Birth, old age, sickness and death, this is an unavoidable thing in the world, whether it is a long life or a sudden accident, the death of a loved one will always make us difficult to let go, especially our closest parents.
But it is impossible for people to live forever, and the day of parting is destined to come from the moment we are born, and grief and sadness are emotions that we cannot control.
The deceased is gone, and the life of the living must go on, and how to deal with the relationship between siblings without parents is also a matter that requires wisdom.
Today, let's learn from four things what to do if there is a feud between siblings?
01 Divide good property, don't care about small profits.
The world is bustling, all for profit; The world is crowded, all for profit.
In this materialistic era, the biggest source of contradictions between people is because of money, even if it is brothers and sisters, there are not a few people who turn their faces because of money.
Sometimes, in front of money, family affection is as thin as paper, and it can be broken when you poke it, whether it is in the countryside or in the city, there are countless enemies because of the property left by the old man.
Children in the city may fight for houses, cars, and savings for the elderly, and in the countryside for homesteads and fields.
Fighting for family property has often happened since ancient times, rich families in ancient times had three wives and four concubines, many children, intrigue between brothers and sisters is very common, and some people will even kill them.
Everyone must have heard of the Fok Yingdong family in Hong Kong, Fok Yingdong started from scratch and became a billionaire by his own efforts along the way.
And Fok Ying-tung is a good man, he once took the risk of transporting materials for New China when the United States blocked China's import and export, and always helped the mainland whenever it was needed, and was a well-known patriotic businessman.
Huo Yingdong has a total of three wives in his life and has thirteen children, and Huo Yingdong is also used to seeing too many rich families making trouble because of inheritance.
As a successful businessman, he also prepared in advance, divided the property among the three children of the big house, and stipulated that the children of the second and third houses were not allowed to engage in business.
When Huo Yingdong was still alive, his children were still behaving one by one.
But when he died, in the face of the 3,000 acres of land worth 100 billion yuan in Nansha that he had bought, his second son and third son had a disagreement that the distribution was unfair, and a complaint brought the family matter to court.
Fok Yingdong has been patriotic all his life, has done a lot of good things, and enjoys a high reputation in the mainland and Hong Kong, but his children are in court because of their inheritance, which makes the scandal of the Huo family attract the attention of the whole country.
Huo Yingdong's old friends couldn't stand it anymore and didn't want his children to lose Huo Lao's face, so Tung Chee-hwa and other bigwigs came forward to make peace to solve the matter.
Coincidentally, Macau's Stanley Ho family also had such an inheritance incident after Stanley Ho's death.
Dafang's daughter competed with He Chaoqiong in the second room for the inheritance, and Dafang suspected that the estate administrator elected by the second room was hiding her father's estate, and sued the court, which was also well known.
When human affection meets money, it is inevitable that it will become weaker, even brothers and sisters who were once close will one day have a dislike because of money.
Therefore, if there is a high probability that the feud between siblings is because of money, it is very important to deal with the property issue between siblings.
02 Run your own small home.
When your parents are there, your parents are your own family, and when your parents are gone, you must take your own small family as the center, and running your own small home is your strong backing.
In your own small family, you were the breadwinner of the family when you were young, and you had to take care of your wife and children.
It is a man's responsibility and responsibility to earn money to support his family, spend more time with his wife and children in his spare time, and raise his next generation.
On Douyin last year, there was such a ** that suddenly became popular, a hard-working delivery man, it snowed heavily this day, and he still chose to go out to work in order to make a living.
The snow was almost knee-high, and the electric car couldn't ride at all, so the delivery man pushed the cart through the snow with difficulty.
Accidentally, while passing through an uphill section, the delivery man slipped and fell, and the delivery spilled a little.
When he knocked on the door of the customer's house, the man in his thirties smiled embarrassedly and kept apologizing for the customer, but in exchange for only a cold face from the customer.
If it's not life, who wants to be cold-eyed?
After delivering this order, the wind and snow outside still showed no signs of stopping, and the wind was blowing, hitting the man's face, but the man did not stop at all and continued to run to the next house.
In the middle of the night, the man limped home with the tram, the snow had already wet his trouser legs, and the only one in the residential building in front of him was the delivery man's home.
It was twelve o'clock in the evening, and only this one was still lit, and the man tiptoed open the door to find his wife sitting in the living room.
When she saw her husband come back, she immediately took off her coat for the man and brought out the noodle soup that was kept warm in the kitchen. On the dining table was a note of love written by her daughter, telling her father to be careful when the road was slippery in the snow.
At this moment, all the grievances and bitterness of men outside have all disappeared, which is the warmth of home.
