Many people joke that the wedding "I will always love you, whether you are poor or rich" should be changed to "I will go against my nature and always love you", which profoundly reveals the complex nature of married life. In family life, intimacy and social contracts are intertwined, and it's hard to say what the secret is. However, if we understand the meaning of the word "against humanity," it can be of great help in how we treat each other.
Human nature is often selfish, and the ego must be the most important. And every self undergoes countless changes over time, for better or for worse. When you fall in love, your understanding of each other will also change with the change of time and space. Knowing this, we can understand how important it is to be a better person in an intimate relationship, and at the same time, we can understand that the other person's giving and tolerance is not taken for granted. This is the so-called "I", and in an intimate relationship, is an independent and attractive individual.
After intimacy, there is actually a social contract involved. The complexity of married life is that it involves the social roles of both parties, parenting responsibilities, the challenges and constraints of desire under monogamy, and coping with crises in a long life. If we do not develop a common goal in the process of getting along, form a similar worldview and values, reach a stable contractual relationship, and form a close community, then we will become extremely vulnerable in the dull "**" of long life.
To maintain yourself in your marriage, and at the same time understand and tolerate each other, you can communicate more with your partner, say what you want, don't hide it, so that you can get to know each other better. Leave some personal space for each other, don't keep clinging, everyone needs to have their own time and friends, so that they can do what they like. Find activities that you both enjoy to bond with, but don't forget your hobbies. Accept each other's differences, don't want to change, learn to adapt to differences, and find a balance to get along. Support the other person's dreams and goals, encourage them and let them know that you believe in them. Don't stumble when there is a conflict, learn to compromise and tolerate, and find a solution that is acceptable to both parties. Pay attention to your own growth, keep learning new things, make yourself more confident, and your marriage more vibrant. Marriage is a process of mutual growth and support, and only by trying to understand each other and maintaining a tolerant and grateful heart can we be happier.