Yishu said: "The love that really belongs to you will not make you miserable, the person who loves you will not make you suffer from gains and losses, some people will win the jackpot with one vote, and some people will become famous by writing a book. ”
Love, it's always so charming, so irresistible. But when this love befalls a family man, things get complicated. Especially when both sides are deeply involved, the battle between reason and emotion begins. Faced with this situation, how do we deal with it?
1. Stay rational and calmly analyze the love you want
We tend to get carried away with passion when love knocks on the door, but in this complex relationship, it is especially important to stay sane. We need to calmly analyze, is this relationship really what we want? Does it bring happiness to oneself?
Take the movie "Dream of the Covered Bridge" as an example, the heroine Francesca pays silently in the family, and her life is as plain as water. By chance, she met photographer Robert Kimkay, and the two quickly fell in love. In the face of this sudden love, Francesca did not rush blindly, but calmly analyzed his inner needs.
She is well aware of the risks and consequences she may face in this relationship, but in the end she chooses to be brave in the pursuit of true love. Although she was not with Robert in the end, she worked hard for her choice, and she also gained inner peace and satisfaction.
Therefore, when we are faced with the love of a family person, we must first think calmly and be clear about our needs and expectations. Don't be fooled by the passion of the moment, but analyze rationally whether the relationship is worth pursuing.
2. If a man does not divorce, it is a wrong love
In love, we always hope that the other person will give everything for us, including giving up the original family. However, when a man chooses not to divorce in the face of love, should we think that this is a false love?
Actually, there is no absolute answer to this question. Everyone's situation is different, and some men may choose not to divorce because of family responsibilities, children, etc.; Some men may be hesitant because of their cherishing of their family and their affection for their partner. Therefore, we cannot simply dismiss a man's non-divorce as a false love.
In the movie "Deadly Companion", the heroine Elizabeth meets and falls in love with the married male protagonist, James. However, James is hesitant in the face of love and is unwilling to give up his family for Elizabeth. This made Elizabeth feel bitter and disappointed. In the end, she chose to leave James and continue to find her own happiness.
When a man chooses not to divorce in the face of love, we need to think calmly about his motives and reasons. We need to reconsider the value and meaning of the relationship.
3. Don't wait, the person who can't give you the result
Love is beautiful, but it is also a process that requires giving and waiting. However, when we are faced with the love of a family man, we cannot wait indefinitely. We need to be clear about the facts: if a man can't give you a clear future and commitment, then you should consider cutting your losses in time and not allowing yourself to be caught up in endless waiting and pain.
In the movie Becoming Jane Austen, the heroine Jane meets and falls in love with the married male protagonist, Tom. However, Tom is unwilling to give up his family and responsibilities for Jane's sake. This made Jane feel bitter and disappointed. After a long wait and struggle, Jane finally chose to give up the relationship and continue to pursue her career and love. Her choices have given her more freedom and happiness.
When faced with the love of a family man, we can't wait indefinitely. We need to clarify a time node and bottom line, if he can't give you a clear future and commitment, then you should consider stopping losses in time and looking for your own happiness.
Falling in love with someone with a family is a journey destined to be full of twists and turns and bitterness. Even if his feelings for you are as deep as the sea, you must keep a clear head and a firm sanity. Because in this relationship, no matter how much you love each other, you can't change one fact: it has no future.
Love is beautiful, but not all love blossoms. Sometimes, we have to learn to stop losses in time, be brave enough to let go, and let those wrong feelings be a thing of the past.
This is not a denial of love, but a respect and protection of self-worth. We cannot sacrifice our dignity and future for the sake of impulses and fascination.
Only by being a person who is decisive can we go further and more steadily on the road of love. This is not a callous choice, but a sign of maturity and sanity.
We need to understand that true love is based on equality, respect and freedom. We can't lose the pursuit and expectation of true love because of temporary greed and reluctance.
Therefore, in the face of the feelings of family people, we must learn to let go.