Only when he realizes your irreplaceability will he go crazy to redeem you.
At this time, you don't need to mention the reunion, and your relationship can be restored naturally. You are in pain right now, in large part because you are in a hurry to get an outcome.
Maybe before you can do anything, your mentality has already collapsed. The real effective recovery does not lie in who takes greater action, but in subtle and gradual progress.
In terms of action, the key is to make him feel that you are irreplaceable.
Substitution is indispensable, which determines the unique value and importance of a certain thing in a specific environment.
For example, popular restaurants that have to wait in line for hours are attracted by their uniqueness, such as delicious food, unique atmosphere, or excellent service, which no other restaurant can offer.
In an emotional relationship, factors such as appearance and personality determine whether both parties can come together, while irreplaceability determines the durability of the relationship.
Whether it's a restaurant or an emotional relationship, irreplaceability is an important factor in determining its value.
But how to do it, give you three directions
Build a deep sense of anticipation through shared experiences that are unique to you
These experiences must be those that are impressive, don't always eat and watch movies or something, these irreplaceables are too weak.
Here are a few examples:
For example, the story of how many difficult times you have lived together, or you have spent months together painstakingly piecing together a very complex LEGO model, etc.
You can use your cognition to let him experience things with you as much as possible, and this practice can constantly increase your irreplaceability.
You can show that you are unique in the way you relate to others.
There is a little trick to make the other person feel that you are like-minded, and two people who have been together for a long time will slowly influence each other.
For example, common mantras, common hobbies, and those behaviors and habits that are common to each other can be said to belong to your tacit understanding.
And this makes you understand him more and more, when you can use his logic to convince him, use the other person's thinking to fall in love with the other person, and he will feel that everything is very comfortable.
Complementarity
If tacit understanding will make each other smile, then complementarity can bring him freshness, especially if you want to be together for a longer time, it is particularly important to have complementarity, and you make up for his vacancy.
He will feel that the need for you has never been stronger because you make up for the lack of his personality and life, and of course, if you are still working, or can help him financially, it is better to complement each other.
Please believe that everyone is unique, and you must have unique qualities that others will appreciate and recognize, otherwise the other party will not choose to be with you. At this stage, we need to rediscover those advantages.
Maybe these advantages have some filters and imaginary elements of the other party at the beginning, or they may gradually lose parts as the relationship deepens, such as the momentum to move up, the ability to stabilize emotions, and so on.
Trust me, most people are attracted to the same type of people. Find that sparkling self, then the heart of admiration will naturally fly towards you from the other person, and he will also feel reluctant, and even look forward to re-establishing an intimate relationship with you.
Therefore, to see this active experience as a spiritual practice, and if we want to change the other person's perception of you with ease, we have to train our own sense of gain and loss. Just take a long-term view and you'll be on your way to victory.