Hi, I'm Zhang Mei, a 56-year-old rural woman who has experienced ups and downs but still has dreams. Let me share with you a touching story that might resonate with you. When I was younger, I married a truck driver who was 7 years older than me, and we were a struggling couple chasing happiness together. However, as fate would have it, my husband left us forever in an accident when my daughter was 10 years old.
From that moment on, I became a person who was both a father and a mother, working hard to raise my daughter**. Tried many times to find a new love, but repeatedly hit a wall. It wasn't until the end of last year that I met Wang Qiang, a 61-year-old retired civil servant, eight years older than me, financially well-off and mature. We met on a blind date and eventually came together.
However, happiness is always accompanied by new trials. Wang Qiang's daughter has become a key player in our lives and a stumbling block in my heart. She was abroad and regularly returned to China to meet her father, and every time she came back, Wang Qiang would put me aside and accompany her daughter to play and shop.
One of the most unbearable things for me is that Wang Qiang's spoiling of his daughter has reached the point of intolerability. Whether it is brand-name bags, high-end cosmetics or jewelry, as long as his daughter speaks, Wang Qiang does not hesitate to pay for it. I reminded me many times to no avail, but Wang Qiang thought: "She is my only daughter, I don't care who she hurts?" "I don't think I'm going to be able to agree with that, as a parent, we should teach our children to be independent, not indulgent.
This doting caused Wang Qiang's daughter to develop the habit of spending money. Faced with her complaints about living abroad, I couldn't help but wonder about this practice. Even when I happened to look through the chat records between Wang Qiang and his daughter, I learned that she frequently asked her father for money, claiming that she wanted to start a business and invest, which made me even more worried.
For the sake of the future, I tried to propose the notarization of prenuptial property, but Wang Qiang angrily objected. He thinks I don't trust him, and he is even more confused about the property issue between us. As much as I was embarrassed, I didn't want to keep going.
More than three months passed, and I found myself getting more and more dull in this marriage. Wang Qiang always sees accompanying his daughter as more important than anything else, and I am like a babysitter who pays silently. This made me wonder what marriage really meant. To make matters worse, we have little to no real life as a couple. I began to wonder if it was because we didn't know each other, or if Wang Qiang had lost interest in this area.
Right now, I'm troubled and don't know what to do. I wanted to have a good talk with Wang Qiang and find a solution to the problem, but I didn't dare to speak directly. I hope you can find some inspiration from my story, maybe you have a similar experience, welcome to leave your valuable comments and suggestions. This is not only my story, but a real problem for many people. Looking forward to sharing each other's hearts with you**.