
For example, the partner fails to tidy up their clothes;
The laundry in the laundry basket has not been washed;
Lie down without bathing.
These seemingly trivial aspects of life may lead to the escalation of conflicts.
In order to gain the upper hand in words, people tend to say the most stinging words to the other person
You have to suppress each other in a quarrel.
However, even if they win in one quarrel after another,But it may also consume each other's feelings unconsciously
Let the temperature of the marriage gradually cool down.
Marriage is not a gladiatorial arena, it requires both husband and wife to work together in the same boat;
The family is also not a debate platform, and there is no need to divide the superior.
Know how to stop complaining, be considerate of each other, and be grateful
Only then can life be full of sunshine and families be harmonious and prosperous.
A well-known writer is a figure who knows how to be tolerant.
He was born in a scholarly family and has a free and uninhibited temperament;
His wife, Xiao Shan, comes from a rigorous educational environment and has a restrained and steady personality.
When two people with very different personalities live together, friction will inevitably arise.
Whenever the conflict is about to escalate, Ba Jin will always be the first to show a smile and take the initiative to compromise.
Because he knows very well that silence and tolerance at the right time are far better than a contest of words.
Because of this, their marriage has always been filled with deep love and has become a good story.
In a good marriage, everyone should learn.
Reflect on your words and actions and be considerate of the other person's feelings.
Taking turns to give in is always wiser than sharp teeth;
It's always wiser to compromise at the right time than to stick to your own opinions.
Only when both parties can understand and tolerate can we live a happy life together.
Why don't you understand? Do as I say! ”
I don't want to hear that, I'm right anyway. ”
What's the use of talking to you? I've already decided, what's ...... about you”
Do we often hear these words in our daily lives?
There is a folk proverb: "Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June." ”
Once some words are spoken, and some actions are implemented, they may leave indelible scars in the hearts of the other party.
Whether it is a husband and wife or a couple, they have been together for a long time
It's easy to ignore each other's boundaries and inadvertently hurt each other when talkingToo subjective when doing things. Despite the fact that our partner is the closest person we are,
But everyone should have their own space and dignity.
Some inappropriate actions or words can leave irreparable wounds in the other person's heart.
This trauma does not go away with the passage of timeInstead, the wound may grow larger and larger over time
Until the contradictions and estrangements cannot be reconciled, and the marriage comes to an end.
The English philosopher Locke once said, "One of the main ** of human suffering,."It is a lack of respect for the freedoms and rights of others. ”
No matter how deep the love is, it can be gradually eroded by excessive intervention, compulsion, or neglect.
As a life partner, you can only learn to respect each other and not force it
Do not exceed the rules, nor be contemptuous, in order to maintain the long-term stability of the marriage.
Writer Bing Xin once said: "No matter how harmonious the marriage is,."There are also countless urges to want to separate. And the so-called happiness is satisfied,
In fact, it was on the verge of rupture countless timesThere's always a reason to turn anger into laughter. ”
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage
There is also no love that never tires.
Marriage is not a one-man show, nor is it a drama with a definite ending, but a joint cause of two people.
True love can be held on to ordinary days
It can also withstand the baptism of time.
Even after going through wind and rain, they can hold each other's hands and never give up.
When you are lucky enough to meet someone who is willing to treat you sincerely and accompany you through your life, please be sure to cherish it.
Since it is destined to have a fate in this life,
Then hold each other's hands tightly and move towards the future together.
Pay attention to it and encourage you together.
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