If the independence of 18 years old is economic independence, then marriage is the beginning of personality independence, I have just entered the marriage, and I do not have the beautiful and happy feeling I imagined, more of a sense of loss after seeing through human nature, may be due to the sensitivity of pregnancy, I have a mental cleanliness habit for some things, especially internal friction, how many nights tossing and turning all night, to think about some recent things, even from the social ** short *** and *** In the article, I tried to find the people who resonated with me and sought so-called solutions, but it seemed that this situation did not improve, but seemed to make me more anxious, and I saw those things more important over and over again, and I began to realize that I was stuck in constant internal friction.
At this time, I unintentionally remembered a book I read during the time when I was also in pain, "The Courage to Be Hated", and suddenly my mood changed, and I began to realize the reason for my current internal friction and pain, and it is precisely because I put too much emphasis on the external environment and factors and external people and things as before, but I forgot that these are things that I can't change by myself, and if I blindly care about these people and things that I can't change, instead of asking inward and changing my state of mind, it will always be very painfulWhen you suddenly wake up, you are no longer obsessed with trying to change these things that you can't change, but look inward, change your state of mind, and tell yourself that what this is, compared to your happiness and health, it doesn't matter at all.
You know best what kind of person you are, you don't need to care about the evaluation of you by those who don't know you, and you don't need to hurt yourself and make yourself sad because of the malice of a stranger, because your value and your beauty yourself and those who really love you will naturally understand that their evaluation of you is just a personal opinion expressed from the position of their own interests, nothing more, it does not represent the facts, we can not change others and the world, but we can choose to stay away, For all the people and things that consume your energy, don't waste time, just stay away, I think we all need to have the courage to be hated, because even if you are perfect, there are always people who like you, some people don't like you, and even if you are bad, there are people who like you, some people don't like you, in this case, why not spend your limited time and energy and not much energy on those worthwhile, beautiful, increase your energy in those places, to travel, to see the world, to read, to learn new skills, to listen, to exercise, Follow your dreams, love the people you love to the fullest, and do everything that can increase your energy......Do you feel that you suddenly have a lot of things to do, from this moment on, may you and I no longer fall into internal friction, but through ordinary and ordinary little things that insist on increasing energy, and become that shining self, good night.