Since its publication, the book "Emotional Intelligence", by Daniel Gorman, has revealed the important role of emotional intelligence in interpersonal communication and personal success in an easy-to-understand way. Emotional intelligence, unlike IQ in our traditional sense, focuses more on how we understand and manage our emotions, how to build good relationships with others, and how to achieve better outcomes in life. And one of the most overlooked but crucial aspects of all of this is to think for yourself before asking for someone else's opinion.
Why think to yourself before you ask for advice? This first and foremost involves a basic principle of interpersonal communication: respect. When we ask others for advice, we are actually seeking their knowledge and experience. However, if we blindly seek the opinions of others without thinking about it beforehand, then this act of soliciting opinions seems to lack sincerity and depth. Because we didn't show our own thinking and effort, we simply threw the problem to others. This is not only a waste of other people's time, but also an underestimation of one's own abilities.
The process of self-reflection is actually a process of self-awareness and self-improvement. Through thinking, we can understand the problem more deeply, analyze the situation more comprehensively, and grasp the key points more accurately. This kind of thinking not only helps us form our own opinions and judgments, but also helps us to be more clear about our own needs and goals when we ask others for advice. In this way, we can better absorb the opinions of others and better integrate them into our own thinking and decision-making.
In addition, self-reflection helps us build self-confidence. When we have formed our own opinions and judgments after in-depth thinking, and then ask others for advice, we will be more confident in expressing our own opinions and more relaxed in accepting feedback from others. This kind of self-confidence will not only make us more comfortable in interpersonal communication, but also make us more determined and resolute in life and work.
So, how do you think for yourself before asking for advice? First of all, we need to clarify the essence and key points of the problem. This requires a certain amount of analytical skills and critical thinking. Only when we have a deep understanding of the problem can we ensure that our thinking is relevant and valuable.
Second, we need to collect relevant information and materials. This can be achieved through a variety of means, such as reading, observing, investigating, etc. Only when we have enough information and materials can we ensure that our thinking is comprehensive and in-depth.
Next, we need to use our knowledge and experience to analyze and judge the problem and information. This requires us to have a certain amount of logical thinking and reasoning skills. Only when we are able to use our knowledge and experience to effectively analyze and judge issues and information can we ensure that our thinking is accurate and insightful.
Finally, we need to organize our own thoughts and judgments into clear opinions and suggestions. This requires us to have a certain level of expression and communication skills. It is only when we are able to articulate our opinions and suggestions clearly that we can ensure that others can understand and accept the results of our thinking.
Thinking for oneself before asking for advice is an act of being responsible for oneself and others. It not only improves our thinking ability and self-confidence, but also improves the effectiveness and quality of our interactions with others. Therefore, we should develop the habit of thinking for ourselves before asking for advice in our daily lives, and constantly improve our emotional intelligence and interpersonal skills.
At the same time, we need to recognize that self-reflection does not mean that we rely solely on our own judgment and ignore the opinions of others. Instead, self-thinking is about better absorbing and utilizing the opinions of others. When we have our own thinking and judgment, and then ask others for advice, we will be more clear about our own needs and goals, and we will also value the feedback and suggestions of others more. In this way, we can truly learn from each other's strengths and constantly improve our ability and level.
In conclusion, the book "Emotional Intelligence" reminds us that thinking for ourselves before asking for someone else's opinion is a very important manifestation of emotional intelligence. Through self-reflection, we can better understand problems, form our own opinions and judgments, and improve our self-confidence and interpersonal skills. At the same time, we also need to recognize that self-reflection is not an isolated act, but an attempt to better absorb and use the opinions of others. Only on this basis can we truly achieve effective communication, efficient decision-making and sustainable growth.
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Three Tips for Emotional Intelligence: This book contains 3 courses, 10 steps, and 41 methods to teach you to speak with high emotional intelligence in a measured manner, allowing you to praise, humor, and rejection.
Reverse Quotient: This book contains 3 lessons, 11 steps, and 53 methods. Stay calm at all times in social interactions, don't get angry, don't care, don't complain, and manage your emotions.
Financial Quotient: This book contains 3 courses, 9 steps, and 36 methods, which will make you the master of the world, able to speak, to do things, and to be a person.
The higher the emotional intelligence, the less likely you are to make the three "mistakes" when getting along with others. I hope you don't.
The content of these three books is not verbose at all, and they share cases and dry goods in a very down-to-earth way. Once you've read it, it's time to get started. Even children can pick up right away and learn the necessary speaking skills in life earlier.
The original price is 158 yuan. Now, you can buy three of these books for only $99. A meal of takeout, but you can learn hundreds of emotional intelligence cultivation skills, greatly improve your social skills, is still very cost-effective.
Where there are people, there is a need to deal with people, this is just needed, can not escape, there will be people in all aspects of our lives, and naturally we also need to deal with people, in this case, why not improve your ability to deal with people, become a high emotional intelligence of social masters?