People always say that in the world of feelings, what you can't get is the best.
is indeed the case, the drama "Know" is worth learning from many women, because there are many shining points in this drama, even now, it will bring a lot of reference to our view of marriage.
Aunt Cao's sideburns were messy, her chest was half-open, and she pulled the man beside the bed tightly, pleadingMy cousin took pity on me. ”"Do You Know".In the original book, such a cousin made He Hongwen unstoppable, and the new students were pityd. In the same way, it is easy for a man to have feelings for a woman who is soft and weak. For example, the second uncle's soft outer room that can't take care of himself, he also likes soft and weak women at the beginning, which makes his man's desire to protect him. In "Do You Know", the marriage between Minglan and He Hongwen had almost progressed, but a cousin came out later, which disrupted the Sheng family's plans.
From the perspective of family background, He Hongwen and Minglan can't be said to be the right person, but because the old lady of the He family is close to the old lady of the Sheng family, and the Sheng family catches up with Mo Lan, the Sheng family began to look for candidates for Minglan .
In the eyes of Mrs. Sheng, He Hongwen is not a talented person, and there is probably no problem in getting by. But the appearance of Aunt Cao can be regarded as letting the old lady of the Sheng family see another side of He Hongwen.
The grandmother of the He family also wanted to indirectly dismount Minglan as a dismount, but she didn't expect Minglan to be so sober and rational, so he miscalculated, and here it also made Minglan see He Hongwen's cowardice, a man who couldn't give her a sense of security at a critical moment, and as a result, Gu Er Minglan was not the kind of daughter-in-law who listened to people's calls at will and was manipulated by others.
Cao Jinxiu is married, she is not a yellow flower girl, when she confessed to He Hongwen in the grove, she said that she was not clean for a long time, and she was not a yellow flower girl, what is her appeal? She saidI'll be a little girl for my cousin! Serve tea and water to you and Miss Sheng, and be a girl, as long as you can see your cousin from time to time, you will be satisfied!
Look at what he said, how can a man with a temperament like He Hongwen be able to resist it, and besides, the two of them have a friendship that grew up together from childhood to adulthood. A big beauty who grew up together since childhood, cried and said that she had no desires and no desires, and just wanted to serve you tea and water, so she almost held He Hongwen to the sky.
In fact, the cousin's incident is just an excuse and a cause, why did Minglan refuse He Hongwen in the end? There are three reasons for this.
1. Minglan doesn't love He Hongwen
The person chosen by his grandmother, even if Minglan didn't love him, she never thought of rejecting him before. She once fell in love openly, and she knew her heart from beginning to end. For a person he doesn't love, it doesn't matter if Minglan marries or not, since there is something that can't be compromised, if you abandon it, it's no pity.
This is the same for our current view of mate selection, if there is a compromise marriage, there is something that you can't bear, give up and give up, there is no pity.
Second, choose He Hongwen, Minglan is married.
In the TV series, there is such a very detailed place. When Minglan and his grandson were guests at He's house, they could hear the noise on the street outside, which showed that the courtyard of the He family was not big, at least the house was next to the street. The Sheng family is much better than them, and Minglan married He Hongwen, purely to marry. I originally thought there was no problem, but I didn't expect the He family to be so ignorant of what to do, and they still wanted to take care of Minglan .
Third, He Hongwen is a mother's boy.
He Hongwen can't be the master, he considers the feelings of others in everything, and he does things only as promises. Once Minglan marries and there is a conflict, he may not choose to protect Minglan . Seeing that he likes his cousin, it shows that he also likes to be a submissive woman in his bones, and Minglan may not really be as he wants. There are two concubines, and there are two if there are two. Once she opens her mouth, Minglan can't have an easy life.
If He Hongwen is a mother, then it is also a very terrible thing. If he was pretending to be a mother, it would be even more terrifying.