I'm Orange Rock.
Adult socialization is far more complicated than we think.
So, no matter who we get along with, these 15 unspoken rules are worth knowing.
After all, the sooner we know these rules, the sooner we can avoid some unnecessary troubles and contradictions.
Below, let's take a look at these 15 unspoken rules.
1.Profit first.
The hustle and bustle of the world is for profit, and the hustle and bustle of the world is for profit. ”
In real life, relationships between people are often based on interests.
Whether it is a friend or foe, it is possible to change identities because of a change in interests.
Therefore, when we get along with others, we must always keep a clear head and not be deceived by appearances.
At the same time, we must also learn to protect our own interests and not let others encroach on them easily.
2.Soft-heartedness is a disease, and thin-skinned is fatal.
Soft-heartedness is a disease, and deep love is fatal. ”
People who are too soft-hearted tend to wronged themselves for the sake of others.
They would rather suffer themselves than make others happy.
And thin-skinned people often put themselves in an embarrassing situation because they are embarrassed.
They are embarrassed to reject others, embarrassed to express their opinions, embarrassed to fight for their own interests.
Such people tend to live very tired.
Therefore, we must learn to refuse, learn to express, and learn to fight.
Don't let soft-heartedness and thin-skinned become a burden to us.
3.Moderate trouble, enhance feelings.
Between people, moderate trouble can enhance the relationship, but excessive trouble is rudeness. ”
In life, we will inevitably encounter some difficulties and problems.
At this point, we may turn to someone else for help.
However, we should pay attention to moderation and not overly bother others.
Otherwise, it will turn others off.
At the same time, we must also learn to be grateful and not take the help of others for granted.
Only in this way can we enhance our feelings for each other.
4.Comfort is the most important thing.
The people you meet on the road of life, whether they are friends or enemies, may change their identities in an instant because of the word "profit". ”
When dealing with others, we must learn to respect others and not impose our ideas on others.
At the same time, learn to keep your distance and not rely too much on others. Only in this way can you make each other feel comfortable.
5.Be cautious when borrowing money.
The person who borrowed the money was Lao Tzu, and the person who asked for the money was Sun Tzu. ”
Although this sentence is a bit exaggerated, it reflects the embarrassment of borrowing money in real life.
When lending money to others, we should be mentally prepared and not expect others to repay the money on time.
At the same time, we must also learn to say no, and not to lend money to others for the sake of face.
Otherwise, you will bring unnecessary trouble to yourself.
6.Don't complain lightly.
You think people will sympathize with you, but you just add to the jokes of others. ”
In life, we will inevitably encounter some difficulties and setbacks.
At this point, we may want to complain to others.
However, we need to know that not everyone can understand our feelings.
Moreover, excessive grievances can make others feel tired and disgusted.
Therefore, we need to learn to self-regulate and not to complain to others easily.
7.WeChat social etiquette.
When chatting on WeChat, you can type as much as possible, and if you really want to use voice, you should also use voice with the consent of the other party. ”
In WeChat socializing, we should pay attention to some etiquette. For example, don't send too long a voice, don't send a voice in an inappropriate situation, don't send a voice at night, etc.
Although these details are small, they can reflect our cultivation and quality. At the same time, it can also make others feel comfortable.
8.If you can't knock on the door, don't knock.
When it comes to getting along with people, we may encounter some difficulties and setbacks.
At this time, we must learn to give up and not stubbornly fight. Otherwise, you will put yourself in an embarrassing situation.
At the same time, we must also learn to respect others and not cause trouble to others. Only in this way can we make each other feel comfortable.
9.Keep boundaries.
When it comes to dealing with people, we need to maintain certain boundaries.
Don't be too intimate, and don't be too distant. Only in this way can we have space and freedom for each other.
At the same time, we need to respect the privacy and personal space of others. Don't be too curious, and don't be too intrusive.
Only in this way can we make each other feel respected.
10.Don't be too real.
When the water is clear, there are no fish, and when people are observed, there are no fugitives. ”
When dealing with others, we need to learn to hide some of our shortcomings and shortcomings.
Don't be too real or you'll make others feel uncomfortable.
At the same time, we must also learn to tolerate some of the shortcomings and shortcomings of others.
Don't be too picky, and don't be too harsh.
11.Don't try to get everyone to like it.
You are not RMB, you can't make everyone like it. ”
When dealing with people, we need to learn to accept reality.
Not everyone can like us, and not everyone can understand us.
Therefore, we must learn to be ourselves and not change ourselves in order to please others.
At the same time, we must also learn to respect the choices and decisions of others. Don't try to get everyone to do what we think.
Only in this way can we both feel free.
12.Don't be afraid to offend anyone.
When getting along with others, we must learn to stick to our principles and bottom line.
Don't give up your principles and bottom line in order to please others. Otherwise, you will make yourself unprincipled and unprincipled.
At the same time, we must also learn to take responsibility.
Don't be afraid to offend anyone, as long as we stick to our principles and bottom line, we will be respected by others.
13.Don't pander too much to others.
Don't give up your personality in order to cater to others. ”
When dealing with people, we learn to maintain our individuality and characteristics. Don't change yourself to cater to others.
Otherwise, you will make yourself uncharacteristic and charming. At the same time, we must also learn to appreciate the personalities and characteristics of others.
Don't try to change others, as long as we respect their personality and characteristics, we will be respected by others.
14.Don't rely too much on others.
Don't pin your happiness on others. ”
We need to learn to be independent when dealing with others.
Don't rely too much on others, otherwise you will make yourself unconfident and incapable.
At the same time, we need to learn to help others.
Don't look out for your own interests and ignore the interests of others.
Only in this way can we make each other happy.
15.Don't care too much about what others think.
When dealing with people, we need to learn to maintain our mindset and emotions.
Don't care too much about what others think, or you'll make yourself tired.
At the same time, we also need to learn to be ourselves. Don't change yourself to fit other people's perceptions.
Only in this way can we make each other feel comfortable.
Adult socialization requires us to maintain a certain vigilance and wisdom.
Only in this way can we make our social interaction smoother and more enjoyable.
Hopefully, these 15 unspoken rules will help you get along better with people.