We often say that men are more realistic than women. Men's reality stems from the fact that when they think about problems, they are closer to their actual needs and more pragmatic. When a man decides whether to maintain a long-term relationship with a woman, he must weigh the pros and cons (although he does not say it, he thinks about it in his heart).
In gender relations, men often need guidance, especially on the spiritual level. We always think that women are hypocritical and are guided, but after in-depth understanding of men, we know that men are more hypocritical than women, and they care more about face, self-esteem, confidence and other spiritual levels.
The reality of men is only based on their own needs. Women mostly take the needs of others as the starting point, as the saying goes: for children, how should I ......As a parent, how should I ......How should I ...... for homeLooking at real life, most of those with the spirit of sacrifice are women; Men are more selfish than women, acting more selfishly than women, and this trait seems to be engraved in the genes. However, among selfish men, there are also those who have the spirit of sacrifice (the result of acquired education), and among the women who have the spirit of dedication, there are also those who are relatively selfish (based on their own needs).
If both women and men think from the perspective of their own needs, there will be a situation of "plunder" and "competition" between men and women. Because under the patriarchal system, women are in the position of objects, and men are accustomed to regard themselves as subjects, and regard women as disposable and plunderable. Once the position of men and women changes, it will cause many men to be uncomfortable. After marriage, it is known that most of the gold, body, and spiritual will of women belong to men by default. The body belongs only to him (but the body of a man can belong to others?) ）。With a man's mind, he understands the actions of many men. What is it? Why be selfish? How realistic? How to weigh the pros and cons? Why do you put your own needs first?
So in the relationship between the sexes, where is the woman? should be the heroine and the position of spiritual leader, show your strength, and lead men, so that men are willing to follow.