In fact, the real source of your pain may not be the betrayal itself, but your long-term and severe mental internal friction.
We found that after knowing that her husband had betrayed her, she understood a lot of truths, and she would learn from her friends, and she also knew that she had to weigh the pros and cons, and she also knew that continuous internal friction would harm herself. But most people just can't let go of themselves, and they can't reconcile at all. Even sometimes you want to stay away, but sometimes you think, forget it, changing a man can't guarantee that he won't cheat.
So you want to forgive one moment, and the other you are afraid that if you easily forgive the other person, you will hurt yourself again. You don't know if the man you get along with every night is a human or a ghost, and you don't know how much of a dark side he has that you don't know, right? You find that you can't trust anyone, and at this stage, you tend to have the following 4 manifestations: The first is highly sensitive, you will over-interpret the man's behavior, including some words and deeds of the man's parents, relatives, and friends. An ordinary sentence may be interpreted by you as something else, and you may be tempted to guess what kind of mind the other person is hiding.
And then you go to the second stage, where your inner drama starts to get richer and richer, you like to be cranky, and you're going to be depressed, and you can't control your thoughts at all, right?
Third, you're confused. You don't know what you want, you don't know what you're doing. Even if you know what you want and you have a direction, but you haven't done anything yet, you will feel so tired. You are not motivated to do anything because you start to become less interested in everything around you.
Fourth, you are pessimistic, you have a negative attitude towards everything, including you and his future, even children.
Seeing this, maybe you know that your own performance is very consistent, then what I want to tell you is that you may be sick, you have no way to accept the betrayal, you never think that the betrayal will happen to you, but he just happened absurdly, so what should I do in this situation?
I can only say that it is very difficult to get out on your own, many people take 3 or 5 years, and some people can't even get out in a lifetime. You need to be active in self-help now, and you even need to seek professional counseling.
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