"Caigen Tan" has a saying: "Those who have not been uprooted, even if they are light and sweet, they will always fall into the dust." ”If a person does not uproot all kinds of desires, even if he has **10,000 taels and is used to living a hard life, there is still no way to live a good life.
In old age, if you can't happily "retire", you will lose the good life in front of you. It is important to understand that blessing is a life experience that is internalized in the heart and externalized in action.
Therefore, when the elderly learn to live a low-level life, the blessings will be more down-to-earth, just like the flowers and plants in spring, slowly rising.
First, the elderly have no worries about food and clothing, which is the most real help for their children.
I like this old adage very much: "The favor behind you should be kept for a long time, so that people will have grace without need." ”Leaving one's favor to one's children and grandchildren is a sign of the prosperity of the family from generation to generation, and it is the inheritance of thousands of years of success.
We often say that we should leave wealth to our children and grandchildren. But what is wealth? It is nothing more than a combination of spiritual and material aspects. Although it is very vulgar to leave money for children, it is not vulgar, and it is really not good.
If you take a closer look, you will find that the reason why many young people can work and start businesses outside the home without worries is because they don't have to worry about the old people in their hometowns.
Parents can take care of themselves, do not ask their children for money when eating and drinking, and some minor illnesses can be dealt with by themselves. Children will have less trouble with "support".
The elderly cannot help their children physically and financially, but they can rely on low-cost living and worry-free food and clothing, which is another form of "support".
Although it is not difficult for children to give their parents five or six hundred yuan a month, it is difficult to persevere for many years in a row. Especially for those children who bear the pressure of mortgages, every penny must be carefully calculated.
Second, the elderly are diligent and thrifty, which is a good family style.
In "Yang Wen Gong Tan Yuan", there is such a story: when Song Taizu summoned the eldest princess, he saw that the princess was wearing a short jacket with kingfisher feathers, and immediately became displeased, and said: "Take off your clothes, keep them by me, and don't use kingfisher feathers as decorations in the future." ”
The princess wondered, isn't it just a few feathers, can she use such a fight?
Song Taizu said"The way you dress, the whole palace will follow suit, and then the merchant will find a business opportunity, and many birds will be harmed from then on." ”
When Song Taizu and the princess went out, they sat in an ordinary sedan chair. The princess said, "The king of a country, can sit in a sedan chair with a golden roof?" ”
Song Taizu said"All the wealth of the world is mine, but my task is to keep it, not to use it indiscriminately." ”
When people reach old age, they are not poor because they have pensions, savings, interest, etc. And, he can spend the money of the whole family. The more this is the case, the more timid and unrestrained we must be.
The older generation eats all and lives freely, but how do the children live? They will also follow suit and quickly destroy their family fortunes.
We must remember that it is not shameful to wear patched clothes, and it is shameful to cultivate a loser.He has been diligent and thrifty all his life, not to treat himself badly, but to let a happy life be like a spring. After all, the scenery of a long stream of water is better than a vigorous fireworks.
Third, the old people make the best use of it, which is the true embodiment of self-discipline.
A friend of mine, since he brought his mother to the city, the flower pots in the house have been turned into vegetable soil.
At first, my friend was unhappy. After a while, my friend was too lazy to care about it, and he also enjoyed the delicious taste of fresh vegetables.
Mother said, "Pepper flowers, taro flowers, green onions, leek flowers." Aren't they all bonsai? ”
In a word, it amused everyone.
When people are old and idle, they should ponder how to pass the time. Take out the old things at home, tidy them up, and be able to continue to use them, that's the credit.
Let's say the grandson's bicycle breaks down, and the old man takes out the bicycle and tinkers with it, so that it can be used again. When the grandson rode out, the old man's heart blossomed.
When we are accustomed to using old things, we will form inertial thinking, plug the loopholes of spending money from the source, find "renewable resources" from the family, and combine the two aspects, and the family will become rich.
Fourth, lowering the posture of the elderly is the best way to enrich the soul.
The ancients said: "Only those who suffer will know that few things are blessings; Only those who are calm know that many hearts are evil. ”When a person is busy all day long, he knows how valuable rest is; When a person has a calm heart, he knows how painful it is to have a disturbed heart.
We often say that you should be rich and nourish yourself. However, there are various ways to be rich, and I don't know how to choose.
Only by cultivating the mind is the most common method.
When I was young, I was busy and busy, for the position and income. Therefore, I often look at people's faces and are looked down upon.
When you are old, you have to recuperate, don't take your desires to heart, and don't feel humble. All the old people in the world are ordinary people, even if he used to be a general manager and has a net worth of hundreds of millions.
People, in the end, we want to "return to the basics". If you always show off your past and often compare yourself with others, your happiness will be lost, and your feet will not walk steadily.
Those old people who try to show off themselves are actually relying on the old and selling the old, and they will be isolated.
If the heart is quiet, the sky will fall without being shocked; All changes are still stable, and the spirit is calm. "When the soul becomes richer, the material requirements are lowered, and when you wear old clothes, you will not feel inferior, and you can still be radiant.
There is a philosophical saying: "We have already consumed half of life before we know what it is." ”Fate always plays tricks on people, and what you want is always out of reach; I've lost it, and I want to get it back. The so-called good luck is just a blessing, and most of the time, we are obsessed.
When you go through most of your life and think about it, you will find that fate always favors those who "live in the moment".
If you lose, don't care about it, cherish what you have in your hands, let go of what you can't get, and welcome it happily in the future.
Happiness is self-created. While creating money, don't forget to transform your mind.
In this life, people open up sources and reduce expenditures, and blessings have a long history.