For me, the meaning of the phrase "when my parents are gone, this family will be scattered" was only after my grandmother died. Body:
Before the Spring Festival this year, the family group proposed that everyone get together as before and connect with each other. However, my parents did not reply. I don't understand why they didn't reply, because when my grandparents were still alive, they would get up early to help and get together together. So, I mentioned it at the dinner table, but I was scolded by my parents, saying that I should not talk in the group and see the reactions of other people before making a decision.
The first person to speak in the group was the second uncle, who said that he was going to entertain his in-laws this year and had no time to attend the party. My aunt also refused the offer to get back by train for more than ten hours. Then, my dad also said that there was no need to meet again, so as not to weaken the relationship between siblings. The other elders also made excuses not to attend, and the juniors also refused to attend the party due to their busy work.
Actually, they really don't want to get together? No, they just can't get used to the behavior of the uncle's family, and they don't want to sulk at a time like the Spring Festival. I recall the year when my grandfather was sick, when my grandfather was suddenly paralyzed in bed, unable to take care of himself, and needed to be taken care of. Our brothers and sisters discussed taking turns to take grandpa home to take care of him, but the uncle kicked him out of the house under the pretext of back disease**. After such a thing happened, we were dissatisfied with and avoided the uncle's family.
Later, my grandmother also lived alone, and we would go back to see her during the holidays and have a reunion dinner with her. Every year, when we prepare the New Year's goods, we prepare an extra copy for my grandmother, and my parents will also help my grandmother with household chores. And the uncle's family is the last to arrive every time, and they are picky about meals and drinks. The uncle's wife didn't care much about her grandparents, and sometimes she even thought they didn't exist.
On the day my grandmother died, everyone was very sad. The parents said that the family was scattered. I don't understand why they say that, because in my heart, my grandparents are gone, and we should be more united, care for each other, and protect this family. However, the reality is cruel, and the words of the parents become the reality.
After my grandmother passed away, our family never held a party again, and we never went back to visit relatives. Although the uncle's family also returned to their hometown early, they never took the initiative to visit us. The connection between us is becoming less and less connected.
Maybe it's because of Grandma's departure that we can see the true face of the family. I no longer fantasize about the reunion of all my relatives, nor do I look forward to the warmth and intimacy that I used to have. Parents have also become more closed and distant, and they no longer mention relatives and stop contacting them.
When the parents are gone, the family is scattered. This sentence made me very sad and helpless. I think that maybe after a while, my parents will start to miss the warmth and affection of the family, and they will take the initiative to contact their relatives and get together again. However, now I don't have the courage to look forward to it.