Hello everyone, I'm Mu Muxue!
In the past, I always liked to sulk because of some small things in life, and I always felt that I didn't like to see anything.
This kind of personality caused me to be unhappy for a long time, and life became more and more difficult.
It was only after constant frustration that I began to reflect on myself:It's not pleasing to the eye, and sometimes it may be that your pattern is too small.
The frustrations and unpleasant things we encounter in life can be big or small, and sometimes it depends on how we look at it.
Like our hand, if we put it in front of our eyes, it feels big;
But if we take it a little further away from our eyes, we will feel that it is not as big as we imagined.
Now whenever I encounter something bad and I get angry, I think if I look at it in my life, it's just a small thing, and I don't get angry anymore in an instant.
Yu Qiuyu said
"If the pattern of people is large, they will not sink in the trivialities of life. ”In life, if we don't stand at enough height, all we see are problems, the pattern is too small, and all the tangled things are trivial.
The bigger our pattern is, many things will naturally become smaller, and the less broken things will become!
So how can girls develop a big pattern and make their lives more and more smooth? Here's a little advice from myself, I hope it helps!
Have the courage to be hated and learn to be blunt;
Teacher He Jiong once said:
"Don't be so sensitive to a lot of things, be blunt and slow and you'll be a lot easier. ”Girls should learn to be insensitive, not to be overly sensitive and concerned about other people's opinions.
Sometimes other people's criticism and accusations don't mean anything, and if we pay too much attention to it, it will make ourselves more unhappy.
Have the courage to be hated, and don't deliberately pander to others.
Just be yourself, and people who believe in yourself will naturally like you.
Have your own opinions and positions, learn to refuse;
Bai Yansong once said:
"All the voices on the outside, if they can affect you, are because you don't have your own opinions inside. ”Sometimes the reason why we feel entangled or annoyed by some small things is because we don't know what we want, or we don't dare to stand up for our positions and principles.
Therefore, we must learn to stick to our own opinions and positions, and not be easily swayed by the opinions of others.
When you think something is wrong or doesn't align with your values, be brave enough to speak up and learn to say no.
Do not have a glass heart, cultivate your own strong internal drive;
Many times, the reason why we get angry because of some small things is because our hearts are too fragile to withstand the pressure and blows from the outside world.
However, people who are truly strong at heart do not feel lost or discouraged by the slightest setback.
Therefore, girls should cultivate their own internal drive to make themselves stronger and more confident.
Don't give up on your goals and dreams easily, and don't shake your beliefs because of the words or actions of others.
Only in this way can you stay calm and rational when you encounter problems, and you will not be easily defeated.
Don't change others, allow others to be different from yourself;
Everyone has their own character and values, and we can't expect everyone to be the same as ourselves.
However, many times we are always, trying to change others to fit us. The result is often very uncomfortable for both parties.
We should not always try to change others, but allow others to be different.
Just like Mo Yan once said:
"When you allow all of this, you gradually become a soft, relaxed and stretched person. ”Girls should learn to respect other people's personalities and values, and not try to change others. Learn to accept and appreciate the differences between others and yourself, and respect others' choices and decisions.
In this way, you can establish a more harmonious interpersonal relationship and make your life more relaxed and enjoyable.
Kindness has a bottom line, knowing the world but not the world;
Kindness is a good quality, but kindness does not mean weakness and unprincipledness.
Girls must learn to maintain their good qualities, and at the same time, they must also have a bottom line and principles. We must know how to protect our own rights and interests and those of others, and do not be confused by other people's rhetoric.
Be sophisticated, but don't be sophisticated and tactful, so that you can better cope with the challenges and complex interpersonal relationships in life.
Cultivate your own overall view, not too obsessed with details;
Many times, sometimes we pay too much attention to the details and ignore more important things, such as happiness, or more meaningful things in life.
Mr. Lu Xun once said:
"People who pay too much attention to detail are not destined to be too happy. ”Girls should learn to look at problems from a global perspective, don't get too entangled in details and trivial things, and let go of perfectionism appropriately, sometimes the road of life will be smoother.
Maintain a positive mindset and don't complain;
There will always be some unsatisfactory things in life, but we must learn to maintain a positive attitude and not always complain and be negative.
Girls should learn to adjust their mentality and emotions to make themselves more optimistic and confident.
We must know how to be grateful and cherish the people and things around us, and don't always complain about our misfortunes and experiences.
At the same time, you should also learn to release your stress and emotions to make your life easier and more enjoyable.
Continue to learn and grow, and constantly improve your abilities.
Only by constantly learning and growing can we continuously improve our ability and value.
Girls learn to constantly learn and explore new areas and constantly expand their knowledge and skills.
At the same time, we should also learn to reflect and summarize from our own experiences and lessons, so as to make ourselves more mature and wise.
Only in this way can we go further and more steadily on the road of life.
I like a saying very much: "If you want to become a big tree, don't fight for grass; The general has a sword, not a fly. ”
When we have a big pattern, we will not be entangled in a small thing that we can't let go, and there will be a lot less troubles in life.
May we continue to grow on the road of life, constantly correct ourselves, and strive to become a big pattern girl, so that our life will become smoother and smoother!
All of the above! 
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Author: Mu Muxue, a self-leading writer who focuses on personal growth and is working hard to be free, may we become a better version of ourselves through hard work and live the life we yearn for.