The love of the family can soothe your soul like a spring breeze, release all the hardships you have suffered outside, and give you the strength to continue to move forward.
03 Put down your face and take the initiative to shake hands and make peace.
If one day there is a real grudge with my brothers and sisters, then I think I can be more generous, let go of the worthless face, open up with them, and resolve the disputes between them through communication.
In Shanxi, there was such a family, Zhao Laohan had four children, the eldest and the third were boys, and the second and fourth were girls.
With the death of his wife, Zhao Laohan's health also deteriorated, and just before he died, he called his four children to the bed.
tremblingly, he turned out a porcelain from the Ming and Qing dynasties from under the bed, and told his four children:
Children, my body is about to die, there is a porcelain vase at home that was passed down to me by your grandfather, it is said that it was left by a great official of our ancestors in the Ming Dynasty, and I will give it to you. ”
After saying that, Zhao Laohan died, and the four children finished dealing with his funeral, and remembered this porcelain vase, so they discussed what to do.
Now the antique ** is hot, such a Ming Dynasty porcelain vase can be worth 200,000, and the four children unanimously agreed to sell the porcelain vase for money, and this task was handed over to the boss.
The boss took the porcelain vase to a cultural relics market, and found several people to inquire and said that this was not a Ming Dynasty porcelain, but a porcelain vase of the late Qing Dynasty, ** could only be 100,000 yuan, so the boss returned home with 100,000 yuan.
After returning home, the other three younger siblings saw that they only got 100,000 yuan, and the eldest defended that this was because the porcelain vase was from the Qing Dynasty and was not worth so much.
But seeing that the 200,000 yuan in hand became 100,000, the other three younger siblings felt that the boss had swallowed it privately, so they quarreled and broke off contact.
But just a year later, the second child unfortunately suffered from leukemia and needed a bone marrow transplant, and the second child's children could not match, and the third and fourth children could not match.
At this moment, the boss suddenly appeared and came directly to the hospital for bone marrow matching, and was successfully matched. With the right bone marrow, the second child's illness gradually improved, and he was soon discharged from the hospital.
After being discharged from the hospital, the second, third and fourth children came to the eldest brother with large bags of gifts to make amends.
said guiltily: "Big brother, back then, we were all money fans who didn't believe you, but I didn't expect that now that I am sick, you can still save me regardless of previous suspicions, big brother, we are wrong." ”
What are you guys, I didn't blame you back then, and besides, we are all brothers and sisters, how can I see death and not save me. ”
Yes, blood is thicker than water between relatives, how can there be hatred that cannot be resolved, sometimes lower your posture and take the initiative to communicate with your brothers and sisters, you will definitely achieve unexpected results.
04Strive to develop your own business.
If you don't have the ability, even if you are your relatives and friends, you will be looked down upon by them.
When Xiao Lin was young, he was a second bastard who didn't learn and didn't know how to do it, he messed around the streets all day long, and he beat him away when he married a daughter-in-law.
The two houses left by his parents were also sold because of lavish expenses, and he lived a life without a meal.
Every day Xiaolin's day is to walk the birds and tease the dogs, and when he has no money, he will find a way to go to his brothers and sisters to fight the autumn breeze, or find a way to ask his parents for money, anyway, he is lazy to do it.
As the case goes on, Xiao Lin's brother and sister don't want to see him more and more, and they don't contact Xiao Lin on weekdays.
On this day, Xiaolin was on the street, and overheard a neighbor teaching his children: "You still don't study hard, like you study badly, do you want to learn like the person next door Xiaolin is annoying?" ”
Xiao Lin's face turned red after hearing this, and he wanted to be angry but he didn't seem to be able to say it, because these words were true, and at this moment, Xiao Lin also woke up, he didn't want to continue the old days.
In fact, Kobayashi was a very smart child, he came to work in a car wash in the city, starting as a car wash worker, and he was down-to-earth and hardworking.
And he changed the appearance of hanging children in the past, he was diligent and diligent, and the boss also liked him very much, and cultivated him a lot.
Two years have passed in the blink of an eye, and relying on the skills of car washing and repairing, Kobayashi has opened two stores in the city.
He became a small local boss, drove a Mercedes-Benz, bought a bungalow, and those who used to avoid him often visited him with gifts.
The originally estranged sibling relationship has also become closer, and perhaps, when you are strong, you can win the respect of more people.
05 Postscript. Taking care of the property left by our parents is to help us reduce hatred, and running our own small home is a haven of rest for us.
Lowering our posture is to help us take the initiative to resolve contradictions, and striving to do our own business is fundamental, and it is to make us strong.
Do the above four things well to make you invincible.