As we grow up, we all crave to feel loved and supported by our parents. Sometimes, however, this expectation becomes a heavy burden. Many people find that parents don't seem to really like them, but rather love their ideal child – that flawless, submissive and obedient image.
This misplaced love is confusing and frustrating. We strive to be good children in the eyes of our parents, but we often ignore our own true feelings. We suppress our individuality and hide our emotions just to meet the expectations of our parents. However, such a life makes us feel depressed, and even produce self-doubt and denial.
To make matters worse, some parents will resort to extreme measures in order to assert their authority and control. For example, removing the child's door lock, violating the child's privacy, and ignoring the child's needs and feelings. Not only do these behaviors make children feel helpless and angry, but they can also have long-term effects on their mental health.
How should we deal with such a dilemma? First, we need to learn to listen to our inner voice and understand our true needs and feelings. Second, we need to be brave enough to communicate with our parents and express our thoughts and feelings. While there may be some difficulties and challenges, it is only through open communication that we can become more understanding and respectful.
At the same time, we need to learn to be independent and autonomous. While the love and support of parents is important, we cannot rely on them completely. We need to learn to make our own decisions, take responsibility, and pursue our dreams. In this way, we can truly become masters of our own lives and live a fulfilling and meaningful life.
In conclusion, parental love should be a form of support and encouragement, not restraint and control. We should strive to find a balance that respects the expectations of our parents while maintaining our individuality and freedom. Only in this way can we truly feel the warmth and happiness of our family